I feckin hate that song and even deceased singers (Eva Cassidy) don't make that song appealling to me.
Same for bridge over troubled waters
and also Hallelujah flipping Leonard Cohen/X Factor
- Status
New to Tattle Life? Click "Order Thread by Most Liked Posts" button below to get an idea of what the site is about:
Same for bridge over troubled waters
and also Hallelujah flipping Leonard Cohen/X FactorPersonally I know four. One said in the pub that sheād stopped taking her pill because ātheyāve been together a long time and men are never really ready are theyā. One said it would help her boyfriend see her differently and want to provide for her and live with her. And another two who admitted they thought having a baby with someone would make them want to take the step into marriage as a baby is a bigger commitment. Thatās how I know
I didnāt say men donāt trap women, nor did I say I make that assumption about all unmarried couples. I just replied and said sadly I believe itās actually quite a common thing people do for various reasons. If I can reel off four people whoāve admitted to planning it without their partner then think how many there are whoāve kept it quiet thatās all Iām sayingā¦.
I actually know of someone who tried to ātrapā someone. A friend of mine as it happens, who was with a partner who had several children from a previous relationship and he was adamant he didnāt want anymore. She was besotted with him and had her coil removed with intentions of getting pregnant but didnāt tell him. The child is now a pre-teen, however he left her when the child was less than 6 months old. I know another who would happily tell anyone who will listen that she led her boyfriend to believe she was taking the pill and fell pregnant - said boyfriend didnāt stick around soon after the birth either. Although it is rude to assume, it doesnāt mean it doesnāt happen and it probably is quite common.
I agree, if anything having a child with someone will put an incredible pressure on a relationship
Yeah I get that, I didn't mean to come across as bitchy, I was just intrigued. 4 people out of everyone you know who's ever had a baby isn't that common. I know of a lot of people who have had babies, and although some people have speculated, I have never actually heard anyone say or have proof that someone "trapped" someone else.Personally I know four. One said in the pub that sheād stopped taking her pill because ātheyāve been together a long time and men are never really ready are theyā. One said it would help her boyfriend see her differently and want to provide for her and live with her. And another two who admitted they thought having a baby with someone would make them want to take the step into marriage as a baby is a bigger commitment. Thatās how I know
I never said it doesn't happen, I just hate the phrase, hate how often it is thrown around, hate how disrespectful it is, hate how much it assumes about women, hate how it's never made about men, hate how 95% of the time it's used its people making assumptions and not actually knowing anything on the situation!! Eta and I'm also of the opinion that despite people constantly following up the phrase with "it's more common than you think" (not just on here, it's usually mentioned at some point when someone is speculating this) I don't think it's actually that common at all. That's my UO
Yes definitely ! if there's nothing there to begin with a child won't make it any better ,they'll only focus on the child and not the other person .
I agree it is quite disrespectful because unless someone admits to it, you wouldnāt really know.
A while ago on here someone defended their choice in purposely getting pregnant without their partners consent and agreement. Disgusting tbh
No waaaaaay! Glad I missed that one.
Either way my point still stands. It's a rude comment to make, as the majority of the time it's made its assumption and speculation with no information
ETA Just to be clear I in no way shape or form think its OK to decide you want a baby without discussing it with your partner!
It's just the speculation on people's situations I hate!I think the speculation arises from the fact heās using out screwing around behind her back, She thinks itās love but his actions tell a different story .. heās there for the kid and nothing more .No waaaaaay! Glad I missed that one.
Either way my point still stands. It's a rude comment to make, as the majority of the time it's made its assumption and speculation with no information
ETA Just to be clear I in no way shape or form think its OK to decide you want a baby without discussing it with your partner!
I know a girl who got with her partner when his ex was expecting his child. She was crazy jealous, tried to stop him seeing the baby and fell pregnant herself within about 6 months. She insisted their baby come first and his relationship with the other child was effectively over. She was an smart, hard working, successful girl with lots of friends and a lovely family. She just went a bit mental on making sure this guy was obliged to be with her (despite insisting he wasnāt obligated to his first child). Tbf they are now 5 years down the line and on their second child. I donāt know about the relationship with the first baby.
Another woman I know, I donāt know if the fella was open to it, but Iāve never met anyone who doesnāt think theirs is a band-aid baby. Again, both had kids from previous relationships, he had a wandering eye (and dick) their relationship was in a poor state and then they had a baby.
It might be crappy to think but that baby was to tame him. And it worked to an extent.
Howeverā¦. It does piss me off when people say āsheās done it to trap himā because it really, really isnāt that easy for most people and itās ignorant to think so.
I was childless at 38, got pregnant quickly into my relationship. I know people thought āsheās rushed it because she was running out of timeā and we did have the conversation that if we wanted kids we ought to start sooner than later but it sort of ignores the fact that I spent the previous 20+ years making decisions not to have a child under the wrong circumstances. As though I was some kind of irresponsible, baby fever woman who hadnāt thought it through.
Anyway, other peopleās pregnancies are one of those things that everyone has an opinion on and none of those opinions are welcome.
Another woman I know, I donāt know if the fella was open to it, but Iāve never met anyone who doesnāt think theirs is a band-aid baby. Again, both had kids from previous relationships, he had a wandering eye (and dick) their relationship was in a poor state and then they had a baby.
It might be crappy to think but that baby was to tame him. And it worked to an extent.
Howeverā¦. It does piss me off when people say āsheās done it to trap himā because it really, really isnāt that easy for most people and itās ignorant to think so.
I was childless at 38, got pregnant quickly into my relationship. I know people thought āsheās rushed it because she was running out of timeā and we did have the conversation that if we wanted kids we ought to start sooner than later but it sort of ignores the fact that I spent the previous 20+ years making decisions not to have a child under the wrong circumstances. As though I was some kind of irresponsible, baby fever woman who hadnāt thought it through.
Anyway, other peopleās pregnancies are one of those things that everyone has an opinion on and none of those opinions are welcome.
I detest it as well! Godawful bloody record
Angels is total shite. I detest it.
And Robbie Williams is a talentless wanker
And Robbie Williams is a talentless wanker
Oh, the irony of people on an UO thread complaining that others have opinions 
The mind just boggles
The mind just boggles
I donāt think a man in particular can be trapped into a relationship by having a child.
Yeah, there may be some sort of genetic connection forever because of said child. But ultimately if a man didnāt want to be in the relationship he will walk away regardless if the child exists or not. Sometimes they will even walk away from the child too. Like I say Iāve known this to happen with my friend, the babyās father left around 6 months old and has had absolutely nothing to do with either her or the child for many years!
Yeah, there may be some sort of genetic connection forever because of said child. But ultimately if a man didnāt want to be in the relationship he will walk away regardless if the child exists or not. Sometimes they will even walk away from the child too. Like I say Iāve known this to happen with my friend, the babyās father left around 6 months old and has had absolutely nothing to do with either her or the child for many years!
Awful when that happens. I can't understand leaving your kid & not bothering nor caring
Whatās more ironic is that is was you moaning about other peoples UO in the last thread.Oh, the irony of people on an UO thread complaining that others have opinions
The mind just boggles
Didnāt you get your knickers into a knot over UO on suicide and tasting oneās own breast milk?
Last edited:
Just waiting for the obligatory " are we still talking about that " it's been like 2 pagesOh, the irony of people on an UO thread complaining that others have opinions
The mind just boggles
If I trapped a man, Iām not saying I would but if I did ( had a baby on purpose and he didnāt want one) Iād keep it to myself! Wouldnāt dare tell any of my friends or family, theyād only be talking about me and laughing at mePersonally I know four. One said in the pub that sheād stopped taking her pill because ātheyāve been together a long time and men are never really ready are theyā. One said it would help her boyfriend see her differently and want to provide for her and live with her. And another two who admitted they thought having a baby with someone would make them want to take the step into marriage as a baby is a bigger commitment. Thatās how I know
Some people are fools for being so honest tho
- Status