Dating after lockdown #18 Show me your c*ck and I will block

[Fledgling Psycho]

In time women will cease to have sex with any of these guys following their appalling behavior. Bloody tossers & wankers. Also the meditation isn't exactly enlightening him in how to treat people is it?

I just hope the sex was good! Generally that's rubbish too.

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

People are such assholes, I'm sorry he's messed you around

Thank you

What an idiot @whathastheworldcometo! It is his problem and his loss, please don’t blame yourself. I know it hurts now, but you are lucky you got rid of him quite early on. His behaviour is just trash taking itself out. I’m sure you will find someone much better soon!

Thank you so much for your kind words.
I kind of feel like I am done with dating. Why can't I find "the one"?

In time women will cease to have sex with any of these guys following their appalling behavior. Bloody tossers & wankers. Also the meditation isn't exactly enlightening him in how to treat people is it?

I just hope the sex was good! Generally that's rubbish too.

Thank you
Re his meditation: Yes, I thought so, too He is also into Buddhism... quite ironic, it seems.

I quite enjoyed the physical side of things, I even considered just having a FWB situation... but then I saw he updated his Bumble profile with the enriching words "zen, science, love" and figured that we wouldn't be exclusive anyway, maybe he is already seeing other women

 

[Rosieroo22]

Long time lurker who needs some advice…

ive been on 3 dates with this guy I met on Hinge, we have so much in common, he’s a great listening and a gentleman BUT I’m not feeling the sexual chemistry with him. All we’ve done is shared a quick hug which is fine, I’m not one to jump straight into sex but I don’t feel like I have the desire to kiss him.Should I call it quits now?He’s not unattractive but I do feel like there’s a block there. He hasn’t exactly been open about how he feels about me and he’s recently came out of a 3 year relationship which gives me concerns. We haven’t had any deep conversations yet, I do find it challenging to open up to potential partners but the lack of desire to kiss or touch him worries me. I don’t want to waste his or my time. He’s 30 and I’m 27, he also has braces (not that that’s an issue) but I think I get worried about kissing someone with braces and it being awkward.

 

[Thank(space)you]

Long time lurker who needs some advice…

ive been on 3 dates with this guy I met on Hinge, we have so much in common, he’s a great listening and a gentleman BUT I’m not feeling the sexual chemistry with him. All we’ve done is shared a quick hug which is fine, I’m not one to jump straight into sex but I don’t feel like I have the desire to kiss him.Should I call it quits now?He’s not unattractive but I do feel like there’s a block there. He hasn’t exactly been open about how he feels about me and he’s recently came out of a 3 year relationship which gives me concerns. We haven’t had any deep conversations yet, I do find it challenging to open up to potential partners but the lack of desire to kiss or touch him worries me. I don’t want to waste his or my time. He’s 30 and I’m 27, he also has braces (not that that’s an issue) but I think I get worried about kissing someone with braces and it being awkward.

Do you fancy him?

 

[UndrTheCosh]

In time women will cease to have sex with any of these guys following their appalling behavior. Bloody tossers & wankers. Also the meditation isn't exactly enlightening him in how to treat people is it?

I just hope the sex was good! Generally that's rubbish too.

Plenty of women are just as bad unfortunately - quite simply no excuses for either gender!

 

[Clickbait]

Plenty of women are just as bad unfortunately - quite simply no excuses for either gender!

I don’t believe women lie to men about wanting a relationship to get them into bed and then do a total 180 in their personality and what they’re looking for. There may be some who do, but it seems an awful lot easier to get sex from men without the need to lie.

 

[Sandor]

What’s everyone’s take on men following and engaging models/OF accounts?

Was talking about it with friends last night and was surprised how mixed it was. I’m totally confident in my flabby but fab skin, so it wouldn’t make me insecure but I really don’t like the misogyny of it, plus there’s the sex worker links to human trafficking. It doesn’t exactly show good judgement to be happy to have it on a public forum either.

My friends devastated her BF is following an account that’s literally an OF catalogue account. TBH I think I would be too.

But I was surprised how many friends were like it doesn’t matter, he’s with you etc.

We’re talking men in there 30s. I just think they should know better!

 

[Fledgling Psycho]

Plenty of women are just as bad unfortunately - quite simply no excuses for either gender!

If you mean there are women ghosting & blocking then yes but when it comes to lying to get sex because it suits you then no.

 

[unidentified]

I’ve started talking to someone new so far so good. Couple of things my head is saying run but I know that’s just my brain being silly so I’m going to keep chatting and see what happens. How long to people typically chat for before going on a date?

 

[Fledgling Psycho]

@Sandor It's such a modern phenomenon all this IG models, only fans, sex workers online and I loathe all of it. So no I wouldn't be happy but as a singleton I'm glad it's not a problem I have to endure, especially so as not to upset a man's "hobbies".

I’ve started talking to someone new so far so good. Couple of things my head is saying run but I know that’s just my brain being silly so I’m going to keep chatting and see what happens. How long to people typically chat for before going on a date?

A week or two maximum. If any longer is generally someone ego tripping on you.

Also don't write your brain off as being silly. Keep your wits about you and follow your instinct. It's there for a good reason.

 

[nobrains]

Girls I went to a party last night,got absolutely pissed and I've woken up to drunk texts and calls I made

 

[Fledgling Psycho]

Girls I went to a party last night,got absolutely pissed and I've woken up to drunk texts and calls I made

The occasional brain fart while embarrassing may be necessary for the psyche!

Hope it was a good night!

 

[nobrains]

The occasional brain fart while embarrassing may be necessary for the psyche!

Hope it was a good night!

It was a good night! Dancing to party tunes, bit of singing along to glamorous by Fergie and at one point I was on the trampoline

 

[Cammiebrett]

What’s everyone’s take on men following and engaging models/OF accounts?

Was talking about it with friends last night and was surprised how mixed it was. I’m totally confident in my flabby but fab skin, so it wouldn’t make me insecure but I really don’t like the misogyny of it, plus there’s the sex worker links to human trafficking. It doesn’t exactly show good judgement to be happy to have it on a public forum either.

My friends devastated her BF is following an account that’s literally an OF catalogue account. TBH I think I would be too.

But I was surprised how many friends were like it doesn’t matter, he’s with you etc.

We’re talking men in there 30s. I just think they should know better!

I've had this convo with my fella recently he follows accounts like this and I will be honest, it made me feel really insecure as I look nothing like those women. But he told me that he followed them before getting with me and they don't come up on his timeline...but he doesn't see it as a problem as its only looking x

 

[Bagpuss7]

I've had this convo with my fella recently he follows accounts like this and I will be honest, it made me feel really insecure as I look nothing like those women. But he told me that he followed them before getting with me and they don't come up on his timeline...but he doesn't see it as a problem as its only looking x

They are just fantasy women, it will never come to anything...I went through a phase of ooglin Sean Bean when I saw him in LOR years ago..Will I ever meet or marry him ? No of course not! Was it nice to drool over him ? Of course it was !

OF is just the modern day version of page 3..women being paid and earning good money to do their thing. And more power to them.

These men are with you because they choose to be, try and remember that.

 

[Cammiebrett]

They are just fantasy women, it will never come to anything...I went through a phase of ooglin Sean Bean when I saw him in LOR years ago..Will I ever meet or marry him ? No of course not! Was it nice to drool over him ? Of course it was !

OF is just the modern day version of page 3..women being paid and earning good money to do their thing. And more power to them.

These men are with you because they choose to be, try and remember that.

That's pretty much what he said...minus the Sean bean part
I think the women who get insecure about this (basically me) have insecurities anyway...so if I was more sure of myself and more confident then it wouldn't bother me? Xx

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

Long time lurker who needs some advice…

ive been on 3 dates with this guy I met on Hinge, we have so much in common, he’s a great listening and a gentleman BUT I’m not feeling the sexual chemistry with him. All we’ve done is shared a quick hug which is fine, I’m not one to jump straight into sex but I don’t feel like I have the desire to kiss him.Should I call it quits now?He’s not unattractive but I do feel like there’s a block there. He hasn’t exactly been open about how he feels about me and he’s recently came out of a 3 year relationship which gives me concerns. We haven’t had any deep conversations yet, I do find it challenging to open up to potential partners but the lack of desire to kiss or touch him worries me. I don’t want to waste his or my time. He’s 30 and I’m 27, he also has braces (not that that’s an issue) but I think I get worried about kissing someone with braces and it being awkward.

I had this situation a few times - if I don't fancy them, I don't kiss them let alone have sex with them.

I’ve started talking to someone new so far so good. Couple of things my head is saying run but I know that’s just my brain being silly so I’m going to keep chatting and see what happens. How long to people typically chat for before going on a date?

I second the 1-2 weeks guideline as suggested by fledgingpsycho

 

[Bagpuss7]

That's pretty much what he said...minus the Sean bean part
I think the women who get insecure about this (basically me) have insecurities anyway...so if I was more sure of myself and more confident then it wouldn't bother me? Xx

I'm sure it's most women that feel insecure but important to keep perspective. It's to be human to ogle the other sex ..we all do it! Laugh it off and remind yourself how lucky he is that he gets to kiss and be with you everyday

 

[Thank(space)you]

What’s everyone’s take on men following and engaging models/OF accounts?

Was talking about it with friends last night and was surprised how mixed it was. I’m totally confident in my flabby but fab skin, so it wouldn’t make me insecure but I really don’t like the misogyny of it, plus there’s the sex worker links to human trafficking. It doesn’t exactly show good judgement to be happy to have it on a public forum either.

My friends devastated her BF is following an account that’s literally an OF catalogue account. TBH I think I would be too.

But I was surprised how many friends were like it doesn’t matter, he’s with you etc.

We’re talking men in there 30s. I just think they should know better!

My best friend does OF & gets good money but it's not for me.
I know from her doing it, it's not as personal as it may seem. To her it is just income. BUT I'd not feel happy about a partner subscribing to OF. I'd much prefer they watched porn as they can't interact etc

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

Dick pics'll soon land you in the nick.

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