Morning, Tattlers: horrible day x I’ve had a visit from Mr Influenza, and can’t sleep for aching.
Her reference to Alf being a sensitive soul and W sitting is actually, I think, a tacit acknowledgment of his issues. Maybe she’s having him assessed behind the scenes? We live in hope. Neurodiverse children often hate their hair being touched - I certainly did, and still have a lot of problems with haircare - I can’t let it touch my neck or blow in my face, I hate having haircuts and so on. But I’m a grown woman who’s supposed to take care of herself.
Honestly, Ashley, take Alf to the barbers’. Bring the iPad and Peppa to ‘look after’ him. He may throw a blue fit, but children’s barbers are used to it. He may actually have fewer sensory issues if his hair is hacked off - which it really will have to be because, realistically, a child with sensory issues and that much matting will never let you untangle it at this stage. Once he’s had a haircut, use a leave-in spray conditioner and quickly comb it through with your fingers - and do it casually. Sensory issues mean our aenses are heightened to what we perceive as a danger. Responding calmly is the only way to go, however frustrating it may be.
@InTheDollsHouse I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I think the fact that your children want to talk with you nonstop shows what an amazing mother you are; if you weren’t, your teen would be in their room and your little one withdrawn. I wish I could offer you proper support, but just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. It will get better. Out of the dark days comes light, and you will appreciate the light all the more when the darkness recedes. Lots of love. Xx