What on earth is that excuse!! Omg patheticHmm..poor excuse!
What on earth is that excuse!! Omg patheticHmm..poor excuse!
Totally get this... some people arenāt great at texting? I wonder if you met it could be different? But donāt take my advice, Iām yet to meet up with ANYONE from a dating app - they always seem to put me off just before meetingI matched with a guy on bumble on Tuesday. Tbh I only swiped him because I could tell it was him from his pixelated photo in my ābeelineā Heās 5 years older than me (heās 40) with 2 young sons. He extended the match within an hour of us matching, so I had 2 days instead of 24 hours to send the first message! keen. Anyway, weāve only been messaging once a day and tbh Iām not bouncing off him conversation wise and itās kind of put me off that heās swapped his profile pic about 3 maybe 4 times. Whoās benefit is that for? To reel in other potential matches?! Ugh apps are like a cattle market. He sent me a message this morning telling me he was free tomorrow for a coffee, but Iām not feeling it. Anyone else get like this?!
I did think to give him the benefit of the doubt and that he might be easier to talk to in person. I know I said he was only five years older than me but Iām getting intense older guy vibesTotally get this... some people arenāt great at texting? I wonder if you met it could be different? But donāt take my advice, Iām yet to meet up with ANYONE from a dating app - they always seem to put me off just before meeting
I 100% feel your pain. I did buy a few months ago by myself though, I was sick of people saying "oh wait till you meet someone" - I've reached a point where I doubt I will actually meet anyone. I have up and down days, sometimes I am content but other days I really wish someone would be there to eat dinner with at night or go for a walk with. 4My fellow singletons: How are you coping with being the āsingle oneā?
At the moment it feels as though EVERYONE around is either pregnant, buying properties with their other half or getting engaged.
If itās not on Facebook (lol) itās over Instagram or itās on WhatsApp.
Donāt get me wrong I am so happy for people in this life phase including my friends and family members who are all of the above including two of them getting engaged this weekend but at the same time I am really struggling with it all.
In my friendship group I am the only single one, living with parents and itās just a bit disheartening especially when all that is discussed is boyfriends, babies, house, fiancĆ©s, wedding planning, double dates (which you get left out of and just see on social media) or you get asked whatās new when really whatās being implied is when are you going to find someone, or that there must be something wrong with you if you havenāt found someone yet.
I am starting to feel overwhelmed by it all and freaking out at the same time as it just feels like Iām stuck on this crap single ride i canāt get off and online dating is doing my head!
i know this feeling!! Iām just entering the āstageā of seeing pregnancies and marriage regularly on my feed. I get really down seeing pregnancies if Iām honest as Iāve only recently come out of my relationship where this was in our plans.My fellow singletons: How are you coping with being the āsingle oneā?
At the moment it feels as though EVERYONE around is either pregnant, buying properties with their other half or getting engaged.
If itās not on Facebook (lol) itās over Instagram or itās on WhatsApp.
Donāt get me wrong I am so happy for people in this life phase including my friends and family members who are all of the above including two of them getting engaged this weekend but at the same time I am really struggling with it all.
In my friendship group I am the only single one, living with parents and itās just a bit disheartening especially when all that is discussed is boyfriends, babies, house, fiancĆ©s, wedding planning, double dates (which you get left out of and just see on social media) or you get asked whatās new when really whatās being implied is when are you going to find someone, or that there must be something wrong with you if you havenāt found someone yet.
I am starting to feel overwhelmed by it all and freaking out at the same time as it just feels like Iām stuck on this crap single ride i canāt get off and online dating is doing my head!
Me I did it literally this morning. Although it wasnāt a first date, it was someone I was seeing a bit last year but then I got with someone else, that all went to tit during lockdown and this other lad has been lurking around in the background ever since waiting for me to become single again. Which is sort of off putting in itself..Has anyone ever had a bad gut feeling about going on a first date and cancelled? With no evidence of why you should be cautious, not first date anxiety but just a gut feeling telling you not to go?
Id say go with your gut. I must say though dating is bloody exhausting.Iām thinking of doing this, weāve had 3 dates but I canāt shake the feeling heās creepy and gives me an un easy feeling. I may be wrong but I have no idea and thinking I should just listen to my gut even if it may be wrong
Giving you all an update so he had sent the last 2 messages and I hadnāt replied. I think the last one was Saturday morning telling me he was free on bank hol mon to meet up. Heād at least stopped alternating his profile pic the last few days but then last night he sent me another message telling me he was coming off bumble and good luck in my quest.... I didnāt reply and that was half 11 last night. Iāve had a look this morning and heās unmatched me. this is why i go for men my own age. A little bit older and they all come across intenseI matched with a guy on bumble on Tuesday. Tbh I only swiped him because I could tell it was him from his pixelated photo in my ābeelineā Heās 5 years older than me (heās 40) with 2 young sons. He extended the match within an hour of us matching, so I had 2 days instead of 24 hours to send the first message! keen. Anyway, weāve only been messaging once a day and tbh Iām not bouncing off him conversation wise and itās kind of put me off that heās swapped his profile pic about 3 maybe 4 times. Whoās benefit is that for? To reel in other potential matches?! Ugh apps are like a cattle market. He sent me a message this morning telling me he was free tomorrow for a coffee, but Iām not feeling it. Anyone else get like this?!
Lol sounds like you're well rid!Giving you all an update so he had sent the last 2 messages and I hadnāt replied. I think the last one was Saturday morning telling me he was free on bank hol mon to meet up. Heād at least stopped alternating his profile pic the last few days but then last night he sent me another message telling me he was coming off bumble and good luck in my quest.... I didnāt reply and that was half 11 last night. Iāve had a look this morning and heās unmatched me. this is why i go for men my own age. A little bit older and they all come across intense
Doesn't dating make you guys just go crazy?! I said in this post we have been messaging daily but he has not replied to me for over a day now, and I had asked him a question. I know there are many reasons why - he's still on holiday - and it's not even that long but I can't help but feel crap. It's like walking on egg shells and no matter how hard you try not to get your hopes up or be mature, you just fall into this pit of uncertainty and self doubt.Guys, been online dating for almost 1.5 years now. Just before lockdown I got to about 3 months with someone I liked but he dumped me.
Then met someone else. Heās (so far) what Iāve been looking for. Heās had 3 meltdowns now where heās turned round and said heās not sure what he wants blah blah blah. The first two were early on (tbh I didnāt care as it was so early and I just expect the worst now) and then the third one was after about 2.5 months of dating (This really upset me). he didnāt dump me but said he needed time to work out what he wants and requested space. He proceeded to message me the most heās ever done and we met up the following week and something had definitely changed in him and heās been lovely. Itās been about another month but not seen him for almost 3 weeks due to overlapping travels. Been messaging daily though.
Ive not come this far with online dating. Ive stopped dating others as I want to focus on him and it didnāt feel right. We havenāt had a conversation About our status and where we are going. If Iām being honest, Iām scared to bring it up Due to his meltdowns and also in my gut I feel itās too early to have the convo. But Iāve missed him so much and I feel I need to bring it up. I donāt want to coast along aimlessly. Any help with the next steps?
i can feel he really likes me. he met my brother recently at a party and was lovely. in my gut I know any reservations he has are to do with commitment and not because heās not into me.
sorry for typos And rambly post. Iām on my iPad and hard to type!