Feeling exhausted but too restless to sleep
Just to say obviously when they come I'll be super friendly but until then I'm gonna complainMy husbands Uncle that isn't actually his uncle and family are coming to visit today. He knows I'm not happy about it because I've told him 282538 times but he hasn't cancelled it. They are coming at 4pm and have booked a hotel. Why don't they come at 11 and leave at 4 ?! Then they would be able to get home, they are coming from Bristol. We could have gone out for lunch. 4pm ffs. I can't even say let's go for a walk and let the kids go to the park because it'll be dark so will have them sat in my house entertaining them for hours. Could have booked dinner but they are like no its fine we'll eat at yours. A booked hotel must mean they want to stay late?! Who can create a family emergency that I just have to go to at 3.45
Just feeling unsociable and we have so much to do, now we're going to have to tidy the whole house as we have a doer upper and they haven't seen the renovations so far. Spring time would be so much better but husband just ignores me
BRB, going to chuck myself down the stairs
Just quoting myself to add to my original moan about my daughter receiving £35 worth of birthday gifts from the grandparents and her cousin £170.New to this thread but I'm glad I found it as I just want to have a moan. My daughter is an only child, she lives with me and her dad, we both work. Her cousin is an only child and lives with her mum (my sister-in-law), she's school age and her mum doesn't work. So my daughter and her cousin have both just had birthdays and are about the same age. My husband's parents spent £35 on my daughter for her birthday, yet for her cousin £170. I was really shocked about this as the presents were gifted in front of us all, I understand they may choose to spend more on the cousin as they aren't as financially well off as us, but the gift was really extravagant, especially given her age and the fact it's from the grandparents. It was then said the main gift was also for Christmas, which still works out to £100 when you include the other birthday gifts. But I'm not sure it is a joint gift to be honest as I doubt it will affect how much they spend on her at Christmas. I also picked up last year too that this had happened via Facebook photos, but it wasn't such a financial difference.
It's not just gifts though, it's also down to days out, being invited out, spending time together.
Have you, or your husband ever said anything to the grandparents about this! Seems very unfair. I totally get the mum is a single mum and they wanna help a bit but it seems a bit excessiveJust quoting myself to add to my original moan about my daughter receiving £35 worth of birthday gifts from the grandparents and her cousin £170.
At the time of the cousins birthday, the grandparents claimed the extravagant gift was a joint birthday and Christmas gift. Well it certainly hasn't affected how much they spent on the cousin at Christmas. The grandchildren got roughly the same toys and books but then the cousin got extras such as clothes, a trip to the Panto and a visit to a top rated expensive grotto.
Now the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, as I knew it would happen. What has bothered me is that they bought my daughter gifts based on what the cousin likes. Three of the gifts she has no interest in, and two others are more age appropriate for the cousin as they are a year older.
Although the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, must admit it does bother me about the days out, as my daughter would love to go out and have fun with her grandparents but doesn't get that opportunity.
People will always have favourites. If you say anything you will look bad. That is what I think, I could be wrong I often am as I don't have kids.Have you, or your husband ever said anything to the grandparents about this! Seems very unfair. I totally get the mum is a single mum and they wanna help a bit but it seems a bit excessive
282538, such a precise number, glad you kept count.My husbands Uncle that isn't actually his uncle and family are coming to visit today. He knows I'm not happy about it because I've told him 282538 times but he hasn't cancelled it. They are coming at 4pm and have booked a hotel. Why don't they come at 11 and leave at 4 ?! Then they would be able to get home, they are coming from Bristol. We could have gone out for lunch. 4pm ffs. I can't even say let's go for a walk and let the kids go to the park because it'll be dark so will have them sat in my house entertaining them for hours. Could have booked dinner but they are like no its fine we'll eat at yours. A booked hotel must mean they want to stay late?! Who can create a family emergency that I just have to go to at 3.45
Just feeling unsociable and we have so much to do, now we're going to have to tidy the whole house as we have a doer upper and they haven't seen the renovations so far. Spring time would be so much better but husband just ignores me
BRB, going to chuck myself down the stairs
Just to say obviously when they come I'll be super friendly but until then I'm gonna complain
Sounds like the grandparents have a favourite I was the unfavourite grandchild. That sucks, the grandparents should be more sensitive to how this stuff comes across to the grandchildren.Just quoting myself to add to my original moan about my daughter receiving £35 worth of birthday gifts from the grandparents and her cousin £170.
At the time of the cousins birthday, the grandparents claimed the extravagant gift was a joint birthday and Christmas gift. Well it certainly hasn't affected how much they spent on the cousin at Christmas. The grandchildren got roughly the same toys and books but then the cousin got extras such as clothes, a trip to the Panto and a visit to a top rated expensive grotto.
Now the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, as I knew it would happen. What has bothered me is that they bought my daughter gifts based on what the cousin likes. Three of the gifts she has no interest in, and two others are more age appropriate for the cousin as they are a year older.
Although the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, must admit it does bother me about the days out, as my daughter would love to go out and have fun with her grandparents but doesn't get that opportunity.
If your parents aren’t capable of providing the same for your daughter maybe get your husband to have a chat with his parents. Otherwise, I think it’s assumed that parents will do more for their daughters children. SucksJust quoting myself to add to my original moan about my daughter receiving £35 worth of birthday gifts from the grandparents and her cousin £170.
At the time of the cousins birthday, the grandparents claimed the extravagant gift was a joint birthday and Christmas gift. Well it certainly hasn't affected how much they spent on the cousin at Christmas. The grandchildren got roughly the same toys and books but then the cousin got extras such as clothes, a trip to the Panto and a visit to a top rated expensive grotto.
Now the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, as I knew it would happen. What has bothered me is that they bought my daughter gifts based on what the cousin likes. Three of the gifts she has no interest in, and two others are more age appropriate for the cousin as they are a year older.
Although the extra gifts hasn't bothered me this time, must admit it does bother me about the days out, as my daughter would love to go out and have fun with her grandparents but doesn't get that opportunity.
Had to cancelled it, didnt notice the time (4:30)Finally got my letter yesterday morning for a hospital appointment for the 17th at my local hospital
Today get another letter cancelling that one and giving me another for the 20th at a hospital 30 miles away that I have never even heard of. OK it's doable and non-urgent although its affected my mobility and I will never get that back
A whole other story is my brother who has aggressive prostate cancer has had his urgent radiotherapy put back till mid-Feb
This whole thing is a shitshow and needs to stop, there are other things besides covid and the service is failing them badly