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al255
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SOOOO update!!!!!
S came to mine and he brought me some lovely flowers, a bottle of wine and a card for Valentine’s Day 🥹 then he took me out for a meal and when we got back to mine he asked me to be his girlfriend! I never thought in the years we’ve known each other we would be together but he makes me feel everything I should be feeling as well as being treated lovely off someone!
S came to mine and he brought me some lovely flowers, a bottle of wine and a card for Valentine’s Day 🥹 then he took me out for a meal and when we got back to mine he asked me to be his girlfriend! I never thought in the years we’ve known each other we would be together but he makes me feel everything I should be feeling as well as being treated lovely off someone!
wibblywobblywoo
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You do realise these men use this as a code for sex ? They invite themselves over under the guise of coming to cook you dinner or to have a coffee... it's concerning to me that your first reaction was that he's being tight rather than the fact you don't invite strangers into your safe space that you've met on a dating site. You don't know this man and keeping yourself safe should always be your first thought.
So my date for the night has cancelled on bowling and dinner. Instead he wants to come round to my house and cook me dinner but then proceeded to tell me that I need to go to Tesco and buy the food
so basically, he’s a scab and doesn’t want to have to pay for bowling and dinner apparently “it’s only fair you buy if I’m cooking”
so basically, he’s a scab and doesn’t want to have to pay for bowling and dinner apparently “it’s only fair you buy if I’m cooking”
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Clementine
VIP Member
This is relevant.
MsCurly
Chatty Member
Men who specify they want to have good sex are the type of men to finish within 30 seconds. They will then have the audacity to ask ‘did you c**?’, which must always be answered with: “yes to the wrong damn house, I’m leaving”Gave me major ick ..he'd prefaced by saying he'd been messed about and wasn't prepared to risk that any more.
Absolutely nothing attractive about his 'list' but he clearly thinks he's the dogs bollox! Love that he clarifies that he wants sex, good sex ...no pressure there then!
nothanksbabes
VIP Member
If you're a woman genuinely after just casual sex, the worst thing about the usual apps, and a lot of men in general, is that they want a one off hookup but they don't want women who want that. It's like they don't feel like they've 'won' unless they've got what they're after under false pretenses. Or they want the fucking 'girlfriend' experience with none of the commitment or emotional responsibility.
xcyber
Chatty Member
That’s actually so embarrassingly poor an excuse from him. Block and delete. He’s already been given one too many chances. Hope you’re ok xxx
EddyDarling
VIP Member
WhatsApp. To text their wives.Does anyone know which app the men of value use? Please point me in the right direction if so!I’m finding them all pretty awful.
Just wanna make it clear that I did not invite a stranger into my house, the stranger invited himself and I did tell him to leave it off and he did get the block. I am aware of what the man was looking for and I am not an idiot he can buy his own food tonight or he can go to his mam’s xo
quite frankly I was more entertained that he thought I was gonna accept his offer
and I am not an idiot he can buy his own food tonight or he can go to his mam’s xoquite frankly I was more entertained that he thought I was gonna accept his offer
it’s not been changed?!
VIP Member
Sometimes men don’t understand these prompts, do they?
xcyber
Chatty Member
Honestly, this already sounds like waaaaayyy to much baggage. Personally I wouldn’t even bother.I’ve been chatting with someone over Christmas. He’s separated but still living with his wife atm. They have 3 children under 9 years old. She cheated on him with someone I knew earlier this year (don’t know how long for etc) they’ve been married 11 years but together longer. Anyway, he suggested meeting for a coffee but it had to be during the week during the day. I understand childcare issues on a weekend. Am I wrong to ask why it has to be during the week during the day? He said when I can get away from work we could meet, but I get an hour break and it would take me 15 mins to drive anywhere to go for a coffee!
When I say earlier this year, I meant earlier in 2022
LaBlonde
VIP Member
i feel like josh and dan need to work out their obvious feelings for each other rather than masquerade under this absolute
it’s the “don’t know yet” when they clearly state exactly what they’re looking for
mozzarellagirl
VIP Member
drama = women holding me accountable for shitty behaviour and expecting me to behave like an adult (which btw I refuse to do so i'm back on the apps after blaming and gaslighting them)
Peppermint Tea
Member
It’s been a somewhat disheartening first week back on the apps. I cropped the second picture so you can’t see his face so it’s not as clear now, but he’s sitting on a toilet naked! Earlier today I was talking to someone who asked me about my job, & when I asked him what he did he said ‘tried to start up a shoe cleaning business once but it didn’t take off so nowt lol.’ If I didn’t laugh I’d cry!
Earlier today I was talking to someone who asked me about my job, & when I asked him what he did he said ‘tried to start up a shoe cleaning business once but it didn’t take off so nowt lol.’ If I didn’t laugh I’d cry! Attachments
LaBlonde
VIP Member
JFC - you gave him so much to work with in one message too and he couldn’t even be bothered to ask a single question.
we’re ALL bored now mate.
Lalla
VIP Member
I ended up having a cry last night because I felt so sad about everything. I thought of the people I know from uni. Every person in our original group of 10 or so is married (some for the 2nd time). And I never have been. I have mixed feelings about marriage itself, so it's not that I desperately ever wanted to be someone's wife. But just like I've never been anyone's priority friend, my relationships have been the same, they've never valued me. Even with my Ex. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me but by his own actions ensured that wouldn't be the case.
I don't get why it's like this - I can't point to a traumatic childhood where I was always put second or anything, quite the reverse. I value myself, I really do, but no one else ever has - yet plenty of others are valued, as friends, as partners. What makes them different?
I probably need to stop dwelling on all this but it just hurts
I don't get why it's like this - I can't point to a traumatic childhood where I was always put second or anything, quite the reverse. I value myself, I really do, but no one else ever has - yet plenty of others are valued, as friends, as partners. What makes them different?
I probably need to stop dwelling on all this but it just hurts
wibblywobblywoo
VIP Member
Well as excuses go it's pretty shit !
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Bianca Del Rio
Well-known member
@wibblywobblywoo Just leave him on read, delete / archive the chat and don’t respond to him ever again. He’s blasé and unapologetic, nothing you say back to him will affect him in the slightest. Any further back and forth about it will only leave you feeling more frustrated and it won’t achieve anything. As cancellations go, his is really REALLY poor. That emoji is infuriating.
emoji is infuriating.
LaBlonde
VIP Member
i think i’ve posted about this here before but, i’ve travelled quite a bit over the usa and have a few photos of me in various locations on my profile. one is of me in seattle, one of my favourite us cities, a guy messaged me saying “i loved seattle!”, i replied like omg me too, did you go to such and such a place, did you see this etc?!Dry chat is the worst most boring banal thing ever, I have no patience for it haha. Like if you’ve got nothing to contribute when you have everything in the world to find out about someone, wtf are you going to be talking about when you’ve been married 50 years and know the ins and outs of each other’s sock collections?
he replied: don’t remember.
literally “don’t remember”. i think i deleted my bumble account for a week after that