The sad reality that Asa can't comprehend as he's all caught up in " teaching Abbie " and " home schooling" is the simple fact he's NOT teaching her...he's RE-training her because they have trained her to be lazy, to never hear " no", they've never restricted, stopped, restrained or dealt with her bad behaviours for 17 years.
In fact they've done the complete opposite allowing Abbie to be lazy...they never allow her time to figure it out...they give her 3 seconds then hand over hand..and Abbie knows this routine...so she gives up, her hands go limp, she yells into her hand...and Asa takes over.
That's what he's taught her for 17 years ....so now he wants to teach her to be a server? To fold tshirts? To work in fast food???
That will NEVER happen. Abbie has been taught she can do what she wants and tantrums, yelling, hitting, pinching, hurting, walking away pushing...and screaming into her hand as she wets herself is acceptable behaviours.
Most places will not permit Abbie to participate as an adult who has no control of her bodily functions...it's a bio-hazard and will never be permitted around food ever.
Wake up Asa..... Create a real home for Abbie...give her resources, a sensory room, toys, get her into physiotherapy....be a good humane