Has anyone used reverse image search on a potential date before and discovered they were not who they said they were or hiding something?
Dating after lockdown #21 More red flags than Pamplona, we don’t wanna know about your boner.
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I've actually pretty much consigned him to the bin tbh. Something doesn't feel right. He's been online and seen my last message and ignored it. Or he's going to take this evening to think of some excuse. It shouldn't be this angsty before a first date!
I would lay all your observations/suspicions out to him calmly and see what he says tbh. Maybe just me? But something is so clearly off and you've got more than enough evidence that I would be curious to see how he would explain it away
Why did I not learn this quote in school?!
I know some don’t like it but I like to use Snapchat to see real time photos of them before meeting up. I’m not keen on FaceTime calls.
I’ve had someone use a fake name before but he admitted it on the first date and showed me his driving licence
Slightly ot but jack Monroe has joined tinder and everybody is saying about reverse image as she face tunes so much
Hello everyone!
Bagpuss If I may play devils advocate, I have seen people on here say before they won’t give their number until the first date is done-not too sure about the not texting at night or weekends though, possibly he could just be really cautious?
Bagpuss If I may play devils advocate, I have seen people on here say before they won’t give their number until the first date is done-not too sure about the not texting at night or weekends though, possibly he could just be really cautious?
This maybe the cynic in me, but the fact he only contacts during certain hours would ring alarm bells. What if he’s living with someone and that’s why he’s silent on nights and won’t give his number out? I don’t want to put thoughts in your head but you have to weigh up the scenario here. I’ve had a similar type myself he was single but turns out he just enjoyed the attention with no intention of meeting up, essentially a pen pal is what he was looking for lol. I’d do what’s been said though and hold out until tomorrow, see what he comes up with then go from there, but if he continues ignoring/being flakey pop him in the bin!
POF is one I’ve never tried! I’ll never use hinge again too much seediness! Couldn’t get to grips with bumble.. tinder I’ve heard nothing but tit things lol. I may try POF. Thats so lovely
gentlemen are few and far between on the apps it seems 
This is really long I'm so sorry about that.
I've been texting a co worker pretty much non stop since Friday night. We work on the same team but different departments.
Friday night after a team event we took a train home together (it wasn't just us two, there were four of us) and he would NOT shut up about the cat. I was placating him a little throughout the journey home.
At the dinner I was talking about the drinks I was having last night for my birthday, he was in the group and said "oh sweet, text me about it"
So I was like "cool, I'll ask John* for your number and send it on" then John was like "you know he's right here, you can just have his number right now yeah?" So Tom* put his number in my phone and said "call me there" so he would have mine.
He initiated the contact Friday night saying about the cat and it's kinda gone from there.
And it's not anything too "I wanna put my dick in u" explicit but there's also been some deep messages like about his parents divorce and that life is messing him up/has messed him up a bit (no details but given some of what he's said, I'm imagining a break up of some kind) and how he's in a bit of a low and he's gonna start therapy, and like. . . .things you don't talk about with a normal Co worker?
Or in such frequency? Cos don't get me wrong. I love the other guys on my team to pieces. But we rarely text outside work. The only co-worker I regularly text outside work is someone with whom I make a lot of plans and travel on day trips with. My mind is like "he wouldn't message so much if he wasn't into you in some way?" And I'm into him in a big way.
But also he has showed me his cat. A lot. She's a good girl.
There's never been anything explicitly flirty, but things like making some kind of way to see each other, like me cooking lasagne or him offering to help with furniture if I move, or a round of shots to see which of us can best represent our country (I'm Irish, he's Australian.)
If it helps, I am 90 pc sure he is single. I asked "You said you don't live alone? How do your housemates feel about Indy (the cat)"
"Long story. Tell you someday"
Which is giving me "we broke up but still live together" vibes. You know?
TL;DR a co worker and I have been in pretty constant contact, and I don't know whether it's because he's interested or just as friends.
I've been texting a co worker pretty much non stop since Friday night. We work on the same team but different departments.
Friday night after a team event we took a train home together (it wasn't just us two, there were four of us) and he would NOT shut up about the cat. I was placating him a little throughout the journey home.
At the dinner I was talking about the drinks I was having last night for my birthday, he was in the group and said "oh sweet, text me about it"
So I was like "cool, I'll ask John* for your number and send it on" then John was like "you know he's right here, you can just have his number right now yeah?" So Tom* put his number in my phone and said "call me there" so he would have mine.
He initiated the contact Friday night saying about the cat and it's kinda gone from there.
And it's not anything too "I wanna put my dick in u" explicit but there's also been some deep messages like about his parents divorce and that life is messing him up/has messed him up a bit (no details but given some of what he's said, I'm imagining a break up of some kind) and how he's in a bit of a low and he's gonna start therapy, and like. . . .things you don't talk about with a normal Co worker?
Or in such frequency? Cos don't get me wrong. I love the other guys on my team to pieces. But we rarely text outside work. The only co-worker I regularly text outside work is someone with whom I make a lot of plans and travel on day trips with. My mind is like "he wouldn't message so much if he wasn't into you in some way?" And I'm into him in a big way.
But also he has showed me his cat. A lot. She's a good girl.
There's never been anything explicitly flirty, but things like making some kind of way to see each other, like me cooking lasagne or him offering to help with furniture if I move, or a round of shots to see which of us can best represent our country (I'm Irish, he's Australian.)
If it helps, I am 90 pc sure he is single. I asked "You said you don't live alone? How do your housemates feel about Indy (the cat)"
"Long story. Tell you someday"
Which is giving me "we broke up but still live together" vibes. You know?
TL;DR a co worker and I have been in pretty constant contact, and I don't know whether it's because he's interested or just as friends.
Bagpuss the guy who was working away (the guy who had a gf and I told her he was being a sleeze).. he “broke” his phone conveniently when he went back home and suddenly Monday morning I got a text saying it’s fixed, when he was back up here. I agree with the others he is just using to fill a void whilst he’s at work. I fully believe he’s got a wife, or atleast a girlfriend. You don’t go offline all weekend. My thought process is that he leaves this phone he’s messaging you on at work on a Friday and he doesn’t message you again until he is back at work Monday. Please cut ties with this man. He has my “hiding something” radar beeping xx
I’m sorry I have no useful advice but I’m confused about the inclusion of the cat in this story
Is the constant cat mentions annoying? Or is the cat going to give you a clue if he’s single or not?
He just really loves his cat. And I also love cats.I’m sorry I have no useful advice but I’m confused about the inclusion of the cat in this story
Is the constant cat mentions annoying? Or is the cat going to give you a clue if he’s single or not?
I met my husband on POF back in the day! First guy I went on a date with from there and it worked out.POF is one I’ve never tried! I’ll never use hinge again too much seediness! Couldn’t get to grips with bumble.. tinder I’ve heard nothing but tit things lol. I may try POF. Thats so lovely
I mean we're now separated so not sure how much you can take from that but we had a good 8 years
Slightly ot but jack Monroe has joined tinder and everybody is saying about reverse image as she face tunes so much
Thank you for alerting me to cabal chaos, i shall duly go and grunk. Now I'm not the most desperate person on tinder
Aww see 8 years is a long time! It’s one I always forget about! I’ve never even been on a date with anyone off a dating app! They either don’t seem to want to actually meet in person, or they get blocked for sending something sexual before it gets to us meeting lol.I met my husband on POF back in the day! First guy I went on a date with from there and it worked out.
I mean we're now separated so not sure how much you can take from that but we had a good 8 years
Will it really make them honest though? Lol. Not many guys will admit their just looking for a shag! I mean good idea and all but I can’t see it changing much.. hinge is the worse for seedy guys (I haven’t done tinder so don’t quote me on that lol)
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Why am I sat here all sad because I want cuddles in bed 
I'm not even a cuddly person
*checks clue app* yep I'm due a period soon
I'm not even a cuddly person *checks clue app* yep I'm due a period soon
So I got talking to this guy off Hinge (for once!), he got my number and we’ve been talking for a few days. His mum is a median and he asked me for my star sign. Anyway he goes to tell me the stars say we are compatible
So he asks me when I’m free and I say I’m not free this week as I’ve got plans on the weekend then next week I’m at Haven with my daughter. He said it’s fine we can keep talking until I’m back (as I said I understand if he doesn’t want a pen pal for two weeks).. and he was asking me where is good for a date, what I’d want to do etc.. he said he’s into BDSM (random but I bet the sex is good), anyway when I was saying goodnight to him last night, he said it’s been nice to talk to me and I seem lovely, and he thinks we have a spark over text.
Tbh I am so fed up of apps
it’s just the same people over and over again!! Maybe something will come of this when we meet in 2 weeks. Probably not 
So he asks me when I’m free and I say I’m not free this week as I’ve got plans on the weekend then next week I’m at Haven with my daughter. He said it’s fine we can keep talking until I’m back (as I said I understand if he doesn’t want a pen pal for two weeks).. and he was asking me where is good for a date, what I’d want to do etc.. he said he’s into BDSM (random but I bet the sex is good), anyway when I was saying goodnight to him last night, he said it’s been nice to talk to me and I seem lovely, and he thinks we have a spark over text. Tbh I am so fed up of apps
it’s just the same people over and over again!! Maybe something will come of this when we meet in 2 weeks. Probably not I would love a cuddle in bed too.. it’s one of the dark rainy mornings.
It’s natural to feel like this and miss abit of affection! I’m full of cold feeling sorry for myself so feeling the same lolWhy am I sat here all sad because I want cuddles in bed
*checks clue app* yep I'm due a period soon
Morning ladies ..me again! So he's responded ( his last message was at 12.17 yesterday morning, and he ignored my question til this morning)
No. Sorry but as I explained before the ‘odd ball’ was lovely and nice when I first spoke with her then when I told her that it wasn’t going anywhere it turned horrible and as my kids were involved I said not to do it again xx
I've responded with an understand but I'm confused as to how she had access to his daughter...I've a feeling he's either going to unmatch me or disappear..we will see if he replies !
No. Sorry but as I explained before the ‘odd ball’ was lovely and nice when I first spoke with her then when I told her that it wasn’t going anywhere it turned horrible and as my kids were involved I said not to do it again xx
I've responded with an understand but I'm confused as to how she had access to his daughter...I've a feeling he's either going to unmatch me or disappear..we will see if he replies !
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