I have a story that backs this up. I met someone 12 years ago. There were red flags galore, he couldn't communicate face to face about anything important at all, and he would only 'argue' by text, after arguments nothing would be resolved just brushed under the carpet, he was stubborn to the point I always had to back down or he would threaten to end the relationship, he told me he never wanted marriage (it was very important to me), I saw these all as red flags but he was so intense and passionate when things were good I fell hard for him. I saw all these fags within 3 months of meeting him. I ignored it all and then moved in with him, fell pregnant soon after.I think it’s so important that we learn to leave after the first red flag or suspicion because we sometimes ignore them for weeks or even months and it never ends well. We could save ourselves alot of wasted time by listening to our intuition from the start.
We are all guilty of calling men time wasters but most of the time we see the problems blazing in our face but still drag it out.
Moral of the story is I've spent 12 years trapped in the same cycle, going round and round and it's just ended for good, in heart break and trauma bond.
Obviously I've got my girl so I could never regret it, but the lesson I have learnt is to never ignore red flags early on. They will likely become bigger and harder to ignore as time goes on. I think there is a meme somewhere that says never ignore the red flags in the beginning because they will be the reason it ends.
It's been a hard lesson for me to learn but I won't make the same mistake again