I had a bit of a break as life got a bit hectic but just wanted to update you ladies.
So my last post in the last thread was about the guy I’d dated ages ago & then we’d gone out again recently & he left me confused.
Well, I increasingly got madder about the situation. I tried again to get some clarity, no joy so I just messaged & was like “ahh okay I’ll take the hint” type thing. He then came back & was like “no no that’s not the case blah blah”. He also made a comment about feeling I wasn’t healed which at the time I didn’t really bat an eye lid at (he knows about my narc ex) but the more I thought about it, the more I got angry over it. I’ve gone through hell & back as a result of my ex, & I’ve worked damn hard the last 3 years to get myself to where I am & this man, who hasn’t known me since 2018, spends a couple of hours with me & decides he can say that. I just thought how actually dare he. I’m upset because I valued this guy as a friend & I had a lot of respect for him.
also bare in mind, he made comments such as he didn’t have any baggage (not the word he used) & like no feelings for anyone - I have no idea why this was mentioned because that is the same for me bar the lasting trauma from the narc but he’d also told me on the date that his ex, despite splitting in aug last year, started turning up at work place in Feb
![Thinking face :thinking: 🤔](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f914.png)
so I’m like, hun, you’ve got more “baggage” than me…
Anyway, I got drunk last weekend, called him out & he had the cheek to pretend he didn’t know what the issue was? Anyway, he then ignored me again despite me saying in earlier messages I was pissed off at him ignoring me & he insisted he hadn’t ignored me at all (
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f644.png)
). He kept coming back to this “well we needed to think about things & that’s a worry” which I agreed with. However, I believed we were thinking about whether we wanted to get involved with someone else after everything (on both sides) but apparently, he must have been thinking “actually do I wanna be with HER”.
All of this is completely fair by the way, which I had communicated to him in EVERY message that if you’re not feeling it that’s absolutely fine, we’ll always be friends. Yet even down to my last message (the harshest I’d sent) where I was like “look, this clearly isn’t happening, we’ll just be friends” he hasn’t even come back to be like “yeah ok” or “yeah that’s what I want” I was so angry over the entire situation & honestly just so disappointed in him.
YET HE WATCHES EVERYTHING ON INSTA even in between the times he wouldn’t reply to WhatsApp’s.
So yeah, I’ve drawn a line under that
Ive joined hinge again this weekend…think I’ll have it deleted by Monday