He should 100% be made aware that his actions towards you have been awful. To be honest you acting that your oblivious and not caring to it is probably enabling him even more to treat you this way. Did you mention another friend who calls him out on stuff and he has much more time and respect for her? Some men can be egotistical and misogynistic and get kicks out of how he is treating you. And you acting nonchalant is actually giving him push over vibes.
I feel like the last time you met you said you had been messaging on holidays and did you tell him something along the lines of the strong feelings you had for him? And he reciprocated and then you met him when you came home and it's been zilch since?
In my opinion there is absolutely no way he could think you do not care about this situation if those were the last conversations you have had.
If it was me I'd send him a message calling him out on that last interaction and all the previous ones. Wish him well but tell him you don't have a place in your life for someone who treats you like that and then block.
The way you are speaking atm it sounds like if he pops into your inbox in a week or two you would respond with open arms just to keep up the charade that "you don't care."
I know it's easier for us on the outside looking in but I do hope you take control x
Thank you for your message
the other friend (who was my friend but isnāt now over him) has a lot more history- she was also friends with his ex wife until she started sleeping with him. She has a lot of issues and was sectioned last year, sheās agressive and unpredictable and I do think yes she takes him to task on thingsā¦we are just such totally different people.
Youāre right, he absolutely knows how I feel and I doubt he has any respect for me, and coming to terms with it now he doesnāt care about my existenceā¦I wish when we split up couple years ago I had been more assertive, I think itās hard to change the narrative now. My holiday we spoke so much about doing things together and when he left after his visit I couldnāt wipe the smile off my face, things were going in the right direction! he text me when he got home thanking me for the gifts and saying how glad he was I was back. We spoke briefly last Tuesday when I had a work issue I wanted advice onā¦Sunday I asked him if he was having a nice weekendā¦crickets.
my other friend keeps asking me now itās going, I donāt want to tell her that heās ignored me for over a weekā¦Iāll just smile and say fine, otherwise the 2 friends may talk about me and how heās screwed me over again and what an idiot I am, I donāt want that
I will probably end up telling him how heās treated me. Tomorrow I am going away with a group of girls and I only know 1 of them, so Iām a bit reluctant to say anything that will make me upset and I donāt want to ruin anyoneās weekend xx
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This is where I feel a "Go
duck yourself asshole" is actually very appropriate. Yes I do care! I care very much that you have used, manipulated me & discard me at will (you don't write that but) then feel the anger. The anger is your gateway to freedom.
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Most of it is not being honest with yourself.
That might be a Monday morning task! Maybe someone finally needs to tell him xx