Wedding planning

[101d]

I may not be getting married until 2023 but I bought my bridesmaid gifts today in a valentines sale!

 

[opintionatedperson]

There’s no shame in the game honey! I think it’s a generational thing -people over a certain age think it’s crass to ask for money but most people live together before getting married these days so why do they need stuff for the house?!

We are just saying ‘your presence is a present’ but if you insist on giving us a gift please feel free to contribute towards our honeymoon. If you Google polite ways to ask for money for a wedding you should find some suitable wording.



Really? Can I ask why? I agree that a poem is cringe but think asking for a contribution to a honeymoon in a nice way is fine!

I'm in my early thirties before you think I'm in another generation, also getting married this year just for a bit of background on myself.

Personally I think it's bad taste to put it allude to the fact you want a certain gift you should be grateful that you get anything from your guests as they're spending a lot of money already abeit accommodation / clothes etc for attending your day. I think it's cheeky to ask for cash even though I have never given anything but cash in any wedding I have gone to. Maybe it's an Irish thing but I know if I put in anything about wanting just cash my family would put me down a level and I'd agree with them.

But having said that, what I have learnt in the last few years you do what makes you happy. Don't give a fuck about what other people think. So what makes you happy!

 

[fudgebox]

I have just found the most perfect wedding song! It’s from Lizzie McGuire movie what dreams are made of but it’s Brent Morgan’s version it’s lush! Not sure if it would be best for walking down the aisle (can you even have music instead of the organ for a church wedding?) or first dance! (Not sure if it’s too slow for first dance song if they can even be too slow?)

 

[Holidaybobs]

I’ve not with my partner, but my partner is very picky about his clothes, especially suits and he wouldn’t go for it if it wasn’t perfect!

I will be going with my other half, dreading it because hes sooooo picky

“Apparently” because he wears suits everyday, he want’s it to be special. So he wanted a print on it and trust me, he would not suit a print!

 

[Nikzy911]

I’m getting married in May 2022 at a registry office followed by lunch in the private dining room of a well known prestigious restaurant. Only having 20 people who are literally our immediate family and our best friends.

I’m loving reading everyone’s stories and plans

 

[101d]

My shoes are finished!

Black converse with black glitter all over, black Swarovski on the toes and "Til Death do us part" on the back

 

[shhh1712]

This came up before and I'm probably going to burated for this opinion but I don't care, I'd go out of my way to not give cash in that case I think it's unnecessary

I’ve just told my fiancé and said exactly this, I’d be buying them a candle or something home related. Yes everyone asks for money or gift vouchers but you can’t just write it like that. It will get peoples backs up! Money is always a sensitive issue and you do have to dress it up It’s so easy to go on Google or Instagram and find a saying to ask for money for honeymoon or whatever, no excuses.

Not sure if it’s been asked already, but does anyone have some amazing recommendations for the highest power best ever sucky in knickers. Because I’ve just got my dress back from being adjusted and I can’t stop staring at my fat round belly, it looks like I’m pregnant but I’m not, I feel very self conscious and sad right now. Should of bloody stuck to the diet I know please help

Sorry to hear you’re feeling that way, I go for my first alteration appointment next month and I’m so worried. I also keep thinking why did I go for a dress with the back out I’m wondering if I’ll get them to put some lace or something over it so I’m not as exposed. Let us know how you get on with finding some underwear. I’m thinking I want to do the same but because of the low back I don’t think I’ll be able to as you’ll see them

 

[Giggling Squid]

notice given
wedding rings bought

it’s been a productive day so far. Next stop…. The dress!!

 

[Crb250]

So happy there's a wedding thread!
We're getting married September 2022 in Kos, it's a beach wedding and BBQ for reception with private bar and DJ on the beach. We've been engaged since 2019 but will have been together 8 years by time we get married, we also have a 3 year old daughter. There's going to be around 40 of us for the wedding which suits us perfectly.

Have people bought their dresses? I got mine in September from a little boutique in Yorkshire and I'm in love. Definitely want to lose a few more pounds before the wedding day though, I've lost 19lb in the last year just through portion control and walking more.

 

[Disneylifeonly]

Ordered my bridesmaid dresses.
Got them an absolute bargain. They went on sale. Then had a further 20% off. And then I had a 10% off discount code.
Got all 3 of my bridesmaid dresses for £113.

 

[bellinibobble]

Ordered my bridesmaid dresses today from Wed2b! So reasonable and the girls look so gorgeous so pleased with them!

 

[follyol]

I occasionally dip into mumsnet to read the trending threads and there’s one on there today about child free weddings and people asking for money instead of gifts. The poster said that the wedding they’d been invited to had a little poem to ask for cash instead of presents and everyone was saying how tacky this is.

We were planning to ask people for money towards our honeymoon instead of gifts (if they did want to give us anything) as we’ve lived together for years. I wasn’t going to do a poem as such but how do you communicate that with your guests without sounding like “give me money”?

There’s no shame in the game honey! I think it’s a generational thing -people over a certain age think it’s crass to ask for money but most people live together before getting married these days so why do they need stuff for the house?!

We are just saying ‘your presence is a present’ but if you insist on giving us a gift please feel free to contribute towards our honeymoon. If you Google polite ways to ask for money for a wedding you should find some suitable wording.

If someone asked for cash I'd probably go out of my way to not give them cash.

Really? Can I ask why? I agree that a poem is cringe but think asking for a contribution to a honeymoon in a nice way is fine!

 

[Holidaybobs]

I’m having children but, thankfully there aren’t too many. Our wedding is abroad and most of it will be outside so we’ve got a section purely for the children with an entertainer for a couple of hours then it’s due to be set up as a play tent with a cinema in etc. We’ve hired a nanny for most of the evening too. Honestly, if any parent complains I’ll be showing them the directions to the airport!

 

[Giggling Squid]

I said yes to the dress yesterday! Had zero intention or expectations but actually found the dream dress in the first shop I tried! How's everyone else's dress shopping going?

I’m going on Wednesday…. I hope it goes this well for me!!

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

Guys, what is your opinion on hens parties? I was thinking a weekend away, but I don’t want everyone to have to pay, especially if they don’t want to/can’t afford it.

Maybe a nice dinner and drinks with everyone?

I’m not having a hen party as such, more of a meal and cocktails kind of thing or a spa day. Two of my party (maid of honour and my mum) are disabled and struggle to walk, so I’m planning around them. Also my MOH struggles a lot financially, so I’m probably going to pay for her if we do a spa as I don’t want her to miss out.
To be honest, I don’t like full on drinking seshes anyway so I don’t feel like im missing out.

 

[Begborrowsteal]

What is everyone doing for wedding favours?! I can’t decide if they are a complete waste of time/money or if it will look bad if we don’t get any for our guests! Interested in people’s thoughts…

We're not doing them! Think its a waste of money

 

[witchofwestbyfleet]

My family is originally from Hong Kong and will give money because that's what you do at Chinese weddings. (We're having a western-style ceremony, with a Chinese tea ceremony which is done at weddings.) I wouldn't ask for money from anyone else though. We live together already and have everything we want so instead of a register we requested a charity donation

 

[Lulu Goss]

Just found this thread, I’m off to view potential wedding venues today! 👰🏻‍♀️

Originally we were planning to get married abroad in a few years time. But since having a baby (and not wanting to wait ages to have another) I feel like I just want to do it asap! So now we’re looking at a smaller wedding in this country, hopefully next year

My partner has a huuuuge family, and even though he doesn’t really know a lot of them he feels like he has to invite them. So we’ve decided to have an intimate ceremony with only our immediate families and closest friends, then everyone else will be invited to the evening. I don’t think they will all come either so I’m hoping to keep the numbers still fairly low!

Sorry I haven’t actually read all of the thread yet so this might have already been mentioned, but are you all having children at your weddings? We’ve decided not to (except for our own who will be 2 and my flower girl) - if we did, there’d be 23 of them all under 10! How did your guests react when you told them, did anyone get anyone moaning about it?

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

Is anyone else worried they aren't stressed enough? I keep seeing and hearing that it's so stressful and a friend of mine also getting married next year put up a status on social media warning people not to bother wedding planning because of how stressful it is. And I'm just sat there wondering why it's so stressful and have I missed/forgotten something major

I’m not stressed about it either. I’ve always been a very laid back “what will be will be” kind of person.
Plus, to me, the wedding is about getting to marry my best friend, not about having the perfect flowers, perfect decor etc etc. As long as we get to get married, I’m not overly fussed about every little detail going to plan.

 

[footylass2021]

ive no idea what i want - completely clueless and its impossible to look at the websites as they are all tiny and bout 6ft tall!! i just need to go away and make an appointment -just something i have been dreading is all.

i thought i knew what i wanted this particular style
tried it on and i was like nope doesnt suit me
ended up going for a style that i never even considered
simple lace and elegant