Is it not the same guys on Badoo then?
Also, ‘looking for someone who is active’ do you all take this as code as ‘looking for someone with zero body fat’? Or is that just me?
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Also, ‘looking for someone who is active’ do you all take this as code as ‘looking for someone with zero body fat’? Or is that just me?
I'm on badoo
wouldn't say I've had loads of luck but I definitely get more responses than tinderCan I ask what you think the difference will be from this thread to a spinster thread? And the difference between a spinster thread and a general chat thread?
Obviously I know this is a dating thread and from the sounds of it, you're saying the spinster thread would be for those who have given up dating; however I'm currently not dating and am half asking the apps when I cba, but I'm still lurking here.
Eta : you general, not asking any particular user
I’m actually in the process of setting up a book club for single women because I’m over it all.
I had dinner with a few couples yesterday, and whilst it was lovely I’m getting rather tired of the idea that you’re somehow not good enough / not normal simply because you can’t seem to find a suitable partner.
All my friends are moving forward towards marriage and babies and it’s making me realise I want to spend more time with likeminded people.
I am still on the apps, but I’m not going to let my life revolve around finding the right person. Dating is too exhausting to be thinking of all day every day. It’s so time consuming and nerve wracking.
I had dinner with a few couples yesterday, and whilst it was lovely I’m getting rather tired of the idea that you’re somehow not good enough / not normal simply because you can’t seem to find a suitable partner.
All my friends are moving forward towards marriage and babies and it’s making me realise I want to spend more time with likeminded people.
I am still on the apps, but I’m not going to let my life revolve around finding the right person. Dating is too exhausting to be thinking of all day every day. It’s so time consuming and nerve wracking.
@MsCurly Like that awful Bridget Jones dinner party with the smug marrieds. One in three marriages will end in divorce said Mark Darcy. Then there's the statistics for dementia & cancer. None of it's looking great! It's a shame we feel our lives don't measure up to others. It's all a waste of energy really on both sides. From the shriveled up spinster to the seemingly successfully married smug couples. Societal pressure ruins so many lives.
I think next thread’s title will be ‘Not dating after lockdown #21’ 🥲 I’m in my early 20s and it already looks like all the decent men are taken!
Omg I thought it was me I hate eating on the first date I’m a messy eater lolWe’re going to meet Thursday and Saturday night if Thursday goes well too.. I’m excitedI usually hate eating infront of people too, I find it awks when you want to talk but to their response your mouth is full of food
haha. Anyway. I’ve got hopes - Original Thursday date man text me loads this morning but I cba with him!
it’s added anxiety on top of usual date anxiety lolI might go on Badoo and report back. See what those classy guys are messaging these days. 
Me too. I get all knotted up in the stomach.Omg I thought it was me I hate eating on the first date I’m a messy eater lol
I’m here for that threadsometimes i consider starting a “future spinster” thread tbh
Well I hope you are still writing Coop? I haven't forgotten how great your stories were.
I never thought of it like that, but now I do. Tell me, what is the perfect size to them? Because it’s either too skinny or to fat. They want a Kim kardashian figure and don’t realise that is not achievable in the gym or with any kind of diet. I blame Instagram and photoshop. Half the bodies on their are edited, their chasing what isn’t real. Sorry I’ve had a wine
I never understood Bridget Jones when I watched it when I was younger. I used to laugh at it now I relate to it
i absolutely second this!
mid-30s and struggling to find a man i would be happy knowing my full name.
!!!!! - will the bookclub be online somehow?! i would love to join
I’m actually trying to figure out what type of forum/media would be best! I’ll keep you updated!i absolutely second this!
mid-30s and struggling to find a man i would be happy knowing my full name.
!!!!! - will the bookclub be online somehow?! i would love to join
No no I entirely agree with you! The funny thing is that I am more active that some skinnier people I know! I get everyone has their thing though.I never thought of it like that, but now I do. Tell me, what is the perfect size to them? Because it’s either too skinny or to fat. They want a Kim kardashian figure and don’t realise that is not achievable in the gym or with any kind of diet. I blame Instagram and photoshop. Half the bodies on their are edited, their chasing what isn’t real. Sorry I’ve had a wine
I never understood Bridget Jones when I watched it when I was younger. I used to laugh at it now I relate to it
I do think there are a lot of men in their late 30s early 40s stuck in a duck boy mindset they can get out of and in a few years they’ll be venturing into creepy older man (not all older men are creepy of course).
I feel you! I have an eating disorder so I can’t eat around other people, let alone someone I’m on a date with. So uncomfortable!Omg I thought it was me I hate eating on the first date I’m a messy eater lol
I guess you might be right! What they don’t get is that you can be super active and still have body fat. One has to follow a cutting diet every now and then in order to get that lean look. I run every single day so I guess I can be seen as some perverse version of a gym bunny, yet I still have more fat than I’d like to admit… But someone who only likes you for your looks is not a good match for you anyway, so let’s just all agree to tell such guys to go F themselves.
Thanks haha! I’m snowed under with uni work but I’m trying to keep up with writing too! Can’t give it up, hopefully once I go back to dating I will have a story or two to tell you all xWell I hope you are still writing Coop? I haven't forgotten how great your stories were.
M told me he’s really looking forward to Thursday and he’s going to put his lucky socks on cos he wants a third date 
bless him… I’ve had more compliments off him then I have off Thursday date man. He’s in the bin!
bless him… I’ve had more compliments off him then I have off Thursday date man. He’s in the bin!So messages tonight:
"Can I flirt with you"
[Me not replying as I'd not been on the app]
"Can I see your bum"
* blocked *
Another guy:
"When are you free? I'd love to meet up with you"
Me: "Friday night & Sunday day"
Him: "oh, I don't know if I'm free then, what about in the week"
Me : "I've got my child in the week"
Him: "so? I'll come round yours"
* blocked *
What is wrong with people
"Can I flirt with you"
[Me not replying as I'd not been on the app]
"Can I see your bum"
* blocked *
Another guy:
"When are you free? I'd love to meet up with you"
Me: "Friday night & Sunday day"
Him: "oh, I don't know if I'm free then, what about in the week"
Me : "I've got my child in the week"
Him: "so? I'll come round yours"
* blocked *
What is wrong with people
Grrrrr this annoys me!! Why would you invite yourself to a strangers house when they’ve got their kid upstairs asleep. People don’t live in the real world do they?!So messages tonight:
"Can I flirt with you"
[Me not replying as I'd not been on the app]
"Can I see your bum"
* blocked *
Another guy:
"When are you free? I'd love to meet up with you"
Me: "Friday night & Sunday day"
Him: "oh, I don't know if I'm free then, what about in the week"
Me : "I've got my child in the week"
Him: "so? I'll come round yours"
* blocked *
What is wrong with people
Loving this tonight.
This is my favourite song of all time
Had a rescheduled second date in the sunshine today! We made each other laugh a lot, I definitely find him attractive and we had a lil smooch next to my car at the end. Third date set up for dinner on Thursday.
Managed to bump into one of his friends (why does this always happen to me on dates????) who apparently messaged him this evening to say she liked me a lot
Ahh always a good sign when the friends like you!!!This is my favourite song of all time
Had a rescheduled second date in the sunshine today! We made each other laugh a lot, I definitely find him attractive and we had a lil smooch next to my car at the end. Third date set up for dinner on Thursday.
Managed to bump into one of his friends (why does this always happen to me on dates????) who apparently messaged him this evening to say she liked me a lot
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