What do you want to rant about today? #10

[strawberrysunshine_x]

I have a nice day out planned. Its going to take 40 mins to get there. I like being early to places to ensure we get a nice parking space (yes I'm that person that googles parking and worries about parking situations) I am still waiting for the teenager to rise from his pit. I've been in and called him twice and he's said yeah I'm coming. I would have liked to have left at at least 9am. We're not going to get there until after 10 now.
Tiny in the grand scheme of things and sometimes I hate being an early bird but I hate being "late".
Some of my friends don't start their days until after 11 and it makes me itch

Just leave him at home? . If he is old enough of course

 

[Chocolategoggler]

Naaahhh there will always be things that are irritating about a partner but being a bit lazy in terms of cleaning is not a relationship ender. Same way that someone being a good cleaner and useful around the house is not a good enough trait on its own if you hate every thing else about the person


My rant from last weekend that I forgot: bumped into husbands friend and his wife, got talking about babies as our due dates were very similar. All she did was brag about how wonderful pregnancy and birth was, how she was on the exercise bike in the week before birth… whilst mine wasn’t bad at all I was sick a lot but all this woman did was brag how easy she found it all ‍ this is not something anyone wants to hear. it annoyed me a lot

I had a boss like that. Super perfect everything. Then panicked phonecall from husband to her work friend who spilled to us all the detail.
She had been rushed into hospital and had nothing prepared for the baby, and he was frantic not knowing what to buy for a baby.
She was such a witch of a boss that none of us said anything when she came back to work, but just let's say that we looked at her differently.

 

[BonBon27]

Somehow I always end up being the mum who hosts the get togethers, or organises the trips, or drives to bowling or wherever I’ve had five different kids over at different times that I can think of in the last year or so, and not one of their parents has returned the favour and had my kids over. Like how rude are people?? I would always say “oh we owe so and so a play date” if they have gone anywhere. Not sure how both my kids have managed to pick friends with rubbish parents

 

[emmer_moans]

Someone in my family is being an absolute narcissistic c*** to someone else in my family and is being emotionally manipulative and is showing no remorse or empathy for what he has done. It's like someone I respected has shed their mask and this hideous b*stard has revealed himself. Why are some men absolute c**ts? And because it's family drama it's not some TV soap you can turn off. No, their actions have devastated the family and it's a f*cking mess. I am so angry and feel so powerless because I don't have any money that I can throw at the situation to help alleviate the part of the problem. F*** money, f*** narcs, f*** men in their twilight years who think they can be a Casanova all of a sudden, breaking families and hearts and reputations.

 

[Chocolategoggler]

I hate all this "owing" rubbish. If I want to give someone a lift in my car or have them stay at mine I do it as I want to. I hate the idea of putting pressure on people. So my advice to people is don't do anything you don't want to then you won't need to seethe with rage about not being valued.
I was having such a nice day before I was "triggered".

 

[emmer_moans]

I hate all this "owing" rubbish. If I want to give someone a lift in my car or have them stay at mine I do it as I want to. I hate the idea of putting pressure on people. So my advice to people is don't do anything you don't want to then you won't need to seethe with rage about not being valued.
I was having such a nice day before I was "triggered".

I get this. I am in my 30s and yet still a family member was volunteering me and MY time to run errands for someone else! I kept saying no-can-do, I'm busy. Don't volunteer my time/resources/effort on my behalf without consulting me!

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

I hate all this "owing" rubbish. If I want to give someone a lift in my car or have them stay at mine I do it as I want to. I hate the idea of putting pressure on people. So my advice to people is don't do anything you don't want to then you won't need to seethe with rage about not being valued.
I was having such a nice day before I was "triggered".

It’s kind of common courtesy tho?? Taking things in turn type thing. Like if I take someone to the airport I would expect them to take me if I was not driving myself
But that’s just me. Not everyone is the same and it’s ok
These days everyone is too wrapped up in themselves

 

[LydiaDeetzHat]

I'm trying to learn/perfect the art of overnight oats so I can take them to my new job so I don't need to buy expensive breakfast. Every single recipe online has different oats to liquid ratio/measurements. To complicate the matter I have mislaid my dry ingredient Tala measure and only have a set of cups I managed to find in the local shops. So I can't find out which cup i would be best using or to what the cup sizes equate to in grams,It says it in ml but I am not using them for wet stuff. I dont even know if it is US or UK cups.. assume it's UK from the packaging..

 

[BonBon27]

I hate all this "owing" rubbish. If I want to give someone a lift in my car or have them stay at mine I do it as I want to. I hate the idea of putting pressure on people. So my advice to people is don't do anything you don't want to then you won't need to seethe with rage about not being valued.
I was having such a nice day before I was "triggered".

Feel like that’s aimed at me because I put it in my post….I know not everyone thinks like it, but there is such a thing as taking turns. Not always expecting things to land on one person. They don’t have a moral obligation and I'm not putting any pressure on anyone, I’m ranting about it on an anonymous gossip website, not telling them to their faces they “owe” me. Just think it’s common decency to do things for people that they do for you. I’ve carried on arranging and organising things for my kids, because I want them to have a good time, so clearly I am prepared to do it even if I don’t get it back. I’m a friendly and generous sort. But doesn’t mean I can’t be annoyed at always being the one with a garden full of kids!

 

[FenellaTheWitch]

Feel like that’s aimed at me because I put it in my post….I know not everyone thinks like it, but there is such a thing as taking turns. Not always expecting things to land on one person. They don’t have a moral obligation and I'm not putting any pressure on anyone, I’m ranting about it on an anonymous gossip website, not telling them to their faces they “owe” me. Just think it’s common decency to do things for people that they do for you. I’ve carried on arranging and organising things for my kids, because I want them to have a good time, so clearly I am prepared to do it even if I don’t get it back. I’m a friendly and generous sort. But doesn’t mean I can’t be annoyed at always being the one with a garden full of kids!

When my daughter was at school it was always the same parents that did the arranging and hosting. Some parents wouldn't engage at all but were happy to let you have their kids. It continues as they get older. It was always the same parents that would drop kids off home after some get together. I know because I was one of those parents and it does get frustrating.

 

[Hastaggifted]

My parents are like this when they're not in work and it drives me nuts! If I ever want to go and see them I have to wait until at least 11 and I'm like ????? but half the day is gone?? It's annoying when you're an early bird having to plan your day around people who are not

I'm so glad it's not just me! I like getting out and about early then home for 3/4 ish, its perfect timing to feed and bath the kids
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Just leave him at home? . If he is old enough of course

I have done before but I have to encourage him to get some fresh air into his lungs and to socialise he'll become part of the bed if he lies in it longer than he already does

 

[HaloGirl]

Sadiq Khan. Who the fk does he think he is? I have family that are going to be affected by Ulez. And it won’t stop there, he will go ahead with his pay per mile and whatever other scheme he thinks up and no doubt increase the number of cars falling in the Ulez bracket. And while I am at it, the judges in this country at times make me sick.

 

[LydiaDeetzHat]

Sadiq Khan. Who the fk does he think he is? I have family that are going to be affected by Ulez. And it won’t stop there, he will go ahead with his pay per mile and whatever other scheme he thinks up and no doubt increase the number of cars falling in the Ulez bracket. And while I am at it, the judges in this country at times make me sick.

quite clearly doing this to prop up the tubes...this thing was designed for inner London where loads of gas guzzling cars are gridlocked on the roads not for the leafy boroughs he wants to extend it to that are scientifically proved not to have such a unclean polluted air problem. Purely on the basis of one asthmatic kid whose parent let her play outside near the traffic too often. (and before anyone @ me I am green , eco and sustainable caring about the planet and think there are far too many cars on the road. This will not solve that issue of one person in a car. 4x4s, and people driving short distances like down to the ruddy corner shop etc)

 

[HaloGirl]

quite clearly doing this to prop up the tubes...this thing was designed for inner London where loads of gas guzzling cars are gridlocked on the roads not for the leafy boroughs he wants to extend it to that are scientifically proved not to have such a unclean polluted air problem. Purely on the basis of one asthmatic kid whose parent let her play outside near the traffic too often. (and before anyone @ me I am green , eco and sustainable caring about the planet and think there are far too many cars on the road. This will not solve that issue of one person in a car. 4x4s, and people driving short distances like down to the ruddy corner shop etc)

Whether or not it is to aid the tube there are so many people including my family members who simply cannot afford to replace their cars to comply with ulez. Parking in an area they need to go to for caring duties will mean forking out for ulez as well as expensive parking and the alternative is bus(es) and a train which will reduce the time they get to spend with the other family member. It is ok for Sadiq being driven around in his chauffeur driven car which he doesn’t pay for. He makes me barf! I was hoping the judges would rule against the expansion but they are completely out of touch and no doubt didn't take public transport this morning!

 

[Chocolategoggler]

Feel like that’s aimed at me because I put it in my post….I know not everyone thinks like it, but there is such a thing as taking turns. Not always expecting things to land on one person. They don’t have a moral obligation and I'm not putting any pressure on anyone, I’m ranting about it on an anonymous gossip website, not telling them to their faces they “owe” me. Just think it’s common decency to do things for people that they do for you. I’ve carried on arranging and organising things for my kids, because I want them to have a good time, so clearly I am prepared to do it even if I don’t get it back. I’m a friendly and generous sort. But doesn’t mean I can’t be annoyed at always being the one with a garden full of kids!

No, you're entitled to your rant. I just hate to make people beholden as I've seen it's dire effects e.g. wanting payback for a lift when you're not going out of your way and the person you're offering it to is really struggling.
My mantra is never expect payback for what you offer. Just do it out of the goodness of your heart.
But that said some people take the piss.

 

[LydiaDeetzHat]

Don't suppose we have any legal/HR experts on here? If a role changes significantly from what you were told at interview and before accepting offer and signing contract , would you be in deep shizz if you turned round and withdrew? Reason being my new role yet again (sorry if i sound like a broken record at this stage) I applied for this role because all indications were that this company paid more for the equivalent to my last job. When it came to interview I was told about the role , what it would be, their hybrid working rules , dress code etc.On accepting at offer stage i was aware that the role would be several thousand less then my previous and that the commute would be a lengthy nightmare but I was inclined to suck it up for a year or so (the amount of time they make you wait before applying for another internal role) as I'm told promotion prospects are good and the people seemed ok.

About a week before I am due to start I get informed that I will be working under a different manager/for a different exec than i interviewed with and yesterday I get informed that on my first day I will be informed of dress code, hybrid working rules etc. (Never a good sign when a man wants to tell you about these thing as they tend to be more rigid)I have already checked this with HR prior to signing and they seemed reasonable - 2 days per week in office, rest WFH/hybrid and a fairl smart casual dress code - pretty similar to my previous employer. I cannot afford to buy more clothes or attend more than the minimum (especially not with such a huge wage cut) and I am very wary of the fact that this might be them doing another 180 and shanghaing me into terms i never agreed with that i would not have accepted.Seeing as they have already done me over about who i would be working with. The area is dangerous also as I discovered when doing a recce of office location and definitely not somewhere i feel comfortable when it gets dark later in the year (TBH i feel unsafe during the day).Also the role has changed from what it was described as at interview and become more of a step backwards in my career progression.

I am wondering if i would be within my rights to say the job wasnt what it said on the tin/not what i signed up for and withdraw or if I would be sued for breach of contract

 

[Kim Mild]

My two young children. I told them it was really important they sat nicely and behaved today when we were out and they were worse than ever. I am so disappointed in them , their behaviour was appalling.
They've lost their tablet privileges and I've told them I'm not buying nice treat food for their pudding anymore. I think the 5 year old feels a bit remorse as they are aware they've been reprimanded but the 3 year old says they don't care. They are so bad when they are together, I feel quite broken by them at the minute.

 

[flutternutter]

Don't suppose we have any legal/HR experts on here? If a role changes significantly from what you were told at interview and before accepting offer and signing contract , would you be in deep shizz if you turned round and withdrew? Reason being my new role yet again (sorry if i sound like a broken record at this stage) I applied for this role because all indications were that this company paid more for the equivalent to my last job. When it came to interview I was told about the role , what it would be, their hybrid working rules , dress code etc.On accepting at offer stage i was aware that the role would be several thousand less then my previous and that the commute would be a lengthy nightmare but I was inclined to suck it up for a year or so (the amount of time they make you wait before applying for another internal role) as I'm told promotion prospects are good and the people seemed ok.

About a week before I am due to start I get informed that I will be working under a different manager/for a different exec than i interviewed with and yesterday I get informed that on my first day I will be informed of dress code, hybrid working rules etc. (Never a good sign when a man wants to tell you about these thing as they tend to be more rigid)I have already checked this with HR prior to signing and they seemed reasonable - 2 days per week in office, rest WFH/hybrid and a fairl smart casual dress code - pretty similar to my previous employer. I cannot afford to buy more clothes or attend more than the minimum (especially not with such a huge wage cut) and I am very wary of the fact that this might be them doing another 180 and shanghaing me into terms i never agreed with that i would not have accepted.Seeing as they have already done me over about who i would be working with. The area is dangerous also as I discovered when doing a recce of office location and definitely not somewhere i feel comfortable when it gets dark later in the year (TBH i feel unsafe during the day).Also the role has changed from what it was described as at interview and become more of a step backwards in my career progression.

I am wondering if i would be within my rights to say the job wasnt what it said on the tin/not what i signed up for and withdraw or if I would be sued for breach of contract

If youre in the UK you wont be sued. Just tell them you were misinformed about the job and now its very different to what was originally agreed so sod off

 

[Thank(space)you]

My immune system is tit. I've gone away for a week, going home Sunday. Wish i was home now in my own bed, as I've got really bad thrush & too embarrassed to buy some medication for it. I've also been coughing my guts up for the last few days.

 

[Chocolategoggler]

My immune system is tit. I've gone away for a week, going home Sunday. Wish i was home now in my own bed, as I've got really bad thrush & too embarrassed to buy some medication for it. I've also been coughing my guts up for the last few days.

Live natural yoghurt on a tampon.....