Yes good points
@maytoseptember I wanted to say something on the subject, but you expressed it much better than me.
I do think that autism can be quite hidden especially when children are high functioning, in a way they are also penalised for coping so well,(no one takes them or their parents seriously sometimes) and as you pointed out, masking traits in order to fit in, and be socially acceptable, is quite common.
I also know of all the stress that causes, I see it in my son since he started a special school he is thriving, but at home and in private, I can almost see him decompress and let go of all the accumulated tension.
I have 3 children with ASD and they acknowledge it, but they don't go on about it, or feel sorry for themselves (that's other people's projections)?
I think people forget that it's a spectrum and that every child presents differently?
I agree the stereotyping isn't helpful, and if you've had to fight to access help or a diagnosis, it can feel a bit insulting for people to infer that you're exaggerating or your children don't really have difficulties, yeah I'm not imaging it, or want it to be true so I can claim benefits or humble brag on Facebook.Also I agree that there is a genetic component to it (that I didn't know of initially until I became a parent, I later learnt that I have it myself, but I only found that out by seeing it in my kids).
Society is so behind on this .. ignorance is not bliss but added hardship.
Maybe a minority of parents become over protective or over zealous about educating people,(Been there in all honesty)....but then maybe that's because they feel better being vocal or more visible (inclusive) or acting as an advocate for their family, because society does not have a good track record of being accomodating or helpful to autistic people.
Who often were either misdiagnosed or locked away in institutions, not that long ago and let's not forget Leo kanner and his dubious theory about refrigerator mother's.
So mother's of autistic children can still feel blamed and not taken seriously, and who can blame them?
Although now discredited, the idea that mothers’ behavior is responsible for autism lives on in the social pressure that mothers feel to save their autistic children, at a cost to both the self-blaming parents and people with autism.
journalofethics.ama-assn.org