Hey tattlers, thanks again for all your well wishes!
I decided to go with number three so I havenāt contacted him and removed him. Thought the best way was to just play cool and look completely unbothered so thatās what Iāve done. Iām okay, Iām not going to cry over him, itās so not worth it. More than anything it just makes you feel so embarrassed because like Iāve already said, now I need to explain to my family and friends, when I just told them about him
At this point Iām just frustrated in general with men and dating. I hate to generalise but from this thread it appears so many men act this way (or worse) and Iām just left wondering how many more times will I be screwed over? Part of me wants to give up with dating apps but then Iād have no way of meeting guys, even more so now with covid, but even if covid wasnāt a factor it would still be hard for me to meet guys (I also work in a very female dominated environment). Iām kinda losing hope that guys wonāt always be assholes.
As well guys are just so hard to read and they change their minds in the blink of an eye. Like in this instance, I think he just got spooked by how intense things were getting and maybe thought he wanted something more casual instead, which is mega frustrating because HE was the one to make it so intense. I imagine this happens with many guys, they are all in then suddenly get cold feet but.. why? Donāt go in so intense if itās going to freak you out! Haha itās really not that hard.
Should we as women be more assertive about what we expect? But then I feel like most guys would think you were a bit ācrazyā (yep their favourite word) and back off straight away. But then you think weāll that guy really wasnāt worth the time then but ughhh they are just impossible
But yeah maybe we should get a dating advice thread? Where we can share stories and advice (If there isnāt already one?) because it appears so many of us go through this stuff and I really enjoyed this girl chat with you all