Dating after lockdown #4 The bar for men is so low it's in hell

[freaknasty]

I had a terrible experience the other day.

I had sex with someone and when he pulled out he walked over to his laundry hamper to ejaculate into it.

I am retiring from the dating lifestyle now.

 

[Fourcandles]

Honestly mate, if you can’t even spell your own name I don’t know how well it’s going to go…

 

[HelloStereo]

What a catch.

 

[thunderfook]

Me too! I’m thinking though, surely smaller feet would make his dick look bigger?!



I you for this. No wonder you don’t use Tinder

Haha, Tinder to me is like becoming an escort!

Newsflash: I’ve started chatting to the nicest guy ever. I don’t want to talk too soon, but my God he’s literally too good for dating apps. 41, fit, well groomed, dresses nicely in his pictures, no kids, wants a true partnership and is cool about me not wanting kids. He told me that intelligent conversation is his biggest turn on and he loves strong women and that respect and good morals are really important. We chatted for two hours last night and it was like two peas in a pod mentally. We’re meeting on Wednesday (my first date in two years! ). Fingers crossed!

 

[HelloStereo]

I have a date tomorrow. Some of you might remember in the last thread I had a date with a guy who said "I'm not feeling this" and left me alone in a pub to finish my drink . Beforehand he was way less chatty and I said I was looking forward to it and he left me on read for a day and only text on the day of the date to say where he was. Before when we were arranging he left it to me and had very little enthusiasm. When I suggested places I had researched he just said 'they all look good, you choose".

This one is way different. He booked already and phoned to make sure the booking was confirmed. And he has still been chatty today and was the one to say he was really looking forward to it etc. I hope it goes well. He seems a lot nicer at least!

 

[HelloStereo]

Does anyone have any truly horrific dating stories or is there a thread / do we have to make one?

I think the worst date I've ever been on was in my early twenties. The guy met me at a coffee shop (agreed before the date). I ordered a coffee and asked if he wanted anything and he said he didn't drink coffee so no. Went on a walk and he spat on the floor but it was still attached to his lip and when it finally dislodged it landed on my shoe.

We were meant to see a film but he said the showing had been "cancelled" because not enough people booked. I naively went to his house where he heated a frozen pizza for me. He sat and watched me eat it and I asked if he was having any and he said "no thanks, those pizzas are disgusting I'm just glad to get rid of it". And then he tried to kiss me but I knocked him back so he pretended he had a friend emergency . Does anyone else have stories like those?

 

[Mooordgirl]

Hi everyone, just looking for some advice! Soo, I was dating a guy before Christmas I met through a mutual friend. I was warned he came with a reputation as a player and cheated on his ex wife, but I figured people can change. We really hit it off so much so things moved really fast and within 2 weeks I had practically moved in (he was in my bubble and lives quite far away so it made sense). First week in jan he rings me up and ends it abruptly, no warning no nothing just a harsh “this isn’t working for me”. I was absolutely gutted, and it took me a while to get over how cold he was towards me. I suspect someone else had caught his eye but no real info on that so I just accepted what he said and was amicable. Anyway, I joined match.com a couple months ago, which he is on too (he’s viewed my profile several times) and I’ve had a couple of dates (1 liked, 1 I didn’t) but as you know it’s slim pickings on there over 40 (I’m 42) . He’s constantly on there and I’m so tempted to like his profile and see what response I get...stupid I know but there isn’t honestly anyone else on there that seems ok!
Not sure what to do

Ignore him!!

 

[sleepflowers]

I can't believe there are people out there who like someone and that person likes them back then they get into a relationship...an alien concept to me

 

[aimz_yeah]

I don't find sex that interesting to talk about with guys I've not even met. Plus it often becomes all they want to talk about which is tedious and makes me feel I am literally just a body to them and they have no interest in me.

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

Gang I have news. My detective skills didn’t fail me today. Although i clearly forgot to use them previously this week. So it turns out the man who ghosted and blocked me this week in the middle of texting. Is.... married (to a woman in Canada makes sense) and has a teenage daughter he failed to disclose. You may not be religious but rejection sometimes is gods protection! Holy hell!!!!

Im also sat here absolutely shaking because i could have ended up on a date with a whole f******* married man

 

[sleepflowers]

Really useful pic there, thanks

 

[jawidjanqndn]

if one more grown man asks for my snapchat instead of my whatsapp i think i’m gonna give up dating for life.

 

[HelloStereo]

Date update. It went well I think. We went to a games bar in Peckham and I comprehensively beat him at Tekken. We did kiss a bit too.100% better than the last date and he makes me laugh, we had a natural easiness on the date and it was a lot of fun. I laughed a lot and it was generally just really nice.

 

[Woolmercardington]

Ew! Ew! Ew!

Just swiping (left) on Tinder on my way to work when I land on a profile that I thought had super-liked me. He was pretty yucky looking, tbh. I looked closer and he'd actually sent me a swipe-note, which is a new one on me. Maybe new feature or for paid members. Anyway, I opened the note!

 

[ThreeSteaksPam]

I’d echo what some of the others have said about making grandiose plans for the future and meeting parents two dates in. You don’t even know each other at that point. In my experience, it’s a manipulation tactic - planting seeds in your head about what a future would be like with him, then him pulling back completely and leaving you wondering what’s changed. It’s a way of keeping you on the back foot, bread crumbing you with talk of commitment then acting in a way that completely contradicts what he’s said. It’s just confusing and breeds anxiety.

 

[Woolmercardington]

Came across this on a blog. Didn't save the author's name but it's basically about the whole texting/WhatsApp issue.

When you meet a new guy, either in person or online, you’ve got to imagine a tennis court with two people on either side and a ball going back and forth.

Back and forth is the only way. You serve, he returns your ball. You send it back to him, he sends it back to you, and so it goes on. If he does not return the ball to your court, you do not serve again. There is only one ball in this game. If that ball doesn’t come back to you, you wait. Still not coming? He’s on another court. Move on. Don’t ask him where the court is or what he’s doing on it – he doesn’t want to play with you, and that’s all you need to know.

And yet all the time I see the women sending that ball over, then sending another and then another, and then asking, why doesn’t he answer? Was it something I said? What’s his problem? And then taking their communication apart word for word in an attempt to decipher its hidden message.

There’s no hidden message – he doesn’t want to play ball with you. It’s much simpler than we believe.

We sit there over-analysing, picking things apart, second-guessing: what is he doing? Why is he online and not answering me? Who else is he talking to? When none of this matters. It’s irrelevant. Despite all this technology which (for better or for worse) keeps us connected 24/7 some things have stayed the same: if the boy likes the girl he will go and get her. And that’s the long and the short of it.

 

[Guccigal]

Hi guys I posted in the last thread about a shitty guy who was giving mixed signals, turns out he was chatting to another girl and I found out they started going out via his IG stories lol. But just wanted to come back and say not to give up hope with finding a lovely guy or gal.

I met a gorgeous guy on hinge at the start of may who had been on the app for 4 days and hated it, we matched on the day he was about to delete it and we have been inseparable since and made it official last week.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned dating on apps/irl for the last 3 years, it’s you’ll never have to question whether someone’s into you if they genuinely are. If anything ever feels wrong in your gut or they’re not putting in the effort you deserve to get to know you, then unfortunately they’re just not interested and are most likely weighing up their options - so kick em to the curb straight! Take care xxx

 

[Thank(space)you]

And today on creepy profiles I present to you, Adam

 

[Thank(space)you]

Is it me or this a really weird thing for him to say?

 

[Woolmercardington]

Think I may heave. His photo looked like a worm in a baseball cap!