I just read the whole thread and was so invested!! Sweetcorn, I'm so glad you made the right decision, you are worth more than some twat who wants to mess you around. I thought I'd share my ghosting story because me and my friends sometimes still laugh about it:
I met a guy through a new friend I'd made through my volunteering work in 2019. We really hit it off when we met and spoke all night at this bar we were at. We exchanged numbers and texted for months talking about what kind of dates we would have, before finally going on an actual date. On the date, he showed up 45 minutes late (!!!) but because we'd met through a mutual friend and had met before and got along I thought
"might as well wait because he seemed so cool when we met". He barely spoke for the first half of the date which was SO awkward, but I just thought maybe it's extreme nerves or something. Then he got drunk and started acting as chatty and cool as he had been over text and the first time we met. So basically he couldn't seem to form a sentence whilst sober lol
The date went really well in the end and we made vague plans to do it again. Then the slow freezing out started, which was bizarre because we had ideas for our next date. When I finally texted him after three days silence to set a time and place for a second date, he replied back in a really nasty and blunt way saying I didn't pay for anything the other night, so a second date wouldn't be happening. Even though 1) I had offered to pay for drinks and 2) if it was such a big deal, I would happily have sent him some money.
Needless to say, he never replied, I felt like I had dodged a massive bullet. What upset me the most was the mutual friend we had met through who I really liked hanging out with ghosted me too. Guess they were a group of dickheads, eh?