Coronavirus Disease Outbreak COVID-19 #37

[KateESJ]

I've always been happy to stay in but it's starting to have a significant impact on my mental health. Sadly I think it's because I've realised how lonely I am, as I don't even have anyone to see after lockdown is lifted - so I can't really solve it by meeting up with anyone. i've realised I've done it to myself to, I pushed many people away over the years so I can't blame anyone but myself.

I'm worried about my job as I don't think they'll be able to afford to subsidise furlough and if we open up again they won't need as many staff. I'm only part time there and I don't think they'll keep me when the rest of the staff are full time and way more flexible. And are just better at the job than I am. My anxiety affects my performance more than I care to admit. They'll either cut my hours right down or get rid of me entirely, either way I'll be screwed. I have a second job that I might be able to go back to soon but I'm not sure as I'll need childcare. My kids' childminder already has kids of a frontline keyworker (who are obviously more important than mine) so I don't think she'll be allowed to have any more.

I could do with proper therapy again and adult interaction. My therapist has suggested a face to face appointment soon as she knows I'm struggling. I'd meet up with old family who I haven't seen in years just to see someone but I doubt they'd want to risk their family for someone they haven't seen in over 8 years. I feel so stuck in a rut with my life right now. It took lockdown for me to realise it and I can't do anything about it because of lockdown. So I'm stuck in a dangerous cycle at the moment. I'm also having horrific night terrors that stick with me all day and keep me from being a suffient human, let alone a good mother. They're safe and looked after but shoving them in front of the TV or iPad is my favourite non-parenting tactic right now

Phewww. Feels good to get all that off my chest even if it's only half of it.

 

[Tublet83]

Imagine going to court because you got caught shagging your boyfriend

I have got a date for my daughter to go back to school. Suddenly all the parents that declared it would be like prison etc are wavering because they’ve found out they will have to teach them a full curriculum at home

 

[Oohthedrama]

I think it’s dying out all over, and I think that’s why so many governments are allowing people to mingle,

I don’t think it’s as serious as we’ve been lead to believe right now.

Interesting what the Italians are now saying regarding the virus weakening.

 

[MakeMineADouble]

People are bending the rules more and more, even those that have been following stringently from the get go. But I think it’s getting to the point people are willing to risk getting the virus if it means getting back to some sort of normality.

 

[KateESJ]

So you can go to the dentist but you cannot get your hair cut?
I don’t feel confident about going to the dentist to be honest. I thought when treatment is done particles become airborne? Surely there is more risk to catching it?
Am I being stupid? If I do t have a checkup now and wait six months will that be OK?

Dental health is more important than a haircut that is purely appearance based.

 

[Fmf17]

I have a home salon and I’m asking clients to wear masks. I will also be wearing one. No bags / coats bought in. Just a form if payment and a phone. No magazines on display. Bottled water only which is supplied by me. No bringing outside food and drink in. Sanitize hands on entering and leaving. It’s going to be different but it is what it is for a while

 

[Oohthedrama]

Intentionally or not it is abusive. Abusive includes damage to mental health and well being.

I certainly couldn't ignore a situation where a child is terrified because of what's been said by a parent. We shouldn't be scaring our children this way, it's bloody awful.

I think right now it’s hard to know how kids will behave over the next few months/years.

but at the same time it’s unfair to put any parent on blast or assume they’ll pass their insecurities onto their kids.
99.99999% of these kids will be fine, they’ll adjust because kids do.

there is always going to be real cases of abuse and neglect but I feel uncomfortable linking a parents worry over this virus (even if the kids have picked up on it) to the word “abuse”

just my opinion, not saying you’re wrong.
But in the environment you’re working in, you’re not working against the parent, you shouldn’t be viewing this as abuse, just as families that might need more support getting back to “normal”

a parent is not a bad parent because they’ve struggled during a pandemic and they’ve found it hard to hide those struggles from their kids.

 

[Hobbitsies]

I think we’re very lucky if climate is making a difference.
because good weather, protests,

the world is a fucking scary place right now.

I’m the nicest way possible this is completely different. POC have dealt with hundreds of years of systemic racism and the death of George Floyd couldn’t go without something being done. Is it a perfect time NO but when exactly is the perfect time to fight for rights because women were told it was a bad time, black Americans were told it was the wrong time in the 60s. It is always the wrong time to some people.

Revolution is messy and it always will be but it is required to get society to a point where everyone has respect regardless of skin colours.

Edit: I am aiming this at the tweet if you don’ agree with said tweet, cool

 

[kev1974]

I disagree that the death rate is high, 400 deaths a day on average in a population of almost 70 mil is not high in my opinion. Sadly most of those people will have been on their death beds already as well. I really dont think the country can be on hold any longer with those sort of numbers.

On average in the UK, 450 people die every day from cancer alone (in a "normal" pre-Covid year anyway) - this statistic is readily available. That's just cancer, doesn't include all the other common causes of death such as heart disease, road accidents, dementia etc. What they said at the start of lockdown when it was supposedly just for three weeks, was that the purpose of those three weeks was to buy some time for the NHS to regroup so as to be able to deal with Covid, train people, build the Nightingale hospitals etc (all now mothballed I believe), and that's fair enough, I understand why we did those initial three weeks.

But one you look at wider death statistics and realise that Covid-19 is nowhere near the big bogeyman of death that it's been made out to be, it's absolutely ludicrous that the nation is still locked down and largely non-functional. Now it does seem that Cheltenham caused quite a spike in cases early on, so by all means keep massive close proximity social gatherings like that shut down for this year, and also obvious cases like theatres where a lot of people sit close together in one big room for hours, share the same toilets etc (although if you ask me, if we can't have theatres and cinemas, then I'm screwed if I know why planes are still allowed). And there's a grey area over something like dentists, because a lot of saliva gets vaporised and ejected out of the mouth while something like drilling or teeth jetting is going on. But it's obvious if you follow the statistics, the bulk of deaths now are places like care homes (a lot of people receiving close care again) which ought to be possible to deal with through massive use of PPE. Everything else like family gatherings, hairdressing, clothes shopping should all be back open now until someone can show actual evidence of them being hotbeds of infection! Rishi's magic money tree / money printing press isn't going to pay for itself, we need to get back to work!

 

[prinnygrace]

If I can be inside busy shops with people who could’ve been anywhere, I can surely be inside a house with people I know haven’t been anywhere. I hope they think about this more in the next 2 weeks before shops open.

 

[birdiefly246]

I agree. LOUD protests are needed. I don't like the looting but you get bad eggs in all situations, and it is a small number of people amongst the thousands of people protesting. I am DISGUSTED at seeing the footage of police running people over with their vehicles, knocking them to the ground, pulling their masks down and gassing/pepper-spraying them, pulling a car over and smashing the windows of it and hurting the people. HOW DARE THEY. They are doing it so openly because they feel they can get away with it and this HAS TO STOP. There needs to be change!!

Not ideal with the Covid situation but George Floyd was just MURDERED in public by the police even though members of the public were begging them to stop. If black people are being killed so freely by the police, WHO are they meant to call for help??? We ALL need to be loud about this and have conversations with people we know about how change has to happen!!

Don't quote me on this but I'm actually pretty sure the point of looting in a protest is to prove the police have 0 power and their violent approach doesn't work because they're doing what they want. I saw that somewhere and apparently it's been a thing for years. Like i said don't quote me on that cause I'm not 100%.

Might be unpopular (and not directed at your post bubbletea at all. I agree with you!) but I'm sick to death of hearing people say "they need to protest peacefully". If I see it one more time I'm going to scream.
First thing where is the peace from the police in all of this??
Second thing, they've tried. MLK was peaceful and he was shot. Colin Kaepernick was peacefully kneeling and they didn't like that.
Final thing, nothing that's ever been done to black people has been peaceful. There hasn't been peace since america walked their asses into Africa and literally stole them. There wasn't peace when they were being publically lynched. There wasn't peace when they kept them as slaves. There wasn't peace when black people didn't have civil rights until 1964! Dying at the hands of the police is not peaceful.
Black America has never known peace.

And don't get me started on the UK cause we love to argue how not racist we are when we are in fact just as bad as america, we just don't have guns.

 

[CCnow]

Just got a phone call to say my routine operation will be going ahead in the next few months, I've got to self isolate for 2 weeks though before it. Husband is gonna have a fit having to fend for himself for the first time in 20 years fun times.

 

[imaginedragon83]

The only people I like hugging are my husband and my kids. I can do that so I’m ok.

I feel this is the only place I can say this, I’m enjoying not seeing people. I enjoy being at home pottering around and I’ve gained a new sense of confidence as the worry of people seeing me and judging me had gone down. I went out in a dress I’ve had for years but never worn as it was short and my arms were out. Husband said I looked amazing and the lady as the garden centre said it was really lovely

My mum keeps saying how she misses life and I agree as not to sound weird.

I feel exactly the same. I miss my parents and siblings and yeah I actually miss going to work. But other than that I love not having to see other people, I love not having to socialise

 

[bubbletea123]

Not read a covid thread for a few days now. But does anyone else ever feel like they just don't give a shit anymore and that things should reopen as more people will suffer mentally and die from losing their jobs, homes, sucide etc?
I don't always feel this way, I seem to flip flop. My fiancé's company is going to have to let people go so perhaps that's what it is. I'm just so over the economy being shut down. In alberta we have had 140 deaths out of 4.5 million people and 6,900 cases soooo yeah. Now of course, our numbers are not so bad as the provincial government reacted quickly and shut things down and is doing up to 9,000 tests a day, I realise that is why we are okay. My family back in the UK can't even have a proper funeral for my aunt that died, only 10 people allowed or something, yet there are only 5 or close to that active covid cases in the region. Lol.
I am sorry this is such a ramble and I know it it so negative but it is just my mood today.

 

[birdiefly246]

the women are really coming out on top in this shit show,
God I hate making comments like that

No idea who that Yvette one was yesterday but she left Boris near tears.

Yvette is a Labour MP and she absolutely ripped him to shreds. A major silver lining of this is watching women really show what they're made of in the face of incompetent men

 

[Spencerskates]

Now I’ve got a stammer, so I’m not one to talk (literally ) but how the fresh fuck is BJ our prime minister when he has all the eloquence of a flip flop?!

 

[Sausageparty]

Personally I cant wait to go to dentist im due a check up. They all wear ppe anyway before all this started so it'll be safe.

Boris and the government are an absolute shambles. Cummings needs to be sacked and I'm shocked hes being backed. I actually wish I lived in Scotland as i think nicola sturgeon has her head screwed on.

I've completely lost faith in the government, especially after the Cummings saga and Rishi tweeting about how nandos being open for takeaways is the good news we've all been waiting for. I find this incredibly insulting for reasons I won't go into as the good news I'm waiting to hear may come to late and its far more important than nandos and I know other people in the same boat who agree. The governments priorities are absolutely all the cock.

Don't even get me started on the Premier league re starting next month. Again not even a priority for the rest of the year. Who even cares. I find the whole shambles insulting as fuck!

 

[Abcd123]

Yes I know the person was saying they're worried people won't follow protocol in salons etc ..I'm saying we're only responsible for ourselves if you don't think it's safe you have a choice weather or not to use the service..

Yeah you do have the choice... But when people choose to go in the salon that isn't using PPE - catch covid - then go to Tesco 2 days later and then cough on me in a supermarket and pass on covid - that's the issue.

That is why we ALL should follow the guidelines and salons and every workplace should be reported and closed if they don't follow the rules as it basically a matter of life and death!

 

[Squarehole]

We had our first socially distant visitors today (scotland) I was worried how my toddler would cope but it was great. We set up our old playpen to block off part of the garden near our side gate and set a table and chairs up that I then sprayed with detol Also this bit has the outside tap so we put some handsoap out beside it.

My mum and dad came and brought their own drinks and snacks and sat for a few hours in their VIP area watching the kids play in their paddling pool and running about. They also kept bringing things from the house to show them. At one point the middle one tried to bring out a shoe rack to show them Toddler accepted he couldn't cross the fence and was happy chatting and playing. The kids were so excited when they arrived

So its my daughters birthday next week. We will be having people in the garden. Sticking to the numbers but what do you reccommend I should do for drinks and stuff?
I thought about buying a large tray of cupcakes disposable napkins (would be doing anyway as I'm no baker).
But what about drinks? I thought getting some bottles of water and cans of pop and leaving them in an iced bucket, to keep them cool.
There will be a birthday cake but dont think people will want to be eating a slice when it's no doubt going to be covered in kids spit

I think strictly speaking you shouldn't be giving anyone food and definitely not setting out drinks that more than one person can touch ? In Scotland we have been told to bring our own food and drinks of visiting people. If you are going to I would go for something in wrappers or boxes ? And leave hand gel for them ??

 

[leoladyxo]

I’m shielding and have been going out for a walk once a week anyway because I live in the middle of nowhere and barely see another person. I am worried for when the time comes to integrate back into normal society again. I hate the idea of having to go to the shop etc. My Dad asked to come and visit me in a public place and I told him no, because until I hear it from my hospital consultant or GP, I will be shielding until the end of June as originally told. It hasn’t magically become safe and with people meeting up in the numbers they are, I don’t feel ready to take the risk.