congrats so much, you’re about to enter a new world of happiness and joy and the feeling of relief will not leave you for months, if ever. Every second job is a dud ime and I’m still in the honeymoon period at my current job so can assure you the joy is long lived!! Go and celebrate this weekend you deserve it!
but the important thing I wanted to say is -
duck that notice period. Tell them you’ll work til x date (Wednesday? Thursday? Friday if you fancy it) to do the best handover anyone’s ever seen and keep it sickly sweet and cute in the meeting but make it clear it’s a few days then after that it’s ttfn darlings. HR can give you a reference confirming you worked x - y (it’s standard now for them not to give detailed ones tbh, they can’t say anything bad, also you have no rights for the first 2 years anyway - a lot of startups have ditched the concept of probation altogether as you’re basically always in probation??). New job will be elated you can start immediately, jobs a goodun.
I’ve only done this once and HR were really pushing for me to stay at least the notice period but had a horrific bully of a manager and couldn’t bear it. I had said I’d spoken to my doctor (in reality it was my sponsor) and that we compared the impact the working environment had upon me was like a peanut allergy (another AA-ism) and so I’m not able to come back so idk if that spooked them? They tried to pull authority on the whole thing and suggest I wouldn’t get paid holiday or my pathetic bonus and I said what you coming to my flat Monday then to come get me yh? Which was both mildly aggressive and unprofessional enough that she just said erm okay I’ll email so and so and all further comms were via email thankfully. It was horrible, the atmosphere around these things is horrible and you’re the gossip fodder of the office and ppl obviously side with the
head staying so if you do go into a physical office make sure you are in a head space to deal with it and make sure you’ve got ur personal effects with you at all times so you can just yomp on out if the manager turns nasty in a meeting room or something. Also remember you’re an adult and can walk away from anything at any time. We forget we don’t need to be put through half the abusive conduct work places do to us (also too late now but I’m a huge advocate for the formal written complaint then the subsequent formal grievance
) also the weird authority structures make you forget that you’re a human with feelings who should walk away from abuse? This obviously isn’t official HR advice but just another woman who’s been there and fucked them off and never looked back!!
To freeeeedom
. I bought some bee earrings the other day, photo behind spoiler
which are very joyous and have held up very well (I PAID)
although totally not speaking to me after I sprayed the bottom of her foot again (there was a very undignified struggle and I ended up with her backside in my face as she attempted to push me back down the race) and gave her one more precautionary antibiotic injection because her foot still had a bit of a niff to it. Fingers crossed she'll be fine now for a good while.
