I know a girl who got with her partner when his ex was expecting his child. She was crazy jealous, tried to stop him seeing the baby and fell pregnant herself within about 6 months. She insisted their baby come first and his relationship with the other child was effectively over. She was an smart, hard working, successful girl with lots of friends and a lovely family. She just went a bit mental on making sure this guy was obliged to be with her (despite insisting he wasnāt obligated to his first child). Tbf they are now 5 years down the line and on their second child. I donāt know about the relationship with the first baby.
Another woman I know, I donāt know if the fella was open to it, but Iāve never met anyone who doesnāt think theirs is a band-aid baby. Again, both had kids from previous relationships, he had a wandering eye (and dick) their relationship was in a poor state and then they had a baby.
It might be crappy to think but that baby was to tame him. And it worked to an extent.
Howeverā¦. It does piss me off when people say āsheās done it to trap himā because it really, really isnāt that easy for most people and itās ignorant to think so.
I was childless at 38, got pregnant quickly into my relationship. I know people thought āsheās rushed it because she was running out of timeā and we did have the conversation that if we wanted kids we ought to start sooner than later but it sort of ignores the fact that I spent the previous 20+ years making decisions not to have a child under the wrong circumstances. As though I was some kind of irresponsible, baby fever woman who hadnāt thought it through.
Anyway, other peopleās pregnancies are one of those things that everyone has an opinion on and none of those opinions are welcome.