I think they've both been round long enough for Amanda to realise they're probably not going anywhere. Amanda wouldn't be alone in favouring the son over a daughter. Irish sons would be seen the same way by their mammy's.I definitely agree that Amanda seems like she’d be pretty controlling. But she does seem to have an ok relationship with Zoe and Sean. They joke around between them and from what we see in vlogs she seems to treat them like part of the family.
She’s obviously got an opinion on what her kids should be doing and wants then to follow in her footsteps. But I’d imagine that if she wasn’t a fan of Zoe then Zoe wouldn’t have made it much past the first date…
To me she seems like the type to favour Alfie since he’s the son. So I’d imagine she’s more controlling with him. It would explain why poppy is so loud and obnoxious all the time, she’s probably grown up trying to get mums attention away from the golden boy.