ADHD gang here too and I agree with you - I've had to cut myself slack and simplify things in my life to make it easier for myself as well as accpeting my limitations with compassion.Her whole new video is shit lol. Sure, it's good to keep trying and have goals, but it's a very idealised and ableist mindset. I have dyspraxia and ADHD, I'm never going to be good at certain things because my brain won't allow it. Sometimes your ability is fixed.
Yeah - I had to discard a lot of the neurotypical 'just do it' advice because...well, it's not that simple when you have ADHD. Completely agree with you!Fr, I have ADHD too and it really effects my life so it really irks me when certain studytubers promote this idea that you can excel at anything if you just put enough work in, and maybe its true, but its going to be a hell of a struggle for the majority of people. It took me a long time to realise that it is far more productive and way less painful, to figure out what your natural skills are and really work on them instead. Thats how you make a success of yourself, not by trying to be perfect at everything
Long term lurker here but had to post to say thanks for this comment. I went through my whole degree undiagnosed with my ADHD and spent so many hours stressed about how I wasn’t able to just “switch on” motivation like studytubers etc portray. I got diagnosed just under a year ago and I still struggle with not feeling productive enough in my full-time job. After a bad few weeks mentally with feeling unsuccessful while working during lockdown, your advice about focusing on natural skills has given me a little boost tonight. Thank you <3Fr, I have ADHD too and it really effects my life so it really irks me when certain studytubers promote this idea that you can excel at anything if you just put enough work in, and maybe its true, but its going to be a hell of a struggle for the majority of people. It took me a long time to realise that it is far more productive and way less painful, to figure out what your natural skills are and really work on them instead. Thats how you make a success of yourself, not by trying to be perfect at everything
I was only diagnosed in my penultimate year of uni and spent so long beating myself up for not being able to 'just do it'. It got to the point where I nearly failed my courses because I couldn't get through a single journal article due to the extreme procrastination and brain fog that so often goes along with undiagnosed ADHD. Not to mention the effects on my personal life and ability to do basic errands. Getting diagnosed and treatment with medication has helped me so much - I still have a lot of bad habits that I have to 'unlearn' but honestly it annoys me how failure and struggling is seen as 'not trying hard enough' by society. I think stuff like 'willpower' and 'discipline' are held up as moral attributes and if you struggle then you're kind of regarded as a failure of a human being, when actually it could be indicative of a neurological deficit.Long term lurker here but had to post to say thanks for this comment. I went through my whole degree undiagnosed with my ADHD and spent so many hours stressed about how I wasn’t able to just “switch on” motivation like studytubers etc portray. I got diagnosed just under a year ago and I still struggle with not feeling productive enough in my full-time job. After a bad few weeks mentally with feeling unsuccessful while working during lockdown, your advice about focusing on natural skills has given me a little boost tonight. Thank you <3
Stumbling upon actual helpful advice on a gossip forum is the realcasual magic here
Part of life is learning to deal and accept failure. Once you deal with it, move forward, and learn from it, it’s often one of the best things that can happen for you. It’s tough but part of life. Preaching that there’s ‘no failures’ is once again one of Jade’s unrealistic world views.Didn't Jade say in older videos that there's no such thing as failure and now shes talking about dealing with failure
Edit: found it
Shes always annoying but shes especially annoying in that video.
And ..... natural ability is absolutely a thing lol? Obviously practise makes you better, but there are many runners who run more the Eulid Kipchoge and still haven't run a sub-2 marathon...
You mean like Juice PlusI don’t like all this “manifest” rubbish, it’s so ableist. Manifest it and it will happen. Believe it and it will happen. Open your mind and it will happen...
I wonder if Jade will ever get a job in the real world, because I cannot see future colleagues putting up with such pep talks all the time. I think however she’ll end up working for a Minerva style business where there will be others of the same schools of thought.
It's called aptitude Jade, maybe write an essay about it sometime...her saying “some people are good at languages” like it was a fake thing... like some people genuinely do have an easier time grasping a language, what is she on about
I am really surprised she hasn;t taken it down/blocked commentsAlso notice how Jade isn’t responding to any of the comments on her Q&A video
Yep I agree, imo there's plenty to criticise Jade on but her little chat on growth vs fixed mindset was actually quite good. Very similar to the mandatory training I underwent as a primary school TA to ensure we were using 'growth mindset' language with the kids (and with ourselves!), because Dwek et al. have done good work in showing a link between using language that reflects a growth mindset and higher attainment/self belief in students.As I have said I do agree with the aptitude thing, but this "I'm not good at languages" tends to be something said by native English speakers (I am one myself). There are VERY few people who are "naturally" good at languages, most people just have to learn languages to emigrate etc. it is difficult for everyone, but if you can learn one language you really can learn another, it is not like the ability to sprint like Usain Bolt for example
Thanks for this. We critique her plenty here but I don't mind this video and I think it'll be helpful for her audience. So many of us grow up with unhelpful mindsets of believing that certain skills, e.g. maths, are 'fixed': that you can either do it or you can't. I think if people want to understand the nuance of what Jade's talking about more I recommend people read Dweck's paper "Is Math a Gift" because it was an epiphany for me. After I stopped thinking about maths as an innate ability, and more like a skill which can be improved through investing time and effort, things got a lot easier. And now I teach the odd stats class despite maths being my worst subject in school.Yep I agree, imo there's plenty to criticise Jade on but her little chat on growth vs fixed mindset was actually quite good. Very similar to the mandatory training I underwent as a primary school TA to ensure we were using 'growth mindset' language with the kids (and with ourselves!), because Dwek et al. have done good work in showing a link between using language that reflects a growth mindset and higher attainment/self belief in students.
At the very top end of achievement, yes, you will be limited by the sum of (natural aptitude + effort made). But for the vast majority of applications it is useful to emphasise effort made, because most people can get to a good level in any given skill if they make an effort. Like emm says about learning languages.
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