sprottish, my dude/dudette….Never been discussed. We’ve been back in touch properly maybe 2 months. We don’t make big plans but we go out together regularly, he comes to mine, we’re sleeping together. He took me out for my birthday and got me presents etc…I know he doesn’t tell his family about me (because he texts his mum when he stays over with a made up excuse HAHAHA oh my god is he 14 or is he 42?) but I would also not in my dreams tell mine about him so…I guess it’s just casual dating?!
Even this is giving me some clarity so thank you!
this man had a gambling problem. you refer to him as “the gambler” in your post. he is a 42 year old man phoning his mum with excuses about why he isn’t coming home when he’s staying at yours. you say you would not “in your dreams” tell your family you’re dating him. he will apparently never leave his parents house.
if you enjoy his company then roll with it but i won’t place all your bets on him and i also would go on dates with other people. it sounds the definition of casual and your language about him confirms that you don’t see anything long term. you and ex gamb need to be clear on what you want and you need to be clear with him that you’re dating other people. go on a date with the other guy and see what happens but you can’t make something with a man you wouldn’t tell your friends/family about.
edit: gosh i’m a right grump today, sorry.