I’m a wannabe plus size model.. always told myself next year next year... we’ll now I’m 33, divorced, no kids and I have nothing to my name. My whole life is one whole regret tbh
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Honestly - spending too much time worrying about things I regret 
we can’t change the past, when I make mistakes or bad things happen I try to look for all the positives which may just be making sure I learn not to make the same mistake again. Life is short.
we can’t change the past, when I make mistakes or bad things happen I try to look for all the positives which may just be making sure I learn not to make the same mistake again. Life is short.
Not putting any money aside for savings when I was younger working full time and just throwing it away every month
Not travelling more before I had a child
Please don’t judge but, not waiting till I was a bit older to have a child I was 21 when I got pregnant but my partner had been told he couldn’t have children and he’d tired previously with another partner so it didn’t feel right to not have the little one
Not travelling more before I had a child
Please don’t judge but, not waiting till I was a bit older to have a child I was 21 when I got pregnant but my partner had been told he couldn’t have children and he’d tired previously with another partner so it didn’t feel right to not have the little one
Another one... Over the years I've drifted apart from friends, I know this happens but when I look at all these friends they are all still so close to others who we were friends with too. It's the case with most of the different groups, I've obviously come to realise it must be me 
I don't know what I do wrong, I wish I knew what it was 
I don't know what I do wrong, I wish I knew what it was Most of my regrets actually stem from things I’ve done when I’ve been drunk which should probably be the reason I stop drinking but for some reason I can’t, I don’t drink regularly but when I go out I go OUT, I mostly have a good time, but it’s the next day when I feel terrible. I think it’s because of anxiety too, it makes everything seem worse then it actually is.
The one other regret I have is not learning to drive when I was 17! Im 31 now and learning and oh my days I hate it if I have children the first thing I’m doing when they’re 17 is getting them driving lessons whether they want them or not 
The one other regret I have is not learning to drive when I was 17! Im 31 now and learning and oh my days I hate it
if I have children the first thing I’m doing when they’re 17 is getting them driving lessons whether they want them or not I feel like I wrote this comment???? I did the exact same thing. Did you finish 6th form in 2005? I had the exact dilemma. I ended up doing a course which was a total waste of time. But I made that choice on results day and moved away 2 weeks later. I stayed living away for 10 years!
This happened to me too. My only friend from a large group of friends at uni died 2 years ago and I don’t speak to anyone else. I have made the effort to contact people who I no longer speak to and they don’t bother responding so I assume it’s me. I personally think social media is to blame for this feeling. If I didn’t see them socialising with the same people, would I feel the same?Another one... Over the years I've drifted apart from friends, I know this happens but when I look at all these friends they are all still so close to others who we were friends with too. It's the case with most of the different groups, I've obviously come to realise it must be me
I am so sorry you lost your friend
I totally agree about social media, as its where I see alot of my old friends being together etc, I even see them all tag eachother in posts that remind them of the past or something and they don't even add me, it's like I wasn't there, might sound pathetic, I'm happy, I'm married with children but it still hurts a bit. I did come off social media for a bit, it was nice to have the break to be honest.
I feel this, social media has to blame for a lot of feeling like you don’t fit it, I wasn’t invited to a wedding of a guy who I’m not friends with but was in the group of friends I was in and it still plays on my mind now, I wouldn’t invite him to my wedding but still bothers me, it was over a year ago but in the city I live in
There’s a few things that come to mind
- staying with my ex too long during my teenage years wasted way too much time
- not saving enough money, wasting it on clothes/makeup doesn’t make you happy in the long run
- being too hard on myself in school, I was so self conscious and hated the way I looked, if I could go back in time I’d tell myself not to care what anyone else thinks and stop letting people push you around
- going straight to university after school, I was only just 18 moved away from home to do a course I didn’t even want to do. I’ve got a degree in something else now but I wish I’d taken a year out to decide what I wanted to do first
- not spending enough time with my grandparents and listening properly to all their stories. At the time I felt like they’d be around forever now I regret not asking more questions about their lives
- staying with my ex too long during my teenage years wasted way too much time
- not saving enough money, wasting it on clothes/makeup doesn’t make you happy in the long run
- being too hard on myself in school, I was so self conscious and hated the way I looked, if I could go back in time I’d tell myself not to care what anyone else thinks and stop letting people push you around
- going straight to university after school, I was only just 18 moved away from home to do a course I didn’t even want to do. I’ve got a degree in something else now but I wish I’d taken a year out to decide what I wanted to do first
- not spending enough time with my grandparents and listening properly to all their stories. At the time I felt like they’d be around forever now I regret not asking more questions about their lives
Thanks. She was an amazing person and I cherish our friendship so much. I miss her everyday. She did make me realise that true friendship will last a lifetime. I know that the memories we made will stay forever and I value them more than I would having a false friendship with people who cannot be bothered with me.I am so sorry you lost your friend
I totally agree about social media, as its where I see alot of my old friends being together etc, I even see them all tag eachother in posts that remind them of the past or something and they don't even add me, it's like I wasn't there, might sound pathetic, I'm happy, I'm married with children but it still hurts a bit. I did come off social media for a bit, it was nice to have the break to be honest.
I too have a family now. I am a totally different person to who I was when I knew most of the people it bothers me about. But it still bothers me. I also look at the way some of them treated me when we were friends and I know the right thing would be notto be bothered, but I am.
have you lost any friends having children? I have lost one friend who I considered to be one of my best friends. We lived together, he stayed with my family, I got him two jobs but I had my son last year and he no longer bothers with me x
Sounds like you had an amazing friendship and it's so nice you have many memories to cherish
No i haven't had it from having kids, but it's such a shame that your friend has done that after everything! Mine is from loads of different friendship groups from school age ones to one's not so long ago where it just seems to be me that's not part of it anymore, I just wonder what it is I do to push these people away
it's not like I've fallen out with anyone. I am having a bit of a tit year and I think it's bothering me more because I'm realising how much life is to short for it all xWe also have a lot more time to think at the moment. I have found deleting and blocking people on fb helps. It helps my mental health. If that isn’t possible, then I unfollow. I soon forget about them. Maybe in a few months I remember but long term, it helps xSounds like you had an amazing friendship and it's so nice you have many memories to cherish
No i haven't had it from having kids, but it's such a shame that your friend has done that after everything! Mine is from loads of different friendship groups from school age ones to one's not so long ago where it just seems to be me that's not part of it anymore, I just wonder what it is I do to push these people away
I regret not making a better decision about what I wanted to do when I left college. I just left and then got a job 2 weeks later and was there for 10 years. I wish that I had taken the time to do a night course and really aimed higher and not been doing crappy admin work for the last 13 years now. I feel like I don’t have a lot to be proud of when it comes to my working life and I regret that. I regret that it means that I won’t ever earn much, regret that it means I can’t give my child the best life they could possibly have, I regret that I will have to work till I’m 70 because I won’t be able to afford to give up.
I also regret sleeping with a meth addict but there we go
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I also regret sleeping with a meth addict but there we go
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Learning a different language in school we were learning French and i wish i would have paid more attention. I'm now learning Romanian and I have to admit that I absolutely love it.it would have been nice at the time to add it on a CV. Even my kids say they wish I'd have made them learn an extra language and it makes me laugh because I tried and they laughed at me so yeah now they're learning languages too
2 years of taking anti depressants instead of working on the root cause cause of my anxiety/ depression.
Also I generally eat stuff and then regret it straight after because I eat impulsively without thinking.
Also I generally eat stuff and then regret it straight after because I eat impulsively without thinking.
I can relate to this! I had my daughter at 18 and although I don’t ever regret having her everything I do is for her. I’m a single parent working shifts and feel guilt for her having to stay elsewhere 3 nights a week for this that my life is work and home to her. She’s now nearly 13 and unbelievably hard work at times. I’m sure she’s autistic but every avenue I go for support we get a door slammed in our face (ASD is massively under diagnosed in girls). As much as I love her I want a life. I regret never going wild.You know what, this is going to sound mad - but I regret not going off the rails a bit more when I was younger. I never really had that “rebellious” phase and I was always very sensible and focused on getting good grades and not upsetting anyone! I just wish I’d been a bit more wild when I could get away with it. Bit embarrassing to be trying to re-live my youth at the age of 31
I also regret pushing my ex away after my mum died. Over 5 years on and I’m still in love with him while he’s married and living in another country.
Another...I regret thinking I was fat when I was a curvy size 8. Had a great figure! Now I’m a size 20 and keep eating my feelings away
Have been away from this site for a month or two for no real reason but reading this thread reminds me why it’s not just your average Internet forum. Peoples honesty for one thing and the kindness and solidarity in the responses. Really special guys 
(sorry to be cheesy)
Also interesting how many regrets stem from bad decisions made at leaving school age- either not saving or doing the wrong degree or not doing a degree. I feel like 16-18 year olds could be advised better in what’s right for them. It’s a difficult age. You do think you know it all. I have lots of regrets about wasting my twenties in various ways too and do feel worried about the future in the way I didn’t five or ten years ago (I’m 30).
(sorry to be cheesy)Also interesting how many regrets stem from bad decisions made at leaving school age- either not saving or doing the wrong degree or not doing a degree. I feel like 16-18 year olds could be advised better in what’s right for them. It’s a difficult age. You do think you know it all. I have lots of regrets about wasting my twenties in various ways too and do feel worried about the future in the way I didn’t five or ten years ago (I’m 30).
Divorcing my husband. He was a good and kind man, and I threw it all away for some hot bit of stuff without any empathy or kindness at all. I was such an idiot.
My best childhood friend and I spend pretty much all our free time and holidays together for 15 years. It was platonic but he was absolutely the most important person in my life and we were part of each others families. His grandmother would even give me heirlooms before she passed since her children didn't have a daughter of their own. Then he got himself a girlfriend abroad who was very insecure (his words). Because she didn't live in the same country she did things like making suicide threats publicly on Facebook if he hung out with me or things like faking pregnancy scares so he was an absentminded mess when she was gone. He stopped our friendship for her, mainly by ghosting me and it broke my heart even though I did get it for the most part. I didn't have romantic feelings for him and really wanted him to be happy with a life partner.
She dumped him shortly after but our friendship never recovered since she kept stringing him along and he felt like if he would not hang out with me he could win her back. It's silly because in the end we drifted apart so much. But I still feel sad at times that he never met my husband and that we couldn't all have been,at the very least ,friends. Now too much has happened.
She dumped him shortly after but our friendship never recovered since she kept stringing him along and he felt like if he would not hang out with me he could win her back. It's silly because in the end we drifted apart so much. But I still feel sad at times that he never met my husband and that we couldn't all have been,at the very least ,friends. Now too much has happened.