A few of my pals have had this issue with men changing their mind after dating for a bit and deciding they are "not sure what I want". If he is being lovely thats nice, i think after a few months of dating it is acceptable to ask the "what are we" question, just to see where it is going and if he sees a future with you etc because otherwise are yo both wasting your time?
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Speaking from what feels like a lifetime of experience dating the wrong men, generally if you’re second guessing yourself or having to make excuses for their poor behaviour then you’re better off channelling your energy elsewhere! I’ve had all the excuses (Nan’s sick, mums sick, best mates dads hamster sick...) and after many years of putting myself through the pain of waiting for a text to appear on my phone and analysing every word, I finally realise that your time is precious and if they don’t see that and don’t want to make the effort then maybe they were never right for you!
No need to reply to my previous posts. I knew Instantly he had gone weird again when he didn’t reply the other day. lol and behold, he’s dumped me over whatsapp whilst he’s still on holiday
Don’t give him another chance to come back again and mess you around. He is not worth the hassle.
His loss, hun! Hope you’re okay x
I got engaged recently but was often the single girl in my group of friends before that. I didn't online date but I think this rule still applies to any man you meet that you're interested in:
If he's into you, you'll know. If he's not that into you, you'll be confused.
Remembering this and repeating it to myself has saved me a lot of trouble.
If he's into you, you'll know. If he's not that into you, you'll be confused.
Remembering this and repeating it to myself has saved me a lot of trouble.
Sorry to hear this! what was his reason/excuse?
Can completely relate to this. My close friendship group is 6 of us who all went to school together. They are all now in long term relationships and living with their partners. I on the other hand am still living at home - to compenstate I just bought a puppy... I win haha
It's all good. I've been absolutely fine. He said I'm not right for him, but am amazing and also h cannot gives me what I want.
I'm already back on it and have some dates lined up.
I was so close to getting a puppy this year but decided it's not the right time. I'm so jealous and you definitely win haha!
I matched with a guy this weekend, I was excited we matched he was my type, nice looking, good job etc. This was Bumble so I messaged first, he sent me a one sentence reply back to my first message which took 2 days, I tried again and after 5 hours he sent another one sentence reply, I sent something funny back and it took him until the next day to send me back another one sentence reply. So this time I replied "it's been lovely chatting to you, but it's clear I'm not getting anywhere here, I wish you lots of luck in finding what you're looking for" he then replied after 1 minute "what did you want me to say?" hahaha
- - > UNMATCH. Just don't reply mate if you don't want to talk to me, it's much easier!
Men are trash I’m sorryI matched with a guy this weekend, I was excited we matched he was my type, nice looking, good job etc. This was Bumble so I messaged first, he sent me a one sentence reply back to my first message which took 2 days, I tried again and after 5 hours he sent another one sentence reply, I sent something funny back and it took him until the next day to send me back another one sentence reply. So this time I replied "it's been lovely chatting to you, but it's clear I'm not getting anywhere here, I wish you lots of luck in finding what you're looking for" he then replied after 1 minute "what did you want me to say?" hahaha
I’ve lost my faith in men/dating for the foreseeable. It will take an amazing man to convince me otherwise.
I’m back on Tinder after a long while and I cannot tell you how bored I am of the same questions.
1. How are you?
2. Where are you from?
3. What do you like to do for fun?
4. What are you looking for?
By the time you get to question 4 they’ve shown they’re just looking for something casual/fun and you have to have the same conversation AGAIN with someone new. And repeat.
1. How are you?
2. Where are you from?
3. What do you like to do for fun?
4. What are you looking for?
By the time you get to question 4 they’ve shown they’re just looking for something casual/fun and you have to have the same conversation AGAIN with someone new. And repeat.
So he’s acted disengaged and disinterested and he’ll know he has. Then when you’ve called him out on it, he’s reached straight for the gaslight. Trying to make you feel silly for saying something and doubting what you can clearly see is happening. Classic narcissistSo this time I replied "it's been lovely chatting to you, but it's clear I'm not getting anywhere here, I wish you lots of luck in finding what you're looking for" he then replied after 1 minute "what did you want me to say?" hahaha
So this is slightly off topic but along a similar vein.. I’m meeting up with my ex next week. Socially distanced of course and thinking of going for a coffee. First time seeing him since the break-up. Was talking to a friend about it and I think I need to do it for closure. I’m absolutely sh*tting myself and I don’t know why, this is the man I was with for 4 years. Has anyone done this? Any tips?
How long has it been since you split up and do you still have feelings for him?
April so 4 months and I don’t know if I do. It’s hard to stop loving someone just all of a sudden. I’m aware of not pouring my feelings out on a plate when I see him but at the same time I don’t want to be cold. I don’t know, it’s all confusing. I’m rediscovering myself and I’m not prepared to get hurt twice.
I think it depends on the break up. Did you break up with him? Was there cheating or nastiness involved? You don’t have to go in with an objective lol but I can imagine you’ll be nervous x
He broke up with me and it was unexpected (on my side anyway). No nastiness just a lot of upset for me. Not sure how he feels as there’s been little contact apart from him arranging to see me, which in itself I’m trying not to overthink x
Personally I wouldn’t meet him at all. Keep moving forward.
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