"No and I'm not talking to you either now eff off"The head from the weekend who was asking all about my friend's OF, has just messaged me out of the blue asking if I'm talking to anyone elseI mean, I'm not, but not for lack of trying
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so he wants a maid, baby maker and sex slave and he's a raging misogynist. hope he chokesI have no words
Ps thatās not a message to me I saw it on Instagram
@Thank(space)you he should be blocked by now.
@MsCurly slow and steady wins the race. keep your cool, enjoy it for what it is.
Guys I had a good first date!!
He took me to a rooftop bar, then we grabbed pizza and then went to one more bar before I headed home.
He was so lovely, I actually laughed a lot throughout and he was very kind (insisted he paid, waited for my train with me, bought me a bottle of coke for my journey haha).
He mentioned that heās down near my way again next week if I wanted to do something. He also asked if Iād had a good evening and he said it in a tone of like āyeah?! Absolutelyā. Had a good old smooch at the end too haha!
He texted me after saying he had a really nice evening. Iām trying not to get my hopes up but I had a really nice time anyway!
He took me to a rooftop bar, then we grabbed pizza and then went to one more bar before I headed home.
He was so lovely, I actually laughed a lot throughout and he was very kind (insisted he paid, waited for my train with me, bought me a bottle of coke for my journey haha).
He mentioned that heās down near my way again next week if I wanted to do something. He also asked if Iād had a good evening and he said it in a tone of like āyeah?! Absolutelyā. Had a good old smooch at the end too haha!
He texted me after saying he had a really nice evening. Iām trying not to get my hopes up but I had a really nice time anyway!
I wrote a long update about whatās been going on with the three year lad I ended things with in September but duck him.
I had a nice date planned with someone else for this week.. Woke up and Iāve got Covid.
I had a nice date planned with someone else for this week.. Woke up and Iāve got Covid.
Sorry to hear that @CandyLand tough time for you. They say it never rains but it pours. I'm off work kind of sick but depressed too. Horrible. Take care. Hope you don't get COVID too bad. 
Thank you. I hope you are feeling OKSorry to hear that @CandyLand tough time for you. They say it never rains but it pours. I'm off work kind of sick but depressed too. Horrible. Take care. Hope you don't get COVID too bad.
So, I have been on three dates with someone new. First date he was very nervous but relaxed after a little while. Second date, he had a full-on meltdown within 5 minutes of me getting there. Full panic attack mode. I had to reassure him and sit and calm him down. We were meant to go for food, but he said he felt sick and couldnāt eat (I was bloody starving.) He told me itās because he likes me so much and has never felt like this before. After 1 date! Heās really nice and lots of what I am looking for, but wow this is intense. Third date we went for lunch and the vibe was a bit awkward because of the previous situation. I was quite keen to leave. He has since talked about going away together, spending Christmas together etc etc. Heās always telling me how amazing I am and how beautiful I am and its just a lot. Heās not love bombing me, I genuinely donāt think itās that, but itās just a bitā¦.desperate.
He kept asking me if I was okay and I said yes Iām fine. Got two voice notes āI know youāre pretending to be okay, you can talk to meā WTF, Iām fine! Anyway, he said I always ignore or bypass his nice comments and I said they make me feel a bit uncomfortable. I said I tend to take my time getting to know someone and heās seen his arse. He called me and I was quite abrupt with him, admittedly Iām not really into all the sappy stuff, and heās since sent me a big long text saying that I handled the situation badly and selfishly and heās nothing but nice to me and that heās not trying to rush me into anything as he was ārespectful and restrainedā on our dates. Iām massively insulted by this ā why should he even have to mention he was ārestrained?!ā I told him I shouldnāt have to be grateful for restraining himself and again heās gotten all offended. Itās a shame because he seems like a genuinely nice guy just with some kind of level of anxiety, but I just canāt deal with it. I need to tell him this is where we leave it.
He kept asking me if I was okay and I said yes Iām fine. Got two voice notes āI know youāre pretending to be okay, you can talk to meā WTF, Iām fine! Anyway, he said I always ignore or bypass his nice comments and I said they make me feel a bit uncomfortable. I said I tend to take my time getting to know someone and heās seen his arse. He called me and I was quite abrupt with him, admittedly Iām not really into all the sappy stuff, and heās since sent me a big long text saying that I handled the situation badly and selfishly and heās nothing but nice to me and that heās not trying to rush me into anything as he was ārespectful and restrainedā on our dates. Iām massively insulted by this ā why should he even have to mention he was ārestrained?!ā I told him I shouldnāt have to be grateful for restraining himself and again heās gotten all offended. Itās a shame because he seems like a genuinely nice guy just with some kind of level of anxiety, but I just canāt deal with it. I need to tell him this is where we leave it.
I have got the ick really badly reading this. What a drip he is.
bless you for being kind enough to even consider a third date because i think i would have been on the train home and blocking his number as soon as he said he felt sick and couldnāt eat because he liked you so much, my god
the use of ārestrainedā speaks volumes, message him saying itās done and then delete his details. iām getting the ick and bad vibes as a combo, and itās not good.
I think you will need to block him very quickly after you end it.. He sounds like the type to bombard you.
He's not a nice guy. He's batshit. This is his best behaviour!
Tell him that you don't want to take things any further and do not want any further contact with him.
Block him wherever you can.
Sounds really manipulative with and passive aggressive + exhausting @Sprottish
Ergh no that's just too much. Strange behaviour. I feel like these guys don't have any hobbies or anything else going on in their lives so they really latch on HARD to the women they date.
I've been on the receiving end of this crap before, I knew I wasn't into it and was probably coming across as so dry through text. The guy went off on one and said I owe him better because he's been trying so hard with me and has been nothing but respectful... mate, duck off
he met a woman on the apps and was married to her within 18 months so it just shows that there really is someone for everyone lolWe no longer are available as therapists for weird men. Repeat after me.
Wow, today I've been watching To Catch a Predator on YouTube. It's absolutely sickening. I think you'd all recognise the lines and tactics used by these disgusting men. But they are hoping to use and abuse minors. Seriously I have been vicariously sniggering and sneering at them on their knees crying when they get caught. Family men a lot of them. It truly shows just how dishonest and vile SOME men are.
Wow, today I've been watching To Catch a Predator on YouTube. It's absolutely sickening. I think you'd all recognise the lines and tactics used by these disgusting men. But they are hoping to use and abuse minors. Seriously I have been vicariously sniggering and sneering at them on their knees crying when they get caught. Family men a lot of them. It truly shows just how dishonest and vile SOME men are.
Iāve been reading this thread for a while and took great comfort from knowing Iām not alone in awful dating experiences
Iāve been single for a while now and a couple of years ago moved to Dubai. Iāve returned home as I realised that I was never going to find a bloke over there to settle down with (theyāre all Peter pans and women outnumber men 30 to 1 I swear!). Iāve just turned 30 and since returning Iāve had to move back into my parents because I canāt get a mortgage until Iāve got the three pay checks back here. But now with everything going on and the fact Iāve also decided to change careers and take a big pay cut (fingers crossed that long term it pays off) Iām just not going to be able to afford a mortgage alone. I absolutely hate having to go through the where do you live question with men cause I find my situation embarrassing. Tbf I think thatās just my insecurity though as it doesnāt stop men asking me on dates and I do have a house deposit plus extra saved thanks to Dubai.
anyways Iām rambling.. I did have a question. Does anyone else immediately feel like theyāve catfished blokes when they ask you on a date based on your dating profile? Iām not a catfish but I did choose the nicest pictures of myself so the minute I get asked out my brain starts going āwell he wonāt like you when he sees you in personā. Itās stupid but wondering if anyone else has this?!
Iāve been single for a while now and a couple of years ago moved to Dubai. Iāve returned home as I realised that I was never going to find a bloke over there to settle down with (theyāre all Peter pans and women outnumber men 30 to 1 I swear!). Iāve just turned 30 and since returning Iāve had to move back into my parents because I canāt get a mortgage until Iāve got the three pay checks back here. But now with everything going on and the fact Iāve also decided to change careers and take a big pay cut (fingers crossed that long term it pays off) Iām just not going to be able to afford a mortgage alone. I absolutely hate having to go through the where do you live question with men cause I find my situation embarrassing. Tbf I think thatās just my insecurity though as it doesnāt stop men asking me on dates and I do have a house deposit plus extra saved thanks to Dubai.
anyways Iām rambling.. I did have a question. Does anyone else immediately feel like theyāve catfished blokes when they ask you on a date based on your dating profile? Iām not a catfish but I did choose the nicest pictures of myself so the minute I get asked out my brain starts going āwell he wonāt like you when he sees you in personā. Itās stupid
but wondering if anyone else has this?!
Firstly, I don't think you should feel embarrassed at all about your living at home situation! I agree it's just you so try not to think about it.Iāve been reading this thread for a while and took great comfort from knowing Iām not alone in awful dating experiences
Iāve been single for a while now and a couple of years ago moved to Dubai. Iāve returned home as I realised that I was never going to find a bloke over there to settle down with (theyāre all Peter pans and women outnumber men 30 to 1 I swear!). Iāve just turned 30 and since returning Iāve had to move back into my parents because I canāt get a mortgage until Iāve got the three pay checks back here. But now with everything going on and the fact Iāve also decided to change careers and take a big pay cut (fingers crossed that long term it pays off) Iām just not going to be able to afford a mortgage alone. I absolutely hate having to go through the where do you live question with men cause I find my situation embarrassing. Tbf I think thatās just my insecurity though as it doesnāt stop men asking me on dates and I do have a house deposit plus extra saved thanks to Dubai.
anyways Iām rambling.. I did have a question. Does anyone else immediately feel like theyāve catfished blokes when they ask you on a date based on your dating profile? Iām not a catfish but I did choose the nicest pictures of myself so the minute I get asked out my brain starts going āwell he wonāt like you when he sees you in personā. Itās stupid
Secondly, I believe we all choose the nicest pictures of ourselves to post on the apps. Unless you're a completely different person from the one on the picture, I don't think you should worry about that either.
we all do it!Run
Is anyone else bi? I donāt have it on any profiles but i must be making it obvious somehow because I keep matching with people who clock it and then want to know if Iāll join them snd their FWB for a threesome. Anyone else experienced that?
Itās one of the things thatās never appealed to me, largely because I donāt like my sexuality being treated as a plaything.
Itās one of the things thatās never appealed to me, largely because I donāt like my sexuality being treated as a plaything.
I think people just chance it with single women in general but yes it's bleeping horrid nonetheless. I find heterosexual women the worst for the fetishising of other women
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