Catching up on this morning's posts after spending the day with a client. They're a FE college who have had their students absolutely screwed over with this ridiculous marking algorithm the Dept of Education has brought in. The college is in a deprived area, and as the algorithm is essentially based on your postcode, so many bright kids have been downgraded because they happen to live in a rough area. Absolutely heartbreaking seeing so many of the students burst into tears opening their results
I'm so sorry if I upset anyone with my bf post, absolutely not my intention at all. We had a rough start, horrible traumatic birth (ventouse, episiotomy without proper local anaesthetic...grim and part of the reason I ended up with severe PND/postnatal psychosis) and he wouldn't feed properly so we had to stay in hospital for nearly a week. The ward was so understaffed that there was no-one to support us, and the one breastfeeding consultant was on leave. I felt like such a failure and lived on 30 mins sleep a night between pumping and feeding for six weeks, until I had a total breakdown and tried to run away.
My partner stepped up and took on more feeds using expressed milk, so that I could at least get an hour or so of sleep at a time. My boy is still a terrible sleeper and a fusspot generally, must get it from me! I don't know why I was so obsessed with
having to breastfeed, ridiculous looking back. Part of it was being obsessed with losing weight and believing breastfeeding would help. Sad.
As long as baby is fed, that's all that matters. As women we've been conditioned to compete with each other over everything, even something as simple as feeding our babies, and I honestly believe it's because we like under this patriarchal bullshit where feeding a child is relegated to a 'women's issue', and women are expected to sacrifice everything, suffer in silence and just get on with it - so God forbid we should have a proper discussion about what's best for everyone's wellbeing and mental health.