WelcomeEvening all, I’ve been watching and reading this thread for a while now but never posted before. So sorry for the long story.
Last March I left my 13 year marriage, nothing had happened I was unhappy. I had a tough year with that (guilt etc), as well as a fling with a best friend that has completely messed with my head and left me in a worse state than the end of my marriage. The friendship is now over.
I’ve been on the apps on and off for about 9 months, oh my goodness they are awful. I matched and had a date with one guy at Christmas time, he was lovely but looked nothing like his photos and not in a good way, they were at least 6 years old. We got on really well but he couldn’t kiss to save his life and that gave me the ick. He’s recently messaged me after 6 months of silence asking if I wanted to come round for a bottle of wine because we have unfinished business. Jesus! I politely turned him down. I then about 2 months ago matched with another guy, chat started great and we swapped numbers. Then the chat died, would take him 12 hours to reply, then a week of silence, chat again but with huge gaps between them. Didn’t speak for a month and then he messaged out the blue, but again dead chat and hours between messages. Sunday I matched with a guy I’d seen on hinge a few times but never liked anything, I don’t know what made me do it but I liked a comment on his profile. He messaged me and we’ve had good flowing chat for 2 days, really enjoyed the chat. I’ve today found out that he’s also into guys, but has never had sex with a guy. Now I have no issue with anyones sexuality at all, good for him. But it’s not what I want in a potential partner. He’s been very honest with me by opening up so soon but Ive told him I don’t know what to do with that information, and he’s asked me what I mean.
I’m now thinking I just tell him that I have no issue with it but it’s not what I want in a potential so partner. We haven’t swapped numbers yet but I just feel bad. I’ve been told I don’t owe him anything as it’s so soon after starting chatting, but that’s just how I am. I don’t think I’m cut out for these apps and wish it was easier to meet people the old fashioned way
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You don’t have to explain anything to him.. Just tell him you hope he finds what he’s looking for, wish him well and leave it at that.
Ohh and don’t respond to anymore ghosts
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