Those poor little kids deserve so much better .
Firstly their Dad should be in Ireland, there is absolutely no excuse in my book.
Secondly, 100K know their most private business, that just breaks my heart.
Every child wants to be loved, my tuppence worth is let them have a relationship with their Dad, not because he deserves it but because they do.
Let them meet him, know who he is and go to sleep at night with some warm memories of time spent together. Plan FaceTimes etc. going forward. Let it be the beginning of something positive. I’d much prefer that than them thinking Daddy doesn’t care/exist. When they’re older they’ll thank their Mam and think she was the bigger person and also ultimately know that their Dad should’ve done better.