Caught up with the tread and the epic train wreck saga that is EL.
I’m not a psychiatrist, but I do have BPD. It’s a horribly stigmatised illness that I hate revealing about myself to others because it’s so misunderstood too. Not everyone who has it is a psycho or unloveable. Sadly, it manifests after severe childhood trauma. That being said, it’s not a life sentence - I can attest to the fact that with therapy, time, and had work, you can effectively grow out of it. You can live a stable and successful life, You can be in a secure and healthy relationship.
EL definitely exhibits symptoms. The one that springs out to mind is the fear of abandonment. Her and alove probably lasted longer than they should’ve because she couldn’t be alone. The Aaron left us spiel also feeds into this too. She also has really unstable friendships that never seem to last past the obsession/infatuation stage, and are then never mentioned again likely because there was a falling out. That’s just a couple of examples and there’s certainly more. But again, we don’t know unless she shows us her medical records.
Having BPD isn’t someone’s fault, nor should people be judged for it. But it doesn’t excuse poor behaviour. No one asks to be mentally or physically unwell, but you invariably need to do something about it if you want to get better.
If EL did have bpd or any serious mental illness then I of course have empathy. But it doesn’t excuse her chronically disgusting behaviour. And she has three lives to be responsible for too. That’s just my two cents.