Hi hens, trolls and tattlers.
I drafted this then deleted then drafted and deleted then reading the post above I thought I'll just post as part of my fuck it year...
Me again, with ma bespoke mental health thoroughly better than it was before, chanting mysel, ma GP, ma pharmacist and ma formally qualified counsellor oan fae the rooftops.
Sitting in ma big wealthy hoose greeting for a couple of months helped me so much. Also, with a clearer head it's easier to reflect and learn.
I've mentioned before that I "gutted" ma hoose a while ago including loft and garage, and kept it that way and felt so free but really struggled for some reason that time Maz bought 4 Christmas trees as he couldn’t find the first 2 in his safe space.... turns oot I was slightly obsessive (the diagnosed kind with the compulsion that my oesophagus spasmed at the thought of clutter).
I grew up in a lovely home, but my wee maw was a hoarder due to her own childhood poverty and adult experience of mental health. She was also a cleaner by profession and hobby. These 2 passions of hers, hoarding and cleaning, probably helped keep her stable but also obviously conflicted with each other. Awful all round, boom decades later here I am.
My wee maw has also done loads of inner work. That same childhood home of mine is still immaculately clean and disinfected for hours per day, but it's also clear of stuff as she feels safer now. Funnily enough she'd decorate several times a year and still does, but without constant spending on tat she's been able to invest in her garden, proper reno (although she's gone on a wee French doors twice in 2 years journey, ffs nobody's perfect I suppose).
Anyway, essentially I agree with the poster above. Alot of what we've seen trend in recent years is actually mental illness or neurodiversity as opposed to healthy lives and home environments. It's wild. When the Internet is far better governed and regulated in the future we'll look back at this time and see how sad and vulnerable Maz etc actually were.
A wee novel of my life for those of you who enjoy reading of books.
And special chanting for my incredible wee maw who looked after everyone her whole life and is now learning to look after herself. She canny even keep a book she's just finished now, straight to the charity shop it goes.