Lalla
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This is going to sound so trite but it will get better. You'll always miss her, but the grief gets a little less painful and a little easier to deal with as time passes. It will still hurt, but that unbearable pain will lessen, eventually, I promise.Not sure what to say other than I’m sending love to you all. I lost my mum 8 months ago aged just 53 to cancer. I’m still in denial and I just miss her so much.![]()
My mum died from cancer aged 54 in 1994. Honestly, I still miss her every day, but I'm almost used to the missing her part, I do still cry from time to time. She (and my dad, who died 3 years later) missed out on my children, seeing me establish a career, buy my own home. I'm so sad for them at what they missed, and for my children who lost out on 2 amazing people who would have been fantastic grandparents. I'm an only child too, and my grandparents died long ago, so I have no one who remembers stuff from my childhood. I've had a really good life in many ways but losing my parents young has cast a shadow over everything.
A few years ago a friend of mine died. We were best friends in our early 20s but drifted apart and I hadn't spoken to her in a very long time (nearly 20 years). I'd always planned to get back in touch eventually - I never felt good enough to be her friend (she seemed to have the perfect life - house in the country, adoring and v wealthy husband, children, pets etc) and I was waiting til I was thinner/richer/ happier/ had more to offer. Now I wish I hadn't wasted all that time. It's about 3 years since I found out and I still can't quite believe I'll never get to speak to her again. It's the regret which is hardest to deal with.