It's quite soon and the hurt will still be quite raw when you see him, old feelings of familiarity and connection might come back. The entire Internet (
) doesn't recommend meeting him so soon, however I know how hard it is not to (I've done it), just be aware it might bring all the hurt you felt at the beginning flooding back and all the progress you've made might be halted until you recover again. Has he told you what he wants? xYeah part of me wants to bail, but I think he might be expecting that. I want to show him that I’m getting on with my life and remain civil. I’ve got a week to think about it anyway.
No, he hasn’t said. I’m really aware of feelings coming back and might take 2 steps back in my recovery, but I do feel strong enough to see him. I’m in a good place mentally even though it is soon. I’ve got a week to mull it over, so I’ll see how I feel as the week goes on xIt's quite soon and the hurt will still be quite raw when you see him, old feelings of familiarity and connection might come back. The entire Internet (
. If he asks for you back (!) or wants to see you again say you'll think it through and leave it as that as you say goodbye. Use this next week to really have a think about how you feel about him now and what you want for your future and whether you still see him in it because he may be having regrets about leaving now and that's why he's asked to meet without giving a reason (but don't get hopes up he may also have just left his courteeners CD on your bookshelf,
) let us know how you get on! xAw thank you for your words of wisdom! I’ll let you know how it goes. I’ve already got my outfit plannedAww well go for it if you think it's the right thing for you, look your best, be strong and talk only about how happy you are and all the new things you're into
haha xHmm this happened to me too. I think I remember you posting about this. They broke our hearts and feels like they’re creeping back in. I don’t know what to say, but guard your heart. Don’t let words phase you, it’s actions that will truly tell you what’s going on here. People can change, like you’ve upgraded yourself, focusing on you but he might not have done ANY work on himself (most guys won’t) so try to remember you’re worth so so much more than the way he treated you. Let us know how it goes though, try not to focus on getting closure, cos men often won’t give that in order to retain some control over the situation xxx
It went well, I was just so nervous. But when I saw him, my nerves just melted away. We had a few drinks and talked about our jobs, what we’d been up to etc. Didn’t talk about the break-up. On leaving he said I look really well and he’d like to see me again, so just left it at that. It was weird to be in his company again but I’m glad I’ve seen him to break the ice.
Oh my god?! Are we living the same life
I met up with my ex yesterday too!! Honestly, it was like we’d never been apart. As soon as I saw him we just clicked again. I spent 5 hours with him - we went for a walk along the river then I’d booked a table in a beer garden which we stayed at for 3 hours. The time flew by, we were just catching up, asking about our families/jobs/lives. We had a laugh actually, but we always made each other laugh. He said he would like to see me again and I would like to see him too, more or less to do the same thing. We both did a lot of hiking together so I think that could be an option for next time, whenever that may be. We didn’t talk about the break-up because I don’t feel ready to and I didn’t want to get upset. Yesterday was more about breaking the ice and seeing each other for me. It was a bonus that it went really well.Oh my god?! Are we living the same life
How did you feel seeing him? Did you feel the same as you did when you were with him? Or has it been kind of ruined because of what he did to you? Did he apologise or I guess you didn’t speak about the topic?
I met up with my ex to walk our dog (who I haven’t seen as he’s living with him) we walked for nearly 4 hours aimlessly talking, like we used to! We didn’t mention the break up either! In a way id like an apology which I’m sure I’d get if I brought up the topic but it’s a bit too early for me to bring up those emotions.
I think for both of us, we need to protect ourselves from these men. Remind ourselves we are happy single too. We don’t NEED them at all but if they can make up and show change, there might be a chance that WE will see them again. I believe relationships go through changes and a pandemic was not an easy task to get through but I will reserve so much of myself by even entertaining the idea of being a friend to him right now. As much as I still love him deep down.
Let me know how you feel!! It’s nice to have someone in the same boat (tho I’m sorry you had to go through what you did because I REALLY understand how hard it must have been!) xx
xNot much flirting but he kept complimenting me (I’ve recently gone blonde and been going to gym 3x a week) saying I look great. I will mention it next time for sure, I just was aware of my emotions the first time seeing him, and I really didn’t want to have the first time seeing him being all about me getting upset. But now I’ve seen him I feel more able to talk about it. Who knows what will happen, I’m keeping my guard up and protecting myself. But there’s definitely no hate there.
The ball is really in your court. If he wants you back, make him work for it. Good luck x
Why is it so hard to get a one word answer spelt correctly?
I think he means “honesty” fucksake.
He wasn’t bad looking, either compared to the majority on there. I’m by no means perfect, so I need to being critical otherwise I’ll be forever single.We must be quite close geographically because I've seen that profile and that spelling mistake made me swipe left too
There’s some value in not being too critical but I do side eye spelling mistakes in dating profiles. Surely you read over them once or twice, maybe get a friend to as well? Perhaps you could give him some ‘honestly’ and correct the spelling?
Eyeroll, I bet if leave it he’ll say something
