I really hope our kids appreciate and love us when they are older after every thing tbey put us through 
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I was just thinking the other day how limitless patience would make me a better mum. It would help everything so much!
I am the worst. I have such an awful temperOh I am just awful, itās one of my worst qualities. I lose my patience so quickly, and my temper too. I hate it about myself and really do try to work on it.
I freaked the whole family out the other day because all the kids were in a mood, it was Monday afternoon which is a big homework day for the older kids, and it always ends up as chaos and Iām shouting. So on Monday I was super calm, and did lots of breathingthe kids were like āwhy are you talking in that weird voice?ā
āThis is me calm and keeping my patienceā
āItās creepyā
my daughter Iām sure is used to me shouting Thank you for the advice everyone. Itās good to know all these things are things others have gone through.
One thing I find hardest is every time we go through a new stage, with our eldest especially or with the babyās constant crying, I honestly think Iāve made a massive mistake and maybe parenthood isnāt for me. I know, as with everything, itās just a season but it just seems so hard and never ending and lonely
One thing I find hardest is every time we go through a new stage, with our eldest especially or with the babyās constant crying, I honestly think Iāve made a massive mistake and maybe parenthood isnāt for me. I know, as with everything, itās just a season but it just seems so hard and never ending and lonely
I think this too, sometimes. That maybe I shouldnāt have had so many kids because then how can I be a good mum, and you know when you have some kids out of the house it seems so much easier dealing With the smaller number? Then I think I should have just had that number of kids. Then I feel awful because if I did obviously the others wouldnāt be here and it seems like Iām saying I donāt want them.
All this in my head. To myself
Iām due my second baby in January and shitting it. Struggling to bond with him as I have my hands full atm and worried how Iāll cope with two. Doesnāt help my daughter really does not want to have a new baby around. Some days I think why did I do it which makes me feel terrible. So youāre not alone with how you feel
its like we are the same person?!!!!!
so just to get it out there and I have NO shame in admitting this. I never wanted kids, I was such a selfish person in my 20s and rightly so. It was all about me and going travelling, partying etc and then I got into a relationship and mini A happened and was there any way I was getting rid of āitā .. NO. I didnāt want a child but at the same time I knew it would be good for me. Prior to mini A being born Iād never even held a newborn, hardly played with kids etc and I feel like you - it was a HUGE shock and change.
I hated the newborn stage, I hated being up every hour, I hated the teething, sleep regressions, I hated how demanding a new born/baby is.. I like motherhood hell of a lot more now and I feel like itās rewarding now sheās nearly 3. She can talk to me, we can play properly together, she can do stuff for herself, itās not as worrying! Donāt get me wrong I swoon over newborns now but I donāt envy them one bit. One and done for me. Iām enquiring about being sterilised as I do NOT ever ever ever ever want another child.
please donāt think parenthood isnāt for you - some people are (imo) are born to be a mum, and just have it naturally and some people (Iād say like you and I), have to really work at being parents and it doesnāt come as naturally to us. Sending hugs, I find some days when all Iāve done is shout and get pissed off at her I think Iām not cut out for motherhood either.. but then weāve just had an amazing week away and Iāve heard is āmummy I love youā with endless kisses and cuddles and then suddenly I remember I must be doing something right.
a final note- āhow lucky are we to be someoneās everythingā
This is what I've always said about newborns. I've always said I hate the newborn stage and people look at me like I'm crazyits like we are the same person?!!!!!
so just to get it out there and I have NO shame in admitting this. I never wanted kids, I was such a selfish person in my 20s and rightly so. It was all about me and going travelling, partying etc and then I got into a relationship and mini A happened and was there any way I was getting rid of āitā .. NO. I didnāt want a child but at the same time I knew it would be good for me. Prior to mini A being born Iād never even held a newborn, hardly played with kids etc and I feel like you - it was a HUGE shock and change.
I hated the newborn stage, I hated being up every hour, I hated the teething, sleep regressions, I hated how demanding a new born/baby is.. I like motherhood hell of a lot more now and I feel like itās rewarding now sheās nearly 3. She can talk to me, we can play properly together, she can do stuff for herself, itās not as worrying! Donāt get me wrong I swoon over newborns now but I donāt envy them one bit. One and done for me. Iām enquiring about being sterilised as I do NOT ever ever ever ever want another child.
please donāt think parenthood isnāt for you - some people are (imo) are born to be a mum, and just have it naturally and some people (Iād say like you and I), have to really work at being parents and it doesnāt come as naturally to us. Sending hugs, I find some days when all Iāve done is shout and get pissed off at her I think Iām not cut out for motherhood either.. but then weāve just had an amazing week away and Iāve heard is āmummy I love youā with endless kisses and cuddles and then suddenly I remember I must be doing something right.
a final note- āhow lucky are we to be someoneās everythingā
it's slowly getting better at 18 months. But I prefer the 2+ ageThe fear of going through the newborn stage is what stops me from having another.
I've always said that if I went back in time and knew exactly how hard raising kids is, I probably wouldn't have had kids.
Dont get me wrong, I love them and wouldn't change them.
But if I knew before them how lonely, stressful, difficult it all is, to the extent it is. I wouldn't have had any.
itās not a bad thing at all to say you hate it! I also get looked at like Iām crazyThis is what I've always said about newborns. I've always said I hate the newborn stage and people look at me like I'm crazy
The fear of going through the newborn stage is what stops me from having another.
I've always said that if I went back in time and knew exactly how hard raising kids is, I probably wouldn't have had kids.
Dont get me wrong, I love them and wouldn't change them.
But if I knew before them how lonely, stressful, difficult it all is, to the extent it is. I wouldn't have had any.
sorry but I love my child, I just hate being up all hours of the night.Iām glad someone agrees with me! Having kids is such a life change and I honestly have no idea how these with 3, 4, 5 kids do it.. do you love night feeds
Once I had one, I was determined to give them a siblingitās not a bad thing at all to say you hate it! I also get looked at like Iām crazy
Iām glad someone agrees with me! Having kids is such a life change and I honestly have no idea how these with 3, 4, 5 kids do it.. do you love night feeds
otherwise I'd have stayed at 1 
I have 4 and a stepson, and in half terms we have 5 children. Iām not sure why I carried on, and I think I still would if my husband hadnāt have Had the snipitās not a bad thing at all to say you hate it! I also get looked at like Iām crazy
Iām glad someone agrees with me! Having kids is such a life change and I honestly have no idea how these with 3, 4, 5 kids do it.. do you love night feeds
Love newborns, 4mths+ can get in the bin. Baby is nearly 10 months and a pain to his 3yo brother. 3 yo oh my goodness, he is a handful, but he is such a little delight. I just love him so much
6yo is lovely, but is getting very rude, 12yo (stepson) has his moments, 13yo. Wellā¦. If I knew how tough theyād be I wouldnāt have had 3 more š« I actually do love night feeds, I know I'm weird but it's lovely special calm cuddles! However I don't love having to function the next day haha, if I could just rest and chill I think I'd be happy doing night feeds forever but when there's a feral 3 year old and housework and life admin etc then it's not so fun.itās not a bad thing at all to say you hate it! I also get looked at like Iām crazy
Iām glad someone agrees with me! Having kids is such a life change and I honestly have no idea how these with 3, 4, 5 kids do it.. do you love night feeds
That said I'm 99.99% sure I'm stopping at 2 because I think I'd lose my damn mind with another one!
I have 4 and definitely want more. With night feeds/wakings you just have to remember they are not forever. And it may sound strange but try to enjoy them, thereās nothing like feeding and cuddling a small baby in the dark quiet of the night. Babies are pure love 
this is why youāve got 4 and Iāve got one and stopping at oneI have 4 and definitely want more. With night feeds/wakings you just have to remember they are not forever. And it may sound strange but try to enjoy them, thereās nothing like feeding and cuddling a small baby in the dark quiet of the night. Babies are pure love
as Iāve said I absolutely hate the newborn stage, right up to atleast 2. If I could skip it all and get to this age my daughter is at now I would.The newborn-2 years stage puts me off ever having anymore. Iāve just got my evenings and some proper night sleeps back haha.all I was thinking during the night feeds was hurry up and finish your bottle Iām dying to go back to sleep
I'm the opposite, love the 0-2.5 stage and then find the douchebag toddler stage a slog!this is why youāve got 4 and Iāve got one and stopping at one
all I was thinking during the night feeds was hurry up and finish your bottle Iām dying to go back to sleep
aww but the 0-2 stage is the best.
As Taylor Swift says
āOh, darlin', don't you ever grow up
Don't you ever grow up
Just stay this littleā
As Taylor Swift says
āOh, darlin', don't you ever grow up
Don't you ever grow up
Just stay this littleā
Definitley with you 100%this is why youāve got 4 and Iāve got one and stopping at one
all I was thinking during the night feeds was hurry up and finish your bottle Iām dying to go back to sleep
Iām definitely one and done here too. I HATED the newborn stage and everything up until around 18 months, my wee boy is nearly two and a half and yeah, heās a toddler so can be a total twit at times but Iād take this stage over the newborn/baby days any day of the week. Having an evening to myself and a decent sleep is way more important to us than having another
but Iād take this stage over the newborn/baby days any day of the week. Having an evening to myself and a decent sleep is way more important to us than having another I always wanted two; then my son was born and I was like, no, weāre one and done! He was actually a really good baby and slept so well - part of the reason I didnāt want another is because I thought weād never get so lucky twice! Now heās almost 3 and I must admit I am tempted to have anotherā¦ somebody talk me out of it. 
My first 2 were amazing sleepers. Slept through from 6-8 weeks they're still amazing sleepers at 4 and 9. We've never really had to deal with tantrums or anything.I always wanted two; then my son was born and I was like, no, weāre one and done! He was actually a really good baby and slept so well - part of the reason I didnāt want another is because I thought weād never get so lucky twice! Now heās almost 3 and I must admit I am tempted to have anotherā¦ somebody talk me out of it.
Naively thought a 3rd would be the same.
Hahahahaha. No.
Her life mission is clearly to make up for the other 2
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