This is so true! I have this problem too, and I’m not even that extroverted. You sound like a fun and engaging person @TillyMiffin, do you think it’s possible that you just take the whole workload of the date on yourself instead of taking turns and having them do the talking? Next time maybe just try stepping back a little and see how he tries to entertain you. Have you heard of emotional labour? It explains a lot.I found this quite a lot with dating - because I’m polite and would ask questions etc. I would carry the date and at the end I was meh whilst they had love hearts in their eyes because I’d made them feel like they were the centre of attention.
Mr. GES just messaged me saying he was out drinking with his friends and that he was sad I wasn’t there 🥲 I’ll buy that, I think. But what would you ladies say? Given the circumstances, chances of us meeting IRL are rather slim, unlike these of him meeting a lovely German girl back home…