You don't owe anybody your time. If you're not wanting to go, that's perfectly acceptable and a valid reason. Just ping him a message saying you're really run down and tired and need to cancel.
I’m sure he will understand. For me to go on a date I need to feel excited but my friends would tell me to go give it a shot.
Women are conditioned to think we need to please people. And whatever the narrative about needy women is, my experience has been it’s men that are always obsessive earlier (though my theory is this is because in OLD they get less matches so if you’re the only one they’re talking to, they throw all their eggs in) so when we know we’re doing a ‘let’s just see’ date we tie ourselves in knots worrying if we’re being unfair.
100% spot on.
From my learning so far it's all just beliefs that our ego tells us rather than what our soul actually wants. Once you start digging down you find out where the story came from and then can work to get that go and recognise what you actually want. I've been officially single for many years - I had spent alot of time learning to be happy alone and I was. Granted I had the blip but that blip mirrored what I still needed to work on and he needed to enter my life to show that and now I'm happier than I've ever been. I've personally learned more about my blocks and issues via a certain academy and her teaching than many attempts of therapy has ever achieved. I know what I deserve. I've set my boundaries and I'm not even chasing "friends" anymore because I'm actually worth more than that. I was 100% the giver and wanting to make everyone else happy because my Mum did - hell even when she had terminal cancer she refused to stop working because "they need the staff" - she also allowed many toxic relationships in her life whether it was friends or partners. That will not be me in any situation - I realised I was following her pattern. If I want to do something I will and if it doesn't suit my higher energy then I won't and I'll be dammed if I feel bad. I always go all out for others birthdays and then find myself almost begging people to participate in something I have to plan myself!! Well no more.
I’m lonely. I think that’s why I want a partner. I did so much stuff on my own when I was married. We barely interacted. We separated over 4 years ago. I want someone to hang out with, do stuff with, have my back, I really miss affection (so much) and I want sex again!
The issue is that the answer is that you have to be truly comfortable with your own company and "love yourself" properly as nobody else is going to love you like you. I've been through the lonely phase and I'm feeling better as I know better things are coming. I would love someone to compliment my life now but I won't settle for just whoever to stop me feeling lonely at times.
I'm sorry you feel like this.
I don't really have any advice as such but when I lived alone and had moments of loneliness I would put on a podcast. Sounds bizarre and unhelpful but it was nice to hear people's voices having a chat while I was cooking, cleaning, walking around shopping. Made me feel less lonely cause it was real human voices in my ears.
See I find see lots of other people makes it worse
The posts by women on Nextdoor to start walking groups are always met with a lot of enthusiasm. I’ve seen three of them over the past year & a half. They’re very popular
A concert or a theatre show is really good for organising something as it pins it down and they're usually a good few months in advance. If money is tight then that might not be so possible though.
Loneliness is so incredibly difficult to deal with, it's only very recently that I've started to be okay with spending my weekend at home on my own.
and saw him coming out and asked if I could tag along. I did give him my number at the end ssaying if he wanted to go together again another time, but I don't want to come across as too strong. Going to leave the ball in his court now.
Aah this sounds like a rom com, keep us posted!A new guy moved into the flat next door. I originally met him last week when his dog literally stopped to look at me and got really excited. I've met him 3 times outside our street since then.
Today I bumped into him at 7am when I was leaving with my sister to go for a walk. He also does usually walk his dog at 6pm as that was the other two times that I've met him in the evening as I was leaving to collect my sister from work. He was cute and super easy to talk to. I also decided to leave for another walk too at exactly 6.05pm
I'm thinking of changing my walk times even though I'm naturally a morning person and I like going out early as I'm trying to get back into running.
