Dating after Lockdown

[LaurieLaurie]

It was a just a harmless question in relation to something he’d said in a previous message.

Thanks for all the replies everyone; I think I know deep down I should just leave it, I’m just a bit gutted haha. I don’t even want to engage with my other matches or talk to anyone else! (I’m aware I just need a slap lol). I have had guys come back and start the chat again after I’ve gone cold and a lot of time has passed so I was wondering whether that’s something any of you have done/would do but I think the answer is to move on!

How long has it been?
I don’t mean this to sound harsh but people have lives too and aren’t always on their phone for quick replies. If it was only yesterday see if he pops up today but leave it otherwise.

 

[alwayslurkin]

@doodlebug I'm in a similiar position at the moment! I have decided to leave it see if he pops up as I know he is often busy over the weekends while I have more time

Although, I'm not that bothered if he doesn't. Yeah bit disappointed as he is good chat, but I'm not too invested in it either

 

[misscl4]

I am speaking to someone who I am sure is not single, cuts off calls, being overly forward but not wanting to meet, gaslights when I ask more, I wouldn’t normally continue but part of me wants to find out and tell his partner, is this bad?

I am also talking to two nice normal guys with good chat.

Also, is anyone else sick if seeing the phrase ‘doesn’t take life too seriously’ there’s being chilled and there’s being a t***, the ones that put this seem to very immature.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

I wouldn’t worry too much... I know we are in a lockdown and there’s not much to do on a weekend, but for me, they have gone off the radar over a Saturday and Sunday and then messaged again during the week.

 

[alwayslurkin]

I wouldn’t worry too much... I know we are in a lockdown and there’s not much to do on a weekend, but for me, they have gone off the radar over a Saturday and Sunday and then messaged again during the week.

Yeah I get this, too... But weird as well though how many people are like this

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

Yeah I get this, too... But weird as well though how many people are like this

Sorry girls I find it weirder that they’re silent over the weekend?? During the week I get it work etc! X

 

[alwayslurkin]

Sorry girls I find it weirder that they’re silent over the weekend?? During the week I get it work etc! X

Sorry that is what I meant so many people are busy over weekend

 

[Wowitsme]

Tbh I’d be super suspicious of someone who goes from super chatty in the week to mia the weekend. You don’t question a mans actions when he is interested in you because you will know and he will show it.

 

[alwayslurkin]

Tbh I’d be super suspicious of someone who goes from super chatty in the week to mia the weekend. You don’t question a mans actions when he is interested in you because you will know and he will show it.

Exactly why I'm not invested or chasing as it is very sus but I'm also bored in lockdown... Not planning on meeting him

 

[misscl4]

I feel like there needs to be a reference of profiles for dodgy men online that have been found out

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

now I’m paranoid blokes that have been quiet on a weekend have been living different lives.

 

[sleepflowers]

I feel like there needs to be a reference of profiles for dodgy men online that have been found out

Absolutely. I saw a Guardian article arguing for an open register of men who have a history of being violent about women, harassing them, stalking them etc. That would be a hell of a lot more useful than plain clothes police in clubs

 

[alwayslurkin]

now I’m paranoid blokes that have been quiet on a weekend have been living different lives.

Depends on why they go quiet some people do work on weekends or whatever

 

[Wowitsme]

Depends on why they go quiet some people do work on weekends or whatever

There is this too obviously each circumstance is individual but if they are working etc it’s different. I’m talking generally.

 

[misscl4]

I usually check them out on social media, if they get funny when you ask then that can be a red flag

 

[alwayslurkin]

I don't have social media... Like at all. What would you think of that if someone said that to you?

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

I don't have social media... Like at all. What would you think of that if someone said that to you?

Ngl a guy said that to me once and was like I only have WhatsApp i unmatched

social media/ no social media is a line that’s really hard.

Partly as I find it weird/shady/questionable when guys say that they don’t have any social media. This is because I assume they’re married etc. However, it probably isn’t a problem, but just explain to them if they question it.

 

[LaurieLaurie]

If they only talk during work hours then that’s obviously a bit suspicious but you quickly learn people’s rough routine.

99.9% of my friends are lads and they spend their weekends pissing around with cars or on a Friday night they will all join the same live game on Xbox (late 20/ early 30s) so it’s not unheard of for them to drop off the radar. As stuff opens up and we all start to socialise it’s only natural that they might have less time to text.

 

[misscl4]

I don't have social media... Like at all. What would you think of that if someone said that to you?

I can understand that ... friends and family say it’s a red flag, I would probably be put off to be honest and yes that might be OTT

 

[alwayslurkin]

I don't have social media for several reasons... But mainly just like a private life. On the other hand, I'm very open in terms of chatting and meeting up (usually, depends on the vibe of the guy) so I think that is how I get away with it.

It is something I quickly forgive from guys but if they don't want to meet me for no good reason then it seems like hiding something