Thank you so so much! But yes youre right. It comes across very bitter and to say to someones face who youve been best friends with for 10 years "it makes me feel sick thinking of growing a baby", after id confided in her and said my husband has no sperm due to the cancer so we are being brave, (not to mention skint after saving £20k to spend on fertility treatment!), and this is a reaction I get.Sorry to hear about your situation but you sound like you are dealing with it admirably.
I think your partner is right and your friend is probably Incredibly jealous. She might even have been banking on you not having children either and thinking you would have this in common, it may have given her confidence if she had secretly wanted a child and it hadn’t happened. Or she truly does hate children (which is fine) and has secretly harboured these opinions about pregnancy all this time, which is fine but her saying these things at this time is incredibly insensitive. I’m not sure I could be friends with this person. She may come round to the idea if she values your friendship. If not then it sounds like it’s her loss. I wish you all the luck in the world though for your fertility treatments.
It is not something we decided overnight, and the money we have saved most certainly did not happen over night either for gods sake, we are responsible adults in our 30's just wanting to start the family.
So I have decided to ghost the friendship more or less. It kills me and some days I miss the friendship but then I remind myself of what was said and I simply cannot be friends with someone like that.