I swiped left on this fella. Just been swiping again and he’s made a new account (why else would he show up again when I swiped left?!) but he’s taken the foot massage part out
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Don't know if I'm overthinking it. I text him after and he replied and then this morning he read something and hasn't responded.
I don't know if I'm reading too much into things or if it means he is not interested. We had a really good time I thought and he did kiss me more than once. Just seemed like I was the one making the effort with the chat after and this morning.
For me personally, I'd rather let them initiate the after-date texting. Helps me better judge their level of interest. If it were me, I wouldn't text him further. He knows you're interested, so let him make the effort now.Don't know if I'm overthinking it. I text him after and he replied and then this morning he read something and hasn't responded.
I don't know if I'm reading too much into things or if it means he is not interested. We had a really good time I thought and he did kiss me more than once. Just seemed like I was the one making the effort with the chat after and this morning.
Of course. I asked if he got his food last night and we exchanged a few messages after
You had to change the sheets? Wow, good girl!It’s from a Charles Bukowski poem.
Can I just brag that I had the best sex I’ve had in a good while last night. You know when you’re changing your sheets at 2am you’ve had fun.
Sorry, I don’t talk about my sex life to anybody else
I did a bit of digging on the algorithm and process of Bumble, Tinder and Hinge because a lot of weird tit was happening and I knew I wasn’t just mental. Here’s something’s that I learnt:I swiped left on this fella. Just been swiping again and he’s made a new account (why else would he show up again when I swiped left?!) but he’s taken the foot massage part out
1. If a person has swiped right on you and you have swiped left, their profile will appear once more to give you a ‘second chance’!
2. If you swiped right (or vice versa) on a person and then delete and re-activate your account, you will match with that person again and again - this may explain why that pesky person doesn’t reply!
3. On average if a person does not respond to your message within 4 hours, it is likely they never will. This is especially true if the match falls on them and you have sent the first message within that time frame.
4. People who match with you late at night are least likely to respond to your message if you send it the next day (regardless of time).
5. The majority of Saturday and Sunday morning swipers are simply ‘horny’ or even worse ‘hungover and horny’ and looking for instant titillation. Nearly all will turn the conversation sexual within the first four messages.
6. Nearly half of all profiles you swipe right on will swipe left. Of those that match you, another half will not respond to the messages and a third of those will be lying about wanting a ‘relationship’, are married or attached or are not suitable. There are then a proportion of the total left that will only answer one message, or ghost you before a date.
7. Approximately 35-40% of profiles are either fake or inactive.
8. You can be blocked from Tinder, Bumble or Hinge for just copying and pasting the same message to more than one match or from just one minor complaint that may not even be true. None of these apps will ever tell you the reason why you are blocked.
9. You can verify yourself on your account and still upload pictures of someone completely different afterwards! As long as a real face is seen, it does not have to be you. It is even easier if you use group shots!
10. All three apps track your movements and even know what type of porn you watch!
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Omg how weird. So he only likes the bigger foot???
Woop I'm in then
I mean fair enough he likes giving foot massages but why specify the size of foot? "lol no sorry you're only a size 5.5 so I don't like giving foot massages to that size"
"lol no sorry you're only a size 5.5 so I don't like giving foot massages to that size"I guess he’s hoping the massage will lead to a foot w*nk but I don’t know if bigger helps for thatI mean fair enough he likes giving foot massages but why specify the size of foot?
I just can't cope with these teeth, tho.
His profile complements them so well.
His profile complements them so well.
Turkey teeth!
Low cut t-shirt to show off the chest hair. Mmmm 
How big?Date update - went well. Seeing him for seaside walks (he’s bringing the dog) and lunch
tomorrow. We have a slightly big age gap but he’s lovely.
I matched with someone this morning and I waited until this afternoon before messaging him and he read my message and unmatched me!!! What’s pissed me off is, he wasn’t even anything special. Why does he get the upper hand? 
I’m a size 3. Must be his worst nightmare!I mean fair enough he likes giving foot massages but why specify the size of foot?
Me too! I’m thinking though, surely smaller feet would make his dick look bigger?!I’m a size 3. Must be his worst nightmare!
IYou had to change the sheets? Wow, good girl!
I did a bit of digging on the algorithm and process of Bumble, Tinder and Hinge because a lot of weird tit was happening and I knew I wasn’t just mental. Here’s something’s that I learnt:
1. If a person has swiped right on you and you have swiped left, their profile will appear once more to give you a ‘second chance’!
2. If you swiped right (or vice versa) on a person and then delete and re-activate your account, you will match with that person again and again - this may explain why that pesky person doesn’t reply!
3. On average if a person does not respond to your message within 4 hours, it is likely they never will. This is especially true if the match falls on them and you have sent the first message within that time frame.
4. People who match with you late at night are least likely to respond to your message if you send it the next day (regardless of time).
5. The majority of Saturday and Sunday morning swipers are simply ‘horny’ or even worse ‘hungover and horny’ and looking for instant titillation. Nearly all will turn the conversation sexual within the first four messages.
6. Nearly half of all profiles you swipe right on will swipe left. Of those that match you, another half will not respond to the messages and a third of those will be lying about wanting a ‘relationship’, are married or attached or are not suitable. There are then a proportion of the total left that will only answer one message, or ghost you before a date.
7. Approximately 35-40% of profiles are either fake or inactive.
8. You can be blocked from Tinder, Bumble or Hinge for just copying and pasting the same message to more than one match or from just one minor complaint that may not even be true. None of these apps will ever tell you the reason why you are blocked.
9. You can verify yourself on your account and still upload pictures of someone completely different afterwards! As long as a real face is seen, it does not have to be you. It is even easier if you use group shots!
10. All three apps track your movements and even know what type of porn you watch!
you for this. No wonder you don’t use Tinder I’ve been following along for so long and trying to get up the courage to download a dating app again. I’ve done online dating before, I have had them previously and amongst my horror stories and the ones who really got to my confidence (ghosting, gaslighting, clingy etc) I have actually met about 3 decent humans lol (two 6 month ‘relationships’ with decent guys, and a friendship where we have play dates because we both have a child and instantly friend zoned each other).
I have had my share of first dates previously, most who I didn’t want to see again but I went through a period where a few didn’t want to see me again which knocked my confidence a bit (even though I know that’s stupid cause when I don’t want to see them again it’s not necessarily actually anything wrong with them).
Anyway, I’m keen to get back in to it even if it’s just for a friends with benefits type arrangement… it’s hard to get the courage though and feels like so much effort for sometimes little reward!!
I have had my share of first dates previously, most who I didn’t want to see again but I went through a period where a few didn’t want to see me again which knocked my confidence a bit (even though I know that’s stupid cause when I don’t want to see them again it’s not necessarily actually anything wrong with them).
Anyway, I’m keen to get back in to it even if it’s just for a friends with benefits type arrangement… it’s hard to get the courage though and feels like so much effort for sometimes little reward!!
Haha, Tinder to me is like becoming an escort!Me too! I’m thinking though, surely smaller feet would make his dick look bigger?!
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Newsflash: I’ve started chatting to the nicest guy ever. I don’t want to talk too soon, but my God he’s literally too good for dating apps. 41, fit, well groomed, dresses nicely in his pictures, no kids, wants a true partnership and is cool about me not wanting kids. He told me that intelligent conversation is his biggest turn on and he loves strong women and that respect and good morals are really important. We chatted for two hours last night and it was like two peas in a pod mentally. We’re meeting on Wednesday (my first date in two years!
). Fingers crossed!Sounds like the ex I dumped for Tinder trashHaha, Tinder to me is like becoming an escort!
Newsflash: I’ve started chatting to the nicest guy ever. I don’t want to talk too soon, but my God he’s literally too good for dating apps. 41, fit, well groomed, dresses nicely in his pictures, no kids, wants a true partnership and is cool about me not wanting kids. He told me that intelligent conversation is his biggest turn on and he loves strong women and that respect and good morals are really important. We chatted for two hours last night and it was like two peas in a pod mentally. We’re meeting on Wednesday (my first date in two years!
He’s not from Newcastle is he?That’s not a criticism on any of you who do use Tinder by the way. It’s just after the last guy for me, I’ve never felt so used and worthless and it nearly drove me to suicide, so I just can’t do that anymore! I would never criticise other people that do use it however.Haha, Tinder to me is like becoming an escort!
Newsflash: I’ve started chatting to the nicest guy ever. I don’t want to talk too soon, but my God he’s literally too good for dating apps. 41, fit, well groomed, dresses nicely in his pictures, no kids, wants a true partnership and is cool about me not wanting kids. He told me that intelligent conversation is his biggest turn on and he loves strong women and that respect and good morals are really important. We chatted for two hours last night and it was like two peas in a pod mentally. We’re meeting on Wednesday (my first date in two years!
No, he’s a Londoner like me. Lives 10 minutes away. Which is a proper result! Don’t worry I did that too for said Tinder ‘king of c**ts’ below! He has no name, just ‘fat KOC’!Sounds like the ex I dumped for Tinder trash
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