it is gross and scabby but I don’t care. Obviously if it was an actual friend I would but not for an obligation invite that I have to attend. I’ve already been to their day and congratulated them to their face.How grim, are they not friends of yours to invite you to their wedding? Imagine being so gross on purpose to not even provide a card giving friends well wishes
Hahaha I know.it is gross and scabby but I don’t care. Obviously if it was an actual friend I would but not for an obligation invite that I have to attend. I’ve already been to their day and congratulated them to their face.
side note: of the 2 threads, I love how this is where you draw the line
Yes! I totally agree with you. I recently attended a wedding and between the hen do, gifts, hair, hotel etc I added up I nearly spent £1000… I haven’t had a holiday for over four years. I would like to take my son on his first holiday abroad soon. They wrote a little poem in their invites basically asking for cash instead of presents. I just think it’s really vulgar to ask for money imo. They spent £25k on the wedding… and why not keep a little and pay for the honeymoon themselves?
Also just to add I think some people forget there’s a cost of living crisis going onYes! I totally agree with you. I recently attended a wedding and between the hen do, gifts, hair, hotel etc I added up I nearly spent £1000… I haven’t had a holiday for over four years. I would like to take my son on his first holiday abroad soon. They wrote a little poem in their invites basically asking for cash instead of presents. I just think it’s really vulgar to ask for money imo. They spent £25k on the wedding… and why not keep a little and pay for the honeymoon themselves?
they deserve it cause I bleeping hate weddingsHahaha I know.
I think it was just because most times you do something Petty to someone is because they deserve it - not because they invited you to their wedding
A taxi driver said to me one time that he sees a wedding invitation in the same way as he sees an invoice or a bill of any sort, dropping through the letter box. Not really welcome. It's true, I guess.Yes! I totally agree with you. I recently attended a wedding and between the hen do, gifts, hair, hotel etc I added up I nearly spent £1000… I haven’t had a holiday for over four years. I would like to take my son on his first holiday abroad soon. They wrote a little poem in their invites basically asking for cash instead of presents. I just think it’s really vulgar to ask for money imo. They spent £25k on the wedding… and why not keep a little and pay for the honeymoon themselves?
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Also just to add I think some people forget there’s a cost of living crisis going on
. I always give money and a card.I always give money too unless they have a tacky poem requesting money which I’ll then give a presentA taxi driver said to me one time that he sees a wedding invitation in the same way as he sees an invoice or a bill of any sort, dropping through the letter box. Not really welcome. It's true, I guess.
I have never received a money or gift request with an invitation, thankfully
That’s mad, I was married a few months angk and our guests were really generous . We are Irish so money is the norm, we didn’t receive any gifts other than frames etc along side money from family.
I think it's absolutely fine to ask for money rather than presents. I don't see the point of getting people random stuff they don't need and wouldn't choose themselves while contributing to the honeymoon for example makes sense. But it shouldn't be an expectation to always give something or to give a certain amount, especially when some people expect you're basically to give what they're paying to have you at the wedding which could even be like 100pp.Yes! I totally agree with you. I recently attended a wedding and between the hen do, gifts, hair, hotel etc I added up I nearly spent £1000… I haven’t had a holiday for over four years. I would like to take my son on his first holiday abroad soon. They wrote a little poem in their invites basically asking for cash instead of presents. I just think it’s really vulgar to ask for money imo. They spent £25k on the wedding… and why not keep a little and pay for the honeymoon themselves?
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Also just to add I think some people forget there’s a cost of living crisis going on
A friend of mine is South African but lived most of her life in Ireland having moved in her early 20s. Her sister did too but later moved to the UK. When my friend's nephew got married the wedding was mainly Irish and UK guests. My friend said before they even read the card that they could tell whether the guest was from Ireland or the UK just by the amount of money in the card. With the Irish always being more generous. She said some UK guest put coins in the card.
Coins???? Stop that!!!!
we got between 100 and 250 from each guest, but out of the English invited we got nothing, and 50-100 from those who were part Irish or lived there.We were so lucky a few family members and family friends gave us £500-£1000, we had some guests give is £10-£50 and that was appreciated just as much. We were really overwhelmed opening our cards. I’d also love to say we saved the money or spent it wisely but instead we used it as spending on our honeymoon and made the best memories drinking the best cocktails
Ya I feel bad giving her example as I know not everyone is like that. I'm Irish and my closest friend got married a few years ago. I was her chief bridesmaid. She paid for everything for us and even paid for a night in the hotel the night of the wedding. Between the physical gift and cash I gave her just under 500 euro. I think the going rate for regular guests is at least 200 euro where you have a plus one.Coins???? Stop that!!!!
It’s not petty, it’s just rude in my opinion. Maybe I’m just brought up differently from you but even a card to say congratulations on getting married would be given even if I didn’t have money. Do you not want to say congratulations to them? It’s not a flex saying what you have put. Shows lack of class and decorum especially if you were invited to celebrate with them.
I agree. It's not mandatory to attend weddings, they could always say no if they don't want to congratulate the couple
Maybe it’s just me but I think that’s cunty rather than petty.Right, which one of you is this
Not sure why you’re so offended by it that you’re willing to be insulting but honestly, I’ll take being rude and having no decorum or class on this one. No i don’t want to say congratulations because 9/10 I haven’t seen them in years and didn’t even know they were in a relationship until I got the wedding invite. Obviously if it was a close family member or friend then I would make an effort but a cousin who I haven’t seen in 10 years who has invited me to the evening party out of obligation. No, not wasting my money on it. I’ll say congratulations to their face if i attend, even though they won’t notice or care whether I’m there or not. I am one of 19 cousins. Some of whom are on their second or third marriages. Yes I could send a card but truthfully I don’t care enough to and it’s not like they will notice or care anyway.
I could say no to the invite but social etiquette dictates you still have to send a card and present to say congratulations cause you haven’t attended
