I'm overweight, always have been, and realise I have lots of food issues, which I'm working on! I agree that everyone has a right to feel and acknowledge their own feelings and choices.
The reason I chose not to wear a bikini and would cover up when on the beach was due to the awkward stares and snide remarks I may get from strangers around me. I decided a few years ago that I was not going to cover up and I would wear a swimsuit, and yes, I have worn a bikini. I figured life is too short to worry if a stranger thinks I'm a beached whale, and I want to make lovely memories with the kids in my life, splashing and playing in the pool/sea. That's my choice.
I agree that plus size influencers shouldn't be promoting being overweight, stuffing their faces with sweets and cocktails! And I certainly don't want to see pictures on Instagram of people in their underwear! There's just no need! x
And that’s fantastic for you! We should all be able to make our own choices about what we wear.
It’s the constant message of what we SHOULD be doing that gets me down. We should be wearing a bikini to make the most of life. That’s what gets me down. The assumption that I am not making the most of my life for the sake of what I am wearing.
For me, it’s not what other people would say or if they would look. That’s never even a thought for me because I genuinely never even register what other people wear. I am so wrapped up in my own problems that I never notice, and I honestly think most other people are the same way.
It’s how I feel. I wouldn’t feel comfortable. Not because of other peoples perceptions but because of how I feel about my body. I don’t like the way I’ve let myself look so I am continuing to do something about it. Wearing a bikini would make me feel worse about it, so I chose not to.
My SIL was off on one yesterday which made me annoyed about the whole thing. Telling me it was a shame that I wasn’t enjoying my time at a splash park with my toddler - becuase I didn’t want to wear swim wear.
In fact, I was having a perfectly lovely time in a t shirt dress, getting splashed and wet, I didn’t care. What I was wearing was an after thought, but it was obviously a problem for her.
ETA it started to piss my husband off too. He ended up saying to his sister “i’m in a t shirt and shorts, why aren’t you looking sad and telling me I am not having fun because i’m not wearing speedos?”
In any case, Emma parading round in ill fitting swimwear will never make me change my mind
not a size 18, not body confident.
