Ashley James #37 Captions full of bollox, forehead full of Botox.

[hattie20]

She must be getting him help behind the scenes, surely?

No parent would watch a child of that age climb stairs like that and not freak out. There is clearly a problem and I hope that little boy is receiving the help with his mobility that he needs.

 

[SassyLad8]

I genuinely don’t think she sees a problem. She knows hardly any other kids that age and is adamant they all develop at their own rate. Remember there was a video in Frinton of them talking in the background about his mobility issues, it was just laughed off. He’s a “big lump” and I think her own narcissism means she couldn’t possibly have a child who isn’t as perfect as she is.

 

[potatoface431]

My eldest is autistic and when she was younger I had an awful time taming her hair, she often had matted bits and I tried every hairbrush in existence until I found one that felt gentle enough on her scalp. Used to spend hours sat in the bath or on the sofa untangling her hair by hand then brushing it through. Literal HOURS. If Alf has issues around his hair it’s going to take a lot of time and patience to keep it from looking a mess all the time. She would be better off having it cut really short as she definitely won’t put in the time keeping it nice.

 

[sasbeep]

Of course he hates having his hair brushed, those dreads are the result of months of neglect. Brushing through those would be agony for a toddler.
When he had short hair a year ago you can see that it’s actually quite soft shiny hair and not hard to maintain at all. As long as it was brushed regularly it would have never been sore for him and never would have matted like that.
If they don’t brush his hair because he doesn’t like it they are clearly barely brushing his teeth and again it’s crazy that he’s basically 3 and has never seen a dentist given the obvious concerns over his teeth.

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

It’s absolutely certain now that she put him in the Doona those two times, when she claimed he’d climbed in by himself.

Who lies about that?

 

[hattie20]

It’s absolutely certain now that she put him in the Doona those two times, when she claimed he’d climbed in by himself.

Who lies about that?

If he can’t walk up a short flight of stairs, there’s no way he could have climbed into that without tipping it over.

She’s a bleeping fantasist.

 

[Marmite.Crumpets]

Spoiler: Merail

I know a lot of people are saying she must be getting help behind the scenes, but I don't know that she is?!

Strangers on the Internet have noticed how delayed he is, but I think all she sees is that he isn't "insta" worthy.

I've spoken before about my oldest - we fought tooth and nail for YEARS to get his hearing sorted. Eventually, he's had grommets etc. But he's still do far behind because of how long it took. We take EVERYTHING going. Speech and language appointments, paediatric appointments to check for developmental delays / autism. The lot. We want to do everything in our power to make sure he feels supported and has the right care. I constantly worry about if we're doing the right or wrong thing. But Trash / TNB don't.

A lot of people have spoken about their own autism journeys / diagnosis and how isolated they felt "back then" but I feel like the tide has changed & people are a lot more accepting these days (but please correct me if i'm wrong?!)

my oldest HATES getting his hair washed. It used to be such a battle - he'd thrash about the bath, scream, shout, the lot! He still hates it, he still has a whinge - but we're persevered and it's no where near as bad as it could be if we just left him. The thing with being a parent is you have to pick your battles 100%, but also if it comes down to basic hygiene, you just need to put your foot down and deal with the consequences. What happens they become an adult in a job & get told to do something & they don't want to do it - are they going to have a tantrum?!

Bottom line of all this is, that Trash and TNB don't have any intuition when it comes to their kids. They don't really know their kids, and honestly it looks like they couldn't care less. Brush Alfie's hair - yes, he might not like it - but he'll eventually get used to it when he's distracted.

 

[screenfreelookatme]

I understand each child is different and develops at their own pace. However, compare him to Stacey Solomon’s daughter Rose, who I think is around a year younger. The difference is crazy.

Stacey’s youngest, who is slightly older than Ada, would have climbed the stairs at least as confidently as Alf did

Agree that you shouldn’t compare, but there’s benchmarks you expect children to reach and poor Alf is miles away. There’s no “we only see a small snippet” excuse. No typically developing child his age should have the mobility issues he does.

 

[graceanatomy]

Poor guy. My 13 month old can climb the stairs with more confidence/ease.
My gut feeling (tho defo may be wrong) is that he is actually getting outside help/treatment and she is purposefully not mentioning it and will announce it sometime in 2024 and be like "he's been going through treatment/getting support for 2 years already you asshole trolls I just didn't want to discuss it for XYZ reasons...." or something. I think she's so embarrassed that he's not the "perfect" child. I think that's why he remains strapped in his buggy with the iPad whenever they go anywhere public. she just wants him to be quiet and draw the least amount of attention to himself and give him as little opportunity as possible to demonstrate any of the behaviours she deems as non-perfect or difficult to handle etc. if she allowed him out of the buggy more to run about or 'socialise' then it may be more obvious that he had delays in development or was perhaps ND and she doesn't want people seeing that when they're out and about and she'd have no clue about how to help him or support him anyway. Even your average "toddler tantrum" I'm certain she would have no clue how to handle in public so she restrains them so it is less likely to happen rather than learn how to parent.

the thing ifind utterly baffling is that she could just NOT show all of these moments that don't paint her in a good light, or highlight neglectful behaviour, or are just plain weird/dubious. She doesn't have to document it and put it on her Instagram.. she chooses to...
someone mentioned above that she must have lied about him climbing into the doona himself as clearly he can't climb, and yes, it's super weird that she would lie about it.. because it's not like she was caught out ie. someone stopped her on the street and said he shouldn't be in there and she's quickly lied to cover face or something.. she's actively chosen to put it out there when otherwise no one would have known about it in the first place. It makes no sense unless she gets some sick buzz from being openly neglectful/in plain sight.

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

It’s absolutely certain now that she put him in the Doona those two times, when she claimed he’d climbed in by himself.

Who lies about that?

Quoting myself sorry but in case anyone hasn’t seen it:

“What are you doing in there” Alf replied “Mummy put it”

Ashley James #27 mum of two, Alf who?

Winning thread suggestion from @Micernice with 55 reactions. I am not going to be able to do as good a recap as @InTheDollsHouse, but we do need a new thread! Ash is still acting like she has one child. Alf seems to be NNb or TNB responsibility. Ada is getting carted here, there and...

tattle.life

The second wasn’t the Doona, my mistake, it was a dolls pram which is even less safe surely! It sounds like Alf says “mummy put in it” but it could be “mummy pausing it” as in pause the video and get that phone out of my face.
The background conversation cemented that he hadn’t ever climbed anything like that before. Why does no one close to them call Ashley out?
For fear of her reaction? Nana if you’re reading, Ash will never withhold the children from you, because she knows she needs you.

Ashley James #29 Full of Lies and Botox.

I assume that she thinks most people watch stories like that either without the sound or just hold to read any caption and then move on.... whatever the circumstances I don't think it shows her to be the nurturing parent that she wants to be seen as.

tattle.life

 

[willowtree2]

It’s their date day today and they’re with the nanny. Any normal parent would probably prioritise taking the kid with the hacked at hair to the hairdressers to get it sorted. But we all know where their priorities lie.
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This woman is utterly bizzarre. Who caveats they never wanted kids? Just say you have 2?

You gave the dog up cos it tried to attack Alf and have resented him ever since. You did find the cat and chose to leave it on the street and put it all on stories.

‘I still lie’. Yeah we know.

 

[Kooki]

My eldest took ages to learn to climb the stairs for a variety of reasons but mainly my fear of her falling and hurting herself as she had a broken leg at 2 from an accident at the childminder. So for the longest time I would encourage her to crawl up and down them because of my own anxiety. However my husband's step mum gently took me to one side and highlighted that she was now too old to be crawling and that I needed to teach her properly. And I copped myself on and sat there and bloody well taught her how to do it properly. Where are the other adults in Alfs life to do the same to his useless mother?

I wonder if her reluctance to check milestones is because Alf isn't meeting them? And because she's filled her head with the idea that milestones aren't important, she isn't going to bother worrying about them. I also wonder if she's decided that an ND child is negatively reflective on her and she's ignoring it in the hope that it will all go away.

 

[Sage245]

My eldest took ages to learn to climb the stairs for a variety of reasons but mainly my fear of her falling and hurting herself as she had a broken leg at 2 from an accident at the childminder. So for the longest time I would encourage her to crawl up and down them because of my own anxiety. However my husband's step mum gently took me to one side and highlighted that she was now too old to be crawling and that I needed to teach her properly. And I copped myself on and sat there and bloody well taught her how to do it properly. Where are the other adults in Alfs life to do the same to his useless mother?

I wonder if her reluctance to check milestones is because Alf isn't meeting them? And because she's filled her head with the idea that milestones aren't important, she isn't going to bother worrying about them. I also wonder if she's decided that an ND child is negatively reflective on her and she's ignoring it in the hope that it will all go away.

I wonder if that’s also why she’s so obsessed with Ada (who I don’t think is that aesthetically cute in a typical way) - because she at least isn’t challenged in terms of mobility or behavior (not Alf’s fault at all of course but Ashley will probably blame him for his short comings).

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

“Look trolls I’m going to the dentist and I’m clearly not taking Alfie so duck you all about his teeth”

Also her hair looks awful.

 

[ToolaRoola]

It’s their date day today and they’re with the nanny. Any normal parent would probably prioritise taking the kid with the hacked at hair to the hairdressers to get it sorted. But we all know where their priorities lie.
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This woman is utterly bizzarre. Who caveats they never wanted kids? Just say you have 2?

You gave the dog up cos it tried to attack Alf and have resented him ever since. You did find the cat and chose to leave it on the street and put it all on stories.

‘I still lie’. Yeah we know.

She's so full of tit. Useless with pets, even more useless with humans.

Can't wait to see where her day date takes her. Back to the same hotel she had lunch in last week or to Battersea power station?

 

[Kooki]

I wonder if that’s also why she’s so obsessed with Ada (who I don’t think is that aesthetically cute in a typical way) - because she at least isn’t challenged in terms of mobility or behavior (not Alf’s fault at all of course but Ashley will probably blame him for his short comings).

I reckon that she is so focused on Ada because she sees her as the chance to get the baby she 'deserves' rather then one who struggles and has any issues. And that's why she is always comparing them with Alf coming off badly all the time.

 

[totaltatt]

Is she talking about tattoos or children here?

 

[Sage245]

I reckon that she is so focused on Ada because she sees her as the chance to get the baby she 'deserves' rather then one who struggles and has any issues. And that's why she is always comparing them with Alf coming off badly all the time.

You’re right. I really really hope ada is a challenging toddler, but Ashley will probably keep her restrained and strapped to a pram/placated by a screen that her real nature will never come out

 

[willowtree2]

2 dates in 9 months and she thinks that’s hard done by. Try 2 in 10 years thanks to no childcare and living away from all family (our choice)

 

[Lurker121]

It’s their date day today and they’re with the nanny. Any normal parent would probably prioritise taking the kid with the hacked at hair to the hairdressers to get it sorted. But we all know where their priorities lie.
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This woman is utterly bizzarre. Who caveats they never wanted kids? Just say you have 2?

You gave the dog up cos it tried to attack Alf and have resented him ever since. You did find the cat and chose to leave it on the street and put it all on stories.

‘I still lie’. Yeah we know.

I thought exactly the same. You have two children! What awful kind of parent would feel the need to say that?!