Life is too short to be with someone who doesn't make you laugh isn't it?Haha you'd think it would be a mutual feeling but I swear men can be so oblivious!But it does seem that the communication really isn't working here - speaking to someone should feel exciting and lighthearted! Not dreading that he's going to respond negatively to everything.
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I think you've done all that you could have - you apologised and offered to make it up to him.
Personally, I would just leave it for now and maybe reach out to him once you have moved to see if he's up for grabbing a drink. In the mean time, if he gets over the situation and would like to see you, he can reach out to you as well. But I don't think you should be chasing him.
Yeah like if he was being threatening I can understand blocking but to vanish without a trace just because we don't seem to gel seems a bit harsh.Nah I would advise also not to block or ghost that’s quite harsh and I would say only use it in extreme circumstances.
He clearly has trust issues he’d prob make sure you was were you say you are at all times tooyeah I think you should draw a line with this one. I know it’s so cliche but you deffo know when it’s the right person this one does not sound like it also you want someone you can be lighthearted and jokey with, he doesn’t seem to have a jokey bone in his body
she apologised I believe but then there no further update
He does seem to have trust issues and I don't see why. We barely knew each other and I didn't give him any reason to doubt me, I was just feeling unwell that day and suggested another day
I did think he had a right to be annoyed but him needing a “fair amount of time” to get over it seems a bit OTT to me! I mean, you were only late and apologised. You didn’t kill his cat! So in that respect it kind of sounds like this prolonged time to forgive is a bit of an excuse.
I agree, this guy is MILKING it. You didn't shag his best mate!
Oh gosh, reading everyone’s experiences and this just came up on my tiktok 
seems like a very accurate description of dating nowadays
seems like a very accurate description of dating nowadays He told me he had a tough day as he's going through a disciplinary at work for alleged bullying. I'm not sure why this doesn't surprise me. He has no idea how he really comes across...Yeah like if he was being threatening I can understand blocking but to vanish without a trace just because we don't seem to gel seems a bit harsh.
He does seem to have trust issues and I don't see why. We barely knew each other and I didn't give him any reason to doubt me, I was just feeling unwell that day and suggested another day
@HelloStereo You’ve tried with this one, too hard I think. Just one of his huffs and I would have been gone, it’s not supposed to be a battle
You can’t go wrong with a short and sweet ‘This isn’t working out for me, I hope you find what you’re looking for.’ text. You have to then remove him or you’ll probably get dragged into further conversation.
You can’t go wrong with a short and sweet ‘This isn’t working out for me, I hope you find what you’re looking for.’ text. You have to then remove him or you’ll probably get dragged into further conversation.
Wow if this doesn't set off alarm bells with you then I'm worried
you need to ditch him! Like everyone else has said, he sounds difficult AF.Mine has insecurities and they never go away, I’m in too deep to give up on him completely but if anyone else showed me any sign of them I would be gone.
But didn't you say you ditched him?
exactly this!!!!Wow if this doesn't set off alarm bells with you then I'm worried
I’m distancing from him and taking a bit of a mental break to think about what I want to do but as far as he is concerned we are fine. He knows I have these wobbles but he reassures me, I think my heads just up my arse atm and that’s the first thing I cut back from.
I usually follow along with this thread as I deleted my dating apps so had nothing to contribute but just gonna jump in now 
I dunno if it's the men in my area (judging by the other posts, it's not!) but the amount of timewasters was something else. I didn't really have time to spend hours swiping through the apps and messaging (didn't want to either) but felt every single interaction I had to be a certain level of interesting, chill, breezy, not too serious but also intriguing... you know? I never felt like I was being myself with these guys and was being judged at every opportunity. Even the guys who seemed promising turned out to be bleeping weird, like calling me up at 2am after having a drink or tracking me down on social media.
So I've deleted the apps in the hope of meeting someone organically or through a friend now that things are opening up again but who knows. I think the last year has made me realise I'm actually doing fine by myself and I really value my own space and having time for hobbies and friends without dragging a man along.
I dunno if it's the men in my area (judging by the other posts, it's not!) but the amount of timewasters was something else. I didn't really have time to spend hours swiping through the apps and messaging (didn't want to either) but felt every single interaction I had to be a certain level of interesting, chill, breezy, not too serious but also intriguing... you know? I never felt like I was being myself with these guys and was being judged at every opportunity. Even the guys who seemed promising turned out to be bleeping weird, like calling me up at 2am after having a drink or tracking me down on social media.
So I've deleted the apps in the hope of meeting someone organically or through a friend now that things are opening up again but who knows. I think the last year has made me realise I'm actually doing fine by myself and I really value my own space and having time for hobbies and friends without dragging a man along.
Lol yes Thunderfook -> Professor Farnsworth -> Roger Smith. Exact same style of writing!I thought that was the roger person same style of writing etc
Actually @Professor Farnsworth is the person cos this person has twice mixed me up with someone who she has called miss perfect twice @LaurieLaurie
And the last time she messaged she was told
Off for putting pics up of profilesthen a new account posting about her womb again
Anywhoo my detective skills are needed elsewhere
Completely agreed, I find the apps and talking to people such hard work at the moment I have given up swiping. Was texting someone last week to meet up this week and he literally blocked me mid convo after he sent the last message!I usually follow along with this thread as I deleted my dating apps so had nothing to contribute but just gonna jump in now
I dunno if it's the men in my area (judging by the other posts, it's not!) but the amount of timewasters was something else. I didn't really have time to spend hours swiping through the apps and messaging (didn't want to either) but felt every single interaction I had to be a certain level of interesting, chill, breezy, not too serious but also intriguing... you know? I never felt like I was being myself with these guys and was being judged at every opportunity. Even the guys who seemed promising turned out to be bleeping weird, like calling me up at 2am after having a drink or tracking me down on social media.
So I've deleted the apps in the hope of meeting someone organically or through a friend now that things are opening up again but who knows. I think the last year has made me realise I'm actually doing fine by myself and I really value my own space and having time for hobbies and friends without dragging a man along.
Lol yes Thunderfook -> Professor Farnsworth -> Roger Smith. Exact same style of writing!
I know but I'm invested for the gossip on these allegations nowPlease end things with this man
It really does. I'm not sure if he is unaware of how he comes across but him being accused of being a bully does not surprise me at all.Wow if this doesn't set off alarm bells with you then I'm worried
You're right, every day feels like a bit of a struggle communicating with him. I'm always quite self doubting and thought it must have just been the way I took things and perhaps I was overreacting etc. But if he's accused of bullying maybe it's not just me who has these feelings around him.
I've blocked someone because he kept swearing at me after I told him I didn't like it.
They disappear and a new account is made in days
I can’t decide if they think we’re not very intelligent, or if they think they’re doing a better job of covering their tracks than they actually are.They disappear and a new account is made in days
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