Hello everyone. I've been part of this thread for a long time but stopped commenting almost 7 months ago.
I believe some of you will remember me, I was dating a guy who lied about his age. That was a major red flag, you'll say. Yes, it was. But I wanted to give him a chance so I did.
We've been together since that time. I never connected with anyone the way I did with him. I met his family and friends, been together at parties, went on trips, behaved completely as a couple. Things were clear, we were not bf and gf but I was completely ok with that since he asked me to be exclusive anyway. He called me 2-3 times a day every day. I never felt confused, or insecure, I knew his phone password (never looked at his stuff tho), slept at his several times a week, I didn't need more than that, I was happy with him.
Then 3 weeks ago we had a conversation about what we wanted in life bc things were getting serious and I had a few travels abroad planned, he asked what was I going to do. We decided to take some time to think and he said when you're ready I'm here to talk. I didn't see or speak to him till yesterday. We decided we wanted the same things so that meant staying together. Before deciding this, I asked if he wanted to change the exclusivity of the relationship or something. He said no, I don't want to see other people. Ok then.
We spent the afternoon together. We had sex. After that, I couldn't find one of my earrings so checked under the bed. There was a condom packet on the floor.
I asked him about it. He said he had not seen other people, that that could be there from "god knows when" because that bed is unmovable (that IS true, but seriously???).
I said, look, I asked you if you wanted to see other people and you said no. And I'm not going to get mad if you did. I'm just asking you to tell me the truth. We're not going to stop seeing each other, I said. He denied it over and over and over again, no matter what I said. "I don't need to be with other people, I just want to be with you, I don't want things to change," he said.
I'm not mad at him for doing it. I'm mad because he doesn't have the balls to tell me he did. Why would he keep lying if I said that that wasn't going to change things for me?
I don't even know what to feel, think or believe anymore. I feel like I turned off and don't have feelings anymore. I cannot even cry.
Thank you if you read this, and I'm sorry if my spelling is not perfect. English is not my first language.
Have fun!
That’s exactly why we haven’t met yet, I’m high maintenance and can’t do dates like this. We haven’t been able to schedule anything apart from that, do I just block him?
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I'm gonna try to relax a bit even if we text less this weekend, he said he's busy... and we have next Friday to look forward to so.
I am not sure I am ready either and I appreciate his honesty, but he is just making things more difficult than they already are. As I’ve said, no more Tinder for me until I sort myself out properly — gonna ask my therapist what I’m doing wrong and how to fix that. I want to focus on myself and my happiness first.
Yes get yourself an antibiotic, for me anyway, it's the only thing that helps. Feel better soon 
he was like let me know if you have any ideas on what you wanna do and he'll look around as well.. what do i say to that.. i'd kinda like it if he just took me out to dinner lmao but also some fun activity would be cool but i don't know what. it's supposed to be raining so has to be indoors. i HATE mini golf/crazy golf btw
