No, he’s a Londoner like me. Lives 10 minutes away. Which is a proper result! Don’t worry I did that too for said Tinder ‘king of c**ts’ below! He has no name, just ‘fat KOC’!
Have a great timeThank you
Sorry the last one make you feel so bad, I’ve almost been there too but not quite so severe
@thunderfook
then another with his hair cut (looks the same to me tbh) and I know it sounds ridiculous but I’m just like I wish you didn’t now. 
My friends think I’m being petty
I'm the same but it makes me think they're not the one if I can nit pick at things and it instantly puts me offMy friends think I’m being petty
Clearly he’s after a money-grabbing hor!
Sorry but for me, a 46 year old who’s never been married or had kids is a massive red flag. No one is that ‘busy’, or ‘unlucky, they’re commitment phobic! You’re so young, why waste your life on some old codger (when you’re 40 and still feeling fabulous, he’ll be pushing 60). Experience life first. I don’t know you, but I can guarantee you deserve a lot better.@thunderfook
Its.. 18 years. Ok I felt sick writing that because it’s a bit mad. My mum and I spoke about it all yesterday and she wants someone who will treat me well despite age. I was so confused thought she’d go mental but I also omitted 6 years off him lol. He has No kids no ex wife, own home “ready to settle” so it seems and I kinda just wanna fast forward and settle down.
But... I spoke too soon as I’ve got the ick. He sent me a selfie whilst I was out with my friends yesterday and he had a lil bit of food in his beard
that was honestly my face
He had some proper horror stories from his first fore on Tinder. Drig addicts, thrice married, with 4 kids and still with third husband, escorts etc. Poor guy. It did make me think that for ever A hole man, there is certainly another A hole woman!
Would you say the same if it was a woman in that position? I'm in my late 30s and in exactly this situation and I do think it's down to a number of things; travelling, not wanting to settle down/have kids in my 20s and also some bad luck in the guys that I've been in relationships with. Absolutely not from being afraid of commitment.
Not at all. A lot of men are actually afraid of commitment…isn’t that what this thread is all about (how many are looking for just fun!). As they say women control sex, men control relationships, hence many women our sort of age do still struggle to find good men. I know loads of guys who’ve let ‘the one’ pass them by through fear. With men they think they’ll always have opportunities and their fertility doesn’t stop like ours, so the pressure isn’t there as much! And I also found myself divorced in my late 30s, with no kids and I’m fine with that. If I could have kids in my 50s, I’d also be ready by then! My comment was purely directed at @realhousewivewannabe because she is young and if I were 28 again, I’d reach for the stars! Apologies, it was probably a bit too much of a generalisation and I don’t wish to upset anyone.
Ah man, did he report it?
Yeah it was very generalised because there are many reasons why people of all genders are unmarried or childless at any age. I suppose you didn't state 46 year old MEN, just 46 year olds, but also further referenced that for every asshole man there is an asshole woman so it seemed to be aimed across the board. So I did take it a bit personally, I'll be honest.Not at all. A lot of men are actually afraid of commitment…isn’t that what this thread is all about (how many are looking for just fun!). As they say women control sex, men control relationships, hence many women our sort of age do still struggle to find good men. I know loads of guys who’ve let ‘the one’ pass them by through fear. With men they think they’ll always have opportunities and their fertility doesn’t stop like ours, so the pressure isn’t there as much! And I also found myself divorced in my late 30s, with no kids and I’m fine with that. If I could have kids in my 50s, I’d also be ready by then! My comment was purely directed at @realhousewivewannabe because she is young and if I were 28 again, I’d reach for the stars! Apologies, it was probably a bit too much of a generalisation and I don’t wish to upset anyone.
whether it's related to dating or otherwise.I’m really sorry, you’re right. I should have chosen my words better! I meant the A hole type like @LaurieLaurie mentioned - i.e. thieves, escorts, married women having affairs etc. It is clear than all of the women on here are decent and worthy of the best. And I applaud women for not having kids with the wrong person, that takes more courage. Divorce really isn’t a badge of honour and I left a loving and solid marriage of 13 years because I didn’t want children, then wasted my remaining fertile years on a man who didn’t want me and have had nothing but judgement ever since, so I do get it. Trust me, I by no means have it figured out. I guess I also get really riled by guys who can do what they want and still have kids and lovely young girlfriends/wives in their old age. It’s so unfair.Yeah it was very generalised because there are many reasons why people of all genders are unmarried or childless at any age. I suppose you didn't state 46 year old MEN, just 46 year olds, but also further referenced that for every asshole man there is an asshole woman so it seemed to be aimed across the board. So I did take it a bit personally, I'll be honest.
I just think that noone knows what anyone has gone through in life and why they are where they are at this point in time. More and more people are choosing to be in relationships and not to get married. More again are unfortunately experiencing fertility issues etc. For all of the equality talk, live and let live, etc, I think if we are still judging people on the box-ticking exercise of kids/married/house/career then we really haven't come as far as we'd like to think we have. A blanket statement of 'if you are X years of age and haven't achieved Y then there must be something wrong with you' is just
It's certainly a balancing act for us all and it is really unfair, especially when you see dickheads seemingly having it all. I guess we're all strong characters here which is great and sure no harm in us talking it out and trying to see others perspectives.
This is so true, and something I definitely face as a terminally single woman in my late 20s! Especially now the majority of my friends are either in settled long term relationships/engaged/married, and doing things like buying houses together, getting pets, planning kids. My mum is definitely thinking there's something wrong with me, but there are so many reasons why I've ended up in this situation: my personality, my own health issues, where I've worked, how and where I was brought up.Yeah it was very generalised because there are many reasons why people of all genders are unmarried or childless at any age. I suppose you didn't state 46 year old MEN, just 46 year olds, but also further referenced that for every asshole man there is an asshole woman so it seemed to be aimed across the board. So I did take it a bit personally, I'll be honest.
I just think that noone knows what anyone has gone through in life and why they are where they are at this point in time. More and more people are choosing to be in relationships and not to get married. More again are unfortunately experiencing fertility issues etc. For all of the equality talk, live and let live, etc, I think if we are still judging people on the box-ticking exercise of kids/married/house/career then we really haven't come as far as we'd like to think we have. A blanket statement of 'if you are X years of age and haven't achieved Y then there must be something wrong with you' is just
I have a friend who is 29 and she is just stunning and lovely, she makes me seethe with envy of her youth and impeccable beauty (but I love her still) and yet she has exactly the same issues with meeting someone and all the ‘(un)helpful’ comments! To me, I don’t get it at all. She’s exactly what a man should want. It just goes to show that none of us have the secret formula.
Not to blow my own trumpet, but that sounds like me too
So many people are shocked about it when I tell them the truth. I think there are more of us than people think, but of course the shame from society mentioned above means as women we hide it.I would have thought guys would be over the moon at an inexperienced woman. They certainly cannot handle a woman who’s had more than their perceived ‘acceptable’ amount of partners!Not to blow my own trumpet, but that sounds like me too
If I met the male version of me, inexperienced but sorted in every other area of life, I don't think I'd judge him either as long as he was a genuinely good person too. So much of love really is just luck. However...with most men, you can usually tell why they've been single forever!!
