Delete the child from 2030 and save some money 
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I'm sorry, been there. I had The Talk with my friend about how we never meet just us ever, it's always the husband and sometimes the kid tagging along. She said she'll make an effort but didn't, so we drifted apart.I'm hoping it's ok to post asking for some advice in this thread as I don't really know where else to vent! I have a friend, C who I've known since we were about 2 (I'm 31). We've been friends but also had different life paths/she's very opposite to me (shes Christian, never smoked, drugs etc, small C conservative). 2 years ago I moved counties to where she also is, and had her kids (twins). I saw them when they were young but it's pissing me off that in the 2 years we've never met up just us 2. She said before she would come down to (my town), but because I don't have a living room she wouldn't be able to bring the girls downShe has a husband, why tf can't he look after them and we go out for coffee? Why can't we go out for drinks? It's ALWAYS me going up to her town, and then all we do is go round her house. I can't talk to her because it's always the girls feeding/nap time/entertaining them. I'm "Aunty__" then to top it all off for the last 7 months whenever she rings its for a 2 hour monologue about some family drama, every time. I dread answering her phone calls, she doesn't seem to give a tit about anything going on in my life. I was telling her about my recent trip abroad and she wasn't even listening. I'm not a bleeping counsellor! Its so one sided. We have nothing in common anymore, and I don't enjoy spending time with her and the kids, and the one time she did come to a works leaving do without them.all she did was bang on about them. Shes unhealthily attached to them theh wonders why they don't do well around others - you're not socialising them or making them used to other people!?? I'm not into kids but because I'm generally ok with hers for a few hours its "ou you'll be a great mum" I say "I don't really want kids" and shes all like "oh i was like that before I had them". No!!?! It's exhausting, I don't want to go round to see them ffs.
How can I cut contact slowly when we have mutual work friends in common, and I do like her I just feel like we've outgrown each other. She doesn't know the half of my life really?
Also everyone at my work has kids/wants kids and it's insufferable. Talking of work I needed medical time off for a colposcopy + biopsy last year but did I get it? Nooo! When I was booking it I said to the team oh I'm having to use annual leave or flexi and they said "what but its a medical procedure", I said yeah our policy says women are only allowed it if they're pregnant.
/end rant.
if your friendship is still important to you, I'd suggest letting her know that you love her but you can't be in this friendship if it goes on the way it does. But based on her attitude, I wouldn't be very optimistic. If you're already in different towns, you can tell her that you're not available for these kinds of phone chats etc anymore but if she wants to meet you just her, she's free to arrange a trip to your town, solo. At this point you already appear to have lost that friendship to her new priorities so what's the worst case scenario? At least you'd be released from the free counselor duty that has been pushed on you without your consent. Stick to your boundaries, it's exhausting to constantly be there for people who don't give a tit about you.
I saw a Tiktok at the weekend about an adults only petting farm session and absolutely loved the idea! There are so many things that adults could do that are now predominately 'children's activities', and I feel like adults only things are usually things that aren't child friendly. However, what a wholesome activity to do without kids taking over.
I'm not sure if this is the exact one from Tiktok but it's one if anyone is interested https://millersark.co.uk/opendays.aspx
I'm not sure if this is the exact one from Tiktok but it's one if anyone is interested
https://millersark.co.uk/opendays.aspx
There is a farm near me where you arent allow to go if you dont have a kid with you. Apparently this is to stop pedosI saw a Tiktok at the weekend about an adults only petting farm session and absolutely loved the idea! There are so many things that adults could do that are now predominately 'children's activities', and I feel like adults only things are usually things that aren't child friendly. However, what a wholesome activity to do without kids taking over.
I'm not sure if this is the exact one from Tiktok but it's one if anyone is interested
I might get a ban for this but not everyone is a pedalo or fancies your child…!
Sometimes, adults just fancy going to see some animals.
Doesn’t Legoland have the same rule that single adults are either banned or very frowned upon. I’m sure a guy had a hard time as he went along and wasn’t allowed in one section at all. I might be making this up tho.
EDIT:it’s the Lego discovery centres you can’t go to without kids
EDIT:it’s the Lego discovery centres you can’t go to without kids
'Accomplish anything you set your mind to' - this kind of harmful talk is what makes women feel like tit because for 99.9999% it's NOT. Unless you're very wealthy.Delete the child from 2030 and save some money
Exactly, or adults may enjoy a lot of activities that are now purely centred around children so that's why I quite liked the concept of the adults only petting farm. I think more spaces need to be made available for adults only (admittedly I haven't really looked into it before) but more and more feeling suffocated by people's kids in public spaces is just so off-putting
Totally. This so going to sound mad given he has me but my Dad actually really does not like children at all. We both can’t stand the overwhelming screaming so it’s limited where we can go nowadays. Cafes we used to go to have turned into crèches where you can’t get a table because parents are spending 3 hours nursing a singular coffee whilst little Timmy trashes the place.
Could have written this myself! I also like taking my parents to places for days out but restaurants, shops, cinemas, parks or anything like that are all now write offs due to the excessive noise and terrible behaviour. Not only are we missing out but so are the places on getting our £££. Wish they’d connect the dots and put their foot down about what is and isn’t allowed in these types of places. I really think they’d benefit as so many places are closing due to lower visitors, some of which have to be avoiding because of what we’ve mentioned
They really would. Retired folk and child free = generally more disposable income.
Considering how many adults are into Lego that is really discriminating on your target market!
London Zoo do adult evening sessions with cocktails!
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I am a big advocate for certain child free days. Places are for over 18s only on a few certains day a year. I am so fed up of the noise and shouting.
I went to Sainsburys on Friday afternoon at about 4pm. There was a school clearly going on a camping weekend and there were these kids (13-16) running around with trolleys, chucking stuff in, shouting to each other, sitting in the middle of the shop as they decided which sweets and two teachers just wondering around. Why?!
Nowhere near me but just seen this on Facebook
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that's nuts, it's not little kids who are buying the huge expensive collector's lego sets, it's adults! I get what they are trying to do but legos and zoos aren't like kids playgrounds. If we're going to be bleak about it, maybe they should consider how many pedalos are parents themselves. Is this really protecting the kids or do these brands just want to appear as if they've taken security precautions?
It’s similar with Disney. I’m not really a Disney person myself but I did have to laugh at a parent at work recently moaning that there were too many adults without kids at Disneyland and that this somehow ruined it for her not quite two year old 
errr alright. But imagine Disney said no entry without kids: the income loss would be massive, it would be a mental move to make. Many adults make Disney their personality, Lego is fairly similar
errr alright. But imagine Disney said no entry without kids: the income loss would be massive, it would be a mental move to make. Many adults make Disney their personality, Lego is fairly similarI got invited to Disney but declined cos I don’t want to be trapped with no escape with loads of screaming kids. Is there any week in the year where all kids in the world are at school?It’s similar with Disney. I’m not really a Disney person myself but I did have to laugh at a parent at work recently moaning that there were too many adults without kids at Disneyland and that this somehow ruined it for her not quite two year old
My dad had dementia and loved animals his whole life. His work experience was in a pet shop. I practically grew up in a zoo because he was always bringing home a new pet.
We used to get so many funny looks going out to petting farms and the like as a pair of adults, but he just wanted to pet the sheep and feed a goat or two. He wasn't interested in the children in the slightest and it insults me that that because we haven't got a toddler in tow our intentions are viewed as less than pure.
We need more child-free...everywhere! I'm aware that I'm particularly sensitive but I genuinely get a headache from children making a lot of noise in public. I was rather miffed one birthday when I specifically chose to go to a nearby pub that didn't allow children, only to see upon arrival that they were making an exception that day as it was a Bank Holiday. Thankfully, there wasn't too much noise.Nowhere near me but just seen this on Facebook
Honestly, one of the highlights of my year used to be going along to a local garden centre’s Christmas petting zoo. Sadly COVID put paid to that but I would get so many odd looks queuing up to stroke the animals. Not that I cared, I bloomin’ love a Pygmy goat and would be there for ages giving them a good scratch
oh bless him man. People are so cruel aren’t they!