I really can’t stand the phrase “hard to get”. It is not a thing. Women don’t play “hard to get”, they’re just not interested. I really don’t get why anyone plays games or tactics with dating. You’re into it or you’re not, simple as that 
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A small amount adds to the fun. Someone offering themselves on a plate is usually why people aren’t interested.I really can’t stand the phrase “hard to get”. It is not a thing. Women don’t play “hard to get”, they’re just not interested. I really don’t get why anyone plays games or tactics with dating. You’re into it or you’re not, simple as that
Im not offering myself on a plate, I just don’t see the point in playing games. It’s extremely childish.
I think the original message could have easily been misunderstood. I think playing hard to get, is playing mind games, and I agree that it is childish, but I've also been put off by people who "offer themselves on a plate" - as in, come on way too strong way too quick and start planning our future together before we've even met
I've been told before to be wary of people who are full on very quickly, as they just tend to love bomb and then ghost, and I've experienced that. Now I'm always suspicious of someone who appears very keen from the start as I'm assuming it isn't genuine!
dating is HARD.
Oh right yeah I don’t mean people who want to get married after two messages. I just mean being upfront and to the point no messing anyone around.I think the original message could have easily been misunderstood. I think playing hard to get, is playing mind games, and I agree that it is childish, but I've also been put off by people who "offer themselves on a plate" - as in, come on way too strong way too quick and start planning our future together before we've even met
I've been told before to be wary of people who are full on very quickly, as they just tend to love bomb and then ghost, and I've experienced that. Now I'm always suspicious of someone who appears very keen from the start as I'm assuming it isn't genuine!
Completely agree with you, honesty is always the best policy, upfront and honest doesn't mean straight in there measuring them up for the wedding outfit! Just straightforward upfront expectations instead of fannying about
It’s not playing games, it’s having fun and a bit of banter. It’s not really that deep, i wouldn’t talk to them if I wasn’t interested and I only want to sit on their face.
Just to add I'm not there telling the poor guy I want his commitment after 2 dates, more that I'm interested and just being a bit blunt with it.I've read about this, I think it's called "truth bombing". As a result of the pandemic people are less inclined to play hard to get and they're truth bombing instead (thank you DM)
Definitely will not be asking him to marry me next week
. I think it's important to find out if they want something serious or just see it as a bit of fun (which is totally fine too) but I'm just wary of being messed around and thinking it's one thing when it's not.
@Clickbait this was amazing!
I have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg ) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!?
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
) to see if he had liked me and he had. I can’t decide if I should like him back or not - I think will but just need some encouragement! I’m worried he’s swiped by accident or something haha. And then what should my opening line be!? We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
Just go for itI have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
Just do it, what's the worst that could happen?I have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
duck me! I know we've discussed it before but if I see another effing profile with, "6ft because apparently that matters", then I'm going to go postal and smash a brick through my own window!
Babe, you paid 15 quid to see if he liked you or not....I think we all know where this is goingI have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
I hate the way they're all acting like this is a new thing. Everyone has preferences for physical features and its been a common thing about height for years/forever
Do it!!I have a dilemma.. I saw a boy I dated a few years ago on Bumble, he moved away but I assume he has moved back. I paid for bumble premium (£15 for a weeks worth omg
We had a lot of fun together but it didn’t end that well, he moved away, we argued and I accused him of messaging other girls (lol a bit psycho) but I know now we probably both had a lot of feelings we weren’t able to articulate.. We were quite young at the time.
That and "I have a daughter who is my world" why do you HAVE to say they are your world?? Obviously you love your kids. Even worse when they say "I have a daughter but you won't be her mum, she already has one" OK Kev, I don't wanna be a mum to your little brat
On the subject of kids I actually find it really uncomfortable when kids get plastered all over dating profiles. Kind of a "oh look at me and what a doting dad I am". I think kids should be kept private (as in their photos) and not online for 10s of women to swipe on each day. You can easily make it clear you have kids without pictures of them
YESSS! This “they will always come first” yeah I get that but it’s so off putting that they straight away putting you as second best, like I don’t want to be second best at all but us girls understand you have other priority’s in ya life.Do it!!
That and "I have a daughter who is my world" why do you HAVE to say they are your world?? Obviously you love your kids. Even worse when they say "I have a daughter but you won't be her mum, she already has one" OK Kev, I don't wanna be a mum to your little brat
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