One thing I’ve noticed a lot with mothers (it’s never, ever happened with a father, they hardly ever mention the kids when I ask these questions) is you ask them something like how are you? Did you have a nice weekend? or similar and they talk about their children and don’t even mention themselves at all.Jesus, how bleeping boring and self obsessed do people become when they have kids? Just had a text from a friend who I haven’t spoken to in ages. No how are you, what’s going on with you? The entire text was about her little darling who I have met once. It was a random completely out of the blue text. I was a bit miffed but replied politely saying “that’s nice. What are you up to this week?” Thinking oh maybe she wants to meet up for a drink and to catch up (completely forgetting it’s half term)
Dear God.
“It’s half term so I’m so busy with (her kid) we’re doing this on Thursday, Friday we are going to the farm, the weekend we’re going to blah blah blah”
Full run down of her weeks activities that I could not give two shits about.
Then I randomly get another standalone text later that afternoon.
“Currently waiting at the park and Ride with (kids name)”
Like…..Are you bleeping well?!
Why do I give a duck about that? Honestly, am baffled. How am I meant to respond to that? WHY would I possibly care about that? Why did she think that was interesting to tell me? Am I expected to reply to that?!
Honestly, it’s like you exchange your brain for your kid at birth. It’s embarrassing how socially inept and narcissistic people become when they have kids. Not everyone cares about the inane details of motherhood!
So I don’t mean oh yeah I had a nice weekend but the kids were ill Sunday so that wasn’t great or I’m ok but a bit tired because the baby isn’t sleeping well. I mean they tell me all about how their child is or what their child did all weekend and don’t mention one word about themselves, as if they don’t exist or matter at all. It’s half annoying because you can’t really have a proper conversation and it’s half really sad that they don’t mention themselves at all.