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instagramloverinlondon
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8 months since my last miscarriage we seem to have got somewhere, its very faint at the moment but hopefully over next few days gets stronger. Hope it doesn't upset anyone. I just wanted to give a bit of hope to those who need it...I dont know that this one will stick. I pray it does,we're 20 months into ttc baby #2 with 2 miscarriages. Hopefully my body can do it this time. Sending you all lots of love xxx
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Motherofpugs
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I’m in shock as I had BFNs yesterday at 9dpo morning and afternoon and then by the end of the day my usual preAF spotting started a bit so I was convinced my period was coming. My temp shot up overnight so I thought I’d test and I finally got my BFP
Everything crossed this one sticks 
JLXRD
VIP Member
Hi all, hope everyone here is doing well and lovely to see some positives 
I am stepping away from TTC until October - I thought I had worked through my losses but turns out I just need a bit more time. I haven’t been on this thread much lately but I just wanted to wish you all good luck
I sincerely hope when I come back, you have all moved over to the pregnancy thread.
I am stepping away from TTC until October - I thought I had worked through my losses but turns out I just need a bit more time. I haven’t been on this thread much lately but I just wanted to wish you all good luck
I sincerely hope when I come back, you have all moved over to the pregnancy thread.
Clickbait
VIP Member
So I tested with a Clearblue early detection test on Saturday morning and I got a BFP! I’m still in shock - I have been waiting so many years for this that it’s overwhelming and surreal. Good luck to everyone still on the TTC journey xThanks for helping ladiesI think I’m just going to have to wait and test again tomorrow. I’ll be pissed if I didn’t drink over Christmas and then again with my friends if it ends up being a false alarm
I’ve read up re: evap lines for anyone who is interested - apparently they usually appear after the time suggested to check the test expires. They are also colourless so appear as almost a shadow.
Hey ladies,
I was on here 4 weeks ago saying that AF was gonna arrive any second and that i was even getting cramps. Also said that my 2 boxes of Proceive had arrived ready to start a new cycle. Well that same day I got my BFP!!
Just home from my 6wk scan and all ok so far thank God
didn't want to say anything till after my scan.
That was my 4th cycle. The only thing I did differently was join a gym (for the sole purpose of conceiving) and sweat my head off doing spinning and cardio. I assume it blew the cobwebs off my body or something coz i conceived 4 weeks later. I am level 0 fitness so any exercise was a jolt to my system.
Wishing ye all the best with your journeys.
I was on here 4 weeks ago saying that AF was gonna arrive any second and that i was even getting cramps. Also said that my 2 boxes of Proceive had arrived ready to start a new cycle. Well that same day I got my BFP!!
Just home from my 6wk scan and all ok so far thank God
didn't want to say anything till after my scan. That was my 4th cycle. The only thing I did differently was join a gym (for the sole purpose of conceiving) and sweat my head off doing spinning and cardio. I assume it blew the cobwebs off my body or something coz i conceived 4 weeks later. I am level 0 fitness so any exercise was a jolt to my system.
Wishing ye all the best with your journeys.
Heyguysswipeup
VIP Member
Update: he just called and apologised for yesterday.. we’re back on ladies! 
DiscoBiscuit
VIP Member
Update:*whispering*
I think I may have a bfpit's still fairly faint, but it's got colour and it appeared within the proper time. I hate blue dye tests but I couldn't get a first response. This is a Sainsbury's own.
Clickbait
VIP Member
It took me and my partner, 14 LONG months to conceive (currently approaching 14w pregnant) and I wanted to reach out to share a little bit of advice of which kept me (semi) sane during the process.
Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.
Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.
People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.
In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.
I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)
Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before fucking off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.
Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x
Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.
Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.
People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.
In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.
I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)
Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before fucking off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.
Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x
sptatnation
Member
I tested again this morning and definitely positive 
I’m obviously excited but cautiously so after my MMC in August x
I’m obviously excited but cautiously so after my MMC in August x
DiscoBiscuit
VIP Member
*whispering*
I think I may have a bfp it's still fairly faint, but it's got colour and it appeared within the proper time. I hate blue dye tests but I couldn't get a first response. This is a Sainsbury's own.
I think I may have a bfp
it's still fairly faint, but it's got colour and it appeared within the proper time. I hate blue dye tests but I couldn't get a first response. This is a Sainsbury's own.
Cooksie
VIP Member
My period arrived today, I was just randomly late it seems 
Ive decided to write three positive things when I get my period :
1. Another month to put a bit of money aside for when it happens since they cost so much!
2. I’m going to see a band I’ve wanted to see in for years this month so now I can book a nice cocktail bar before and have a drink.
3. If we got pregnant next month it will be a January baby and we have no January family birthdays so would slot in nicely!
Haha I know they are stupid but it’s year end in work and I can’t let myself get into a dark space or I’ll never get through it
Ive decided to write three positive things when I get my period :
1. Another month to put a bit of money aside for when it happens since they cost so much!
2. I’m going to see a band I’ve wanted to see in for years this month so now I can book a nice cocktail bar before and have a drink.
3. If we got pregnant next month it will be a January baby and we have no January family birthdays so would slot in nicely!
Haha I know they are stupid but it’s year end in work and I can’t let myself get into a dark space or I’ll never get through it
